Online affairs

Online chatting can lead on to more serious stuff and in itself can definitely cause a trust break down in a relationship.

Thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become habits. Hence if you are "sexting" women who are not your wife its leading on to something and in and of itself it is not innocent.

Its like saying I go to the store every day and think about stealing a chocolate. I even put it in my pocket but then put it back before I leave but I never steal! If you keep doing stuff like that eventually you will and the whole point is that you clearly want to do it.

That is the issue your wife (or anyone) would take issue, what the act of chatting/sexting other women says that you want more than her and are already experimenting on an emotional level with other women.
 
why am I so ok with my sex life being talked about by other people so much?


like no sarcasm I really am ok with my sex life being discussed like its a news and current affairs thread...
 
No idea why. I should have quoted it. I like this discussion. I'm weird like that
 
I.am.Sam said:
cant discuss something that happens 3 times in the year ...

:p
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For someone that is not used to the scene but very open about my sex life I don't know what is appropriate to discuss about other peoples sex life..
 
Lost my wife this way - Chatted to another woman online and she found out. It's cheating. Whether it was physical or emotional - Stays cheating.
 
AliCatS said:
For someone that is not used to the scene but very open about my sex life I don't know what is appropriate to discuss about other peoples sex life..
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I'd say nothing, unless the other party consents. But in this case it seems Baxteen doesn't mind airing his dirty laundry.
The little attention whore that he is :p
 
Lament said:
And this is why i have trust issues. When woman start hiding their phones or those late night chat sessions with her "friends", somehow i struggle to believe a conversation 2am has anything to do with garden gnomes or cake receipts. I'll rather stay single than going through that siht again.
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This! This is SOOOO true!
 
schuits said:
I'd say nothing, unless the other party consents. But in this case it seems Baxteen doesn't mind airing his dirty laundry.
The little attention whore that he is :p
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LOL somedays it depends on his mood the little voyeur that he is..
 
AliCatS said:
LOL I have a child, it puts so many men off immediately I doubt I will ever be able to find someone again...
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You'd be surprised. I have 2 teenage kids, cancer, a stuffed up chest, thanks to the cancer (well, it's nearly done) and an extemely low self esteem thanks to being with my gay ex for 30 years but I found someone .

Back to the topic of this thread. ....carry on OP, your two lives will eventually catch up to you and it will drain you.......just ask @ant_man how well it works out living 2 lives!
 
EX_mrs_ant_man said:
You'd be surprised. I have 2 teenage kids, cancer, a stuffed up chest, thanks to the cancer (well, it's nearly done) and an extemely low self esteem thanks to being with my gay ex for 30 years but I found someone .

Back to the topic of this thread. ....carry on OP, your two lives will eventually catch up to you and it will drain you.......just ask @ant_man how well it works out living 2 lives!
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Where is ant_man, anymoo?
 
Innocent conversations = ok
Racy conversations = cheating
 
After reading through this thread, it seems that the concensus that this sort of behaviour is akin to cheating. Someone mentioned that this thread was started based on a hidden feeling of quilt, and that hits much closer to home than expected. I suppose sometime one's little inner voice needs to be trusted without too much questioning.

I do however need to clarify something (and I do realise that this will change the OP somewhat) but anyway... The allure of this activity is not so much sexual, sure, as I say the conversions have lead down that path a few times, BUT mainly it is the satisfaction derived from the "out of bounds" nature of the interaction. This obviously cannot be normal? Surely only criminal get an adrenaline rush from doing the wrong things?
 
slayerza said:
.... BUT mainly it is the satisfaction derived from the "out of bounds" nature of the interaction. This obviously cannot be normal? Surely only criminal get an adrenaline rush from doing the wrong things?
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I'd say most of us enjoy doing things we're not supposed to. This doesn't make us criminals.
 
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