parents getting old - emo warning!

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maumau

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my dad died 4 years ago and yesterday evening after a get together i dropped my mom off at her house. as i drove away i looked back at her waving goodbye and noticed how she was a bit slow, had put on weight and that her hair is thinning. she used to be a vibrant beautiful lady full of fun but life is taking its toll. it hit me like a lightning bolt that she's getting old and it was all i could do to stop myself from running back to give her a hug. i'd had a bit to drink so was probably feeling maudlin, but i'm still sad about it today :cry:

p.s. not sad sad - just emotionally sad if you know what i mean.

where do you stand with your parents? are you close to them? do you keep in touch?
 
My dad passed away in May and I am very close to my mom. We talk every other day.

I miss her terribly, all the time, when I am not with her. It's like I have this desire just to be with her all the time. I cannot explain it.

I honestly do not know what I will do when she is no longer around, I cannot even begin to fathom it and I am so scared that it will happen and I will be left anchorless in the world, cos it feels like she is all that I have.
 
My parents aren't what I consider old, but I am greatfull that we as a family all have good relationships! I'm not sure how people get by without family(whether it be blood or not)! I'm very greatfull for my family and enjoy the time I spend with them, I think most people realize this to late in life! Spend time with them while you can and enjoy it!
 
Know it all to well.
My Old lady has had MS for the past 15 odd years.
She is in an Old Age home and is bedridden been like that for the past 2 years.
We always wish we could turn the clock back old man is on his 3rd wife.
 
My father passed away two years ago, my mother is going strong though, enjoying her youngest grandson.

Time passes, there is nothing one can do, once you accept that, you will enjoy each other more.
 
My mom had a stroke ten years ago and is mentally alert but paralized and cannot talk, my dad takes care of her, they live in the bush (Komatiepoort) far from us in Cape Town.

We flew my dad down and my younger sister flew up to take care of my mom while my dad visited, (when I had my strokes recently).
My dad is getting old, and he is a small wiry man, and I bought him a laptop and a Vodacom internet dongle and gave him Win7 lessons, before he left, he is on facebook now, but does not use it often.

I worry a lot about their situation, my dad is taking hard strain from taking care of my mom, and she is three times his weight.
 
wrathex said:
My mom had a stroke ten years ago and is mentally alert but paralized and cannot talk, my dad takes care of her, they live in the bush (Komatiepoort) far from us in Cape Town.

We flew my dad down and my younger sister flew up to take care of my mom while my dad visited, (when I had my strokes recently).
My dad is getting old, and he is a small wiry man, and I bought him a laptop and a Vodacom internet dongle and gave him Win7 lessons, before he left, he is on facebook now, but does not use it often.

I worry a lot about their situation, my dad is taking hard strain from taking care of my mom, and she is three times his weight.
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Its very hard seeing a parent like that. My dad is in the same shape, also had a stroke and is paralyzed but knows exactly what's going on around him. Heartbreaking how hard life can get.
 
My parents are getting old too especially my dad who`s losing weight and turning grey :(
Fortunately they don`t have any serious medical conditions.
I look back at a few years ago and get pissed at myself for being a spoilt brat
but at least it isn`t too late for me to fix things

Life hurts.A lot... but we must persevere
 
A few of us are in the same situation. the good thing is that strong ties still exist in our families so we're lucky. Wrathex and Blu, I absolutely relate and also dread what life will be like without my Mom around. Getting old is not for sissies.
 
maumau said:
my dad died 4 years ago and yesterday evening after a get together i dropped my mom off at her house. as i drove away i looked back at her waving goodbye and noticed how she was a bit slow, had put on weight and that her hair is thinning. she used to be a vibrant beautiful lady full of fun but life is taking its toll. it hit me like a lightning bolt that she's getting old and it was all i could do to stop myself from running back to give her a hug. i'd had a bit to drink so was probably feeling maudlin, but i'm still sad about it today :cry:

p.s. not sad sad - just emotionally sad if you know what i mean.

where do you stand with your parents? are you close to them? do you keep in touch?
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I know that feeling - my dad passed passed away 35 years ago and my mom is now just over 70 - still completely vibrant and active.

Next time you have that feeling, turn back and just give her a hug.
 
Good advice indeed. After this episode i'm going to pay her more attention.
 
I'm so lucky to still have both my parents, but it breaks my heart sometimes to see how old my Dad is looking :cry:
 
My Dad died a few weeks ago (pancreatic cancer) and my Mom went through 6 months of hell watching him fade away. When I last saw her, I was horrified at how the experience has taken a toll on her. She's lost so much weight and is an emotional wreck. We're in CT, she's in KZN. Which makes it difficult to be there for her when she needs me (phonecalls just don't cut it). Makes me very sad.
 
maumau said:
she's getting old and it was all i could do to stop myself from running back to give her a hug.
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Next time do it ..
I'm in my 60s, and my Dad is still alive and will be 91 later this year .. he lives now overseas, with my Mom (89 and still kicking up a storm).
I went to see them last year and it broke my heart when I said goodbye to them, as it's unlikely I will be able to afford to fly back over there now I'm retired.
I'll probably never see either of them again. But ... we video Skype a lot, and I'm very proud of my (very ..) old man for learning to use all that skype 'new-fangled PC stuff' :D
 
Chances are that my grandfather (who is 84) will outlive my dad. My granddad is still in a very good condition (well how good can you be at that age) and my father suffers from severe heart conditions (thanks to a life time of smoking and drinking, pneumonia etc). Both my parents are still alive, my biggest fear is having to take care of them one day and that I might not be in a position to do so.
 
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