So the marriage is going down the drain....
Been living with my gf and now wife, during her pregnancy and after for the last year and a half... with her mother in law and brother. Mother in law hates me, critical of everything I do.
I know I'm not the best person, I mean I probably neglected my wife during her pregnancy or didn't fulfill everything she wished. She has bipolar and HMS and since the baby, has struggled big time with chronic pain and depression. Ideally she wants to work half day, mornings, so she can look after the baby after that. Also the time would be ideal for her as she really gets exhausted in her current job working till late with kids.
She said she's been shut off to me since before we got married because I said some stupid stuff, which broke her trust... hell I said some stupid things in my time.
Ah well trying to fix things, without actually getting it right... find the mother in law wants me to get a 2nd job, wants me to earn more.... I am now earning more and then I was criticized again for not earning enough, sure a 2nd job... I get home at around 7pm from the first job, my gym activity has gone down the drain because I had to stop that, I was being selfish going to gym 3 to 4 days a week.
Lets not forget, since the wife decided the trust was broken, we haven't been intimate, hold hands, kiss , nothing.... in well over a year... but I care about her and I pay for everything I can afford and want the best for my kid...
We can't afford a place of our own, aside from the fact that I own a flat, a flat won't cater for all her pets... so we need a house with a garden in a decent area for future schooling possibilities.... which I/we cannot afford. So we stay here, with the mother, who has something negative to say about me almost daily.... urgh.... so we had a lot of fights, a lot of threats about moving out and a lot of apologies, lets work things out...
Mother tells me to get out of her house... asap.... we had an argument, so now I'm started packing my things, and the wife is apparently shattered... still showing no emotion, will not say anything like "please don't go" or "get the **** out"... just that when she's quiet, it hurts the most.
My daughter is crying in the background, she's 1, she knows whats going on. The mother is quiet, probably rejoicing on the inside while the family falls apart.....
We both made mistakes, but mine are far worse from what I've heard. Luckily I'm currently bottling up all this anger and pain, hopefully it comes out another day when I'm all alone somewhere.
All the times I wanted to move out with her, start our life, we couldn't because we couldn't afford a place for the dogs..... now she can keep everything, and live with her mother, and i'll be history.
Been living with my gf and now wife, during her pregnancy and after for the last year and a half... with her mother in law and brother. Mother in law hates me, critical of everything I do.
I know I'm not the best person, I mean I probably neglected my wife during her pregnancy or didn't fulfill everything she wished. She has bipolar and HMS and since the baby, has struggled big time with chronic pain and depression. Ideally she wants to work half day, mornings, so she can look after the baby after that. Also the time would be ideal for her as she really gets exhausted in her current job working till late with kids.
She said she's been shut off to me since before we got married because I said some stupid stuff, which broke her trust... hell I said some stupid things in my time.
Ah well trying to fix things, without actually getting it right... find the mother in law wants me to get a 2nd job, wants me to earn more.... I am now earning more and then I was criticized again for not earning enough, sure a 2nd job... I get home at around 7pm from the first job, my gym activity has gone down the drain because I had to stop that, I was being selfish going to gym 3 to 4 days a week.
Lets not forget, since the wife decided the trust was broken, we haven't been intimate, hold hands, kiss , nothing.... in well over a year... but I care about her and I pay for everything I can afford and want the best for my kid...
We can't afford a place of our own, aside from the fact that I own a flat, a flat won't cater for all her pets... so we need a house with a garden in a decent area for future schooling possibilities.... which I/we cannot afford. So we stay here, with the mother, who has something negative to say about me almost daily.... urgh.... so we had a lot of fights, a lot of threats about moving out and a lot of apologies, lets work things out...
Mother tells me to get out of her house... asap.... we had an argument, so now I'm started packing my things, and the wife is apparently shattered... still showing no emotion, will not say anything like "please don't go" or "get the **** out"... just that when she's quiet, it hurts the most.
My daughter is crying in the background, she's 1, she knows whats going on. The mother is quiet, probably rejoicing on the inside while the family falls apart.....
We both made mistakes, but mine are far worse from what I've heard. Luckily I'm currently bottling up all this anger and pain, hopefully it comes out another day when I'm all alone somewhere.
All the times I wanted to move out with her, start our life, we couldn't because we couldn't afford a place for the dogs..... now she can keep everything, and live with her mother, and i'll be history.
