Porn and your brain.

buyeye said:
I would say so , try keeping busy with work when the forum is slow because you will prolly get bored with those and look for newer pics.

So not a good idea.
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Yea i guess so! Its a really interesting topic! The thing is from my point of view, i dont really know if its bad!? I have a girlfriend, our relationship is what i would call pretty normal, ups downs, lefts rights!

While i KNOW i do waste time with it, its time i would have wasted doing something else anyways! Yes maybe i could have rather been reading something interested, but its not making me skip class, stopping me from learning, making me abuse anyone etc. I would say i have a rather high drive (im only 22, ready to go always haha) im rarely ever stressed... Its just not something i do, its a waste of time and i work far better under pressure! (Busy with my honours in Acc towards CA) SIDENOTE:Write exams in a week and a half, basically only started learning now even though ive been on break for a week and a half, maybe a dumb move but i physically struggle to sit down and concentrate if there is no pressure!

On the other hand my GF stresses like there is no tomorrow and is often busy during the weeks with uni work etc! I would say this partly effects her drive and i would put her on medium to low end. This kinda leaves a gap between me and her and i use it to half fill this void. As said before the other part is when im bored....

Does it effect our relationship? I have no idea, ive never been totally free? obviously been long periods where ive gone without it, sometimes a month or so! Never been totally free though! I know for a FACT that it doesn't effect my performance, but other areas? Maybe! It would be an experiment, so i may give it a shot!
 
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Freakster it's actually a self perpetuating phonomina it starts with mild interest or boredom but you find that it becomes a habit that you get used mastubating on a regular basis whereas if you didn't start watching porn then you woildn't get aroused.

Your sexdrive would be normal or on par with your girlfriends one.

There is also the influence of the media which I'll prolly add to thread this evening.
 
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ChocolateBadger said:
Stigma Stigma Stigma. If you have an addictive personally, you may get addicted to porn. I agree with every sexologist out there, sex/porn addiction only becomes a problem if it effects your life negatively. Eg. Missing work, sexual harassment stuff like that.
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porn has also been very beneficial for some people, it serves as a substitute for something they'd go out looking for
 
smalltownsky said:
porn has also been very beneficial for some people, it serves as a substitute for something they'd go out looking for
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Please take this in the way it's intended which is constructive.

There are better alternatives. Like using that energy with work or volunteer services .
 
buyeye said:
Please take this in the way it's intended which is constructive.

There are better alternatives. Like using that energy with work or volunteer services .
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Sexual relations between colleagues are frowned upon at my workplace.
 
It's hard to tell if any women have posted on this thread, which is an interesting fact all on it's own :D
For my part I have nothing against porn - if my partner wants to read a hustler or watch a porn movie, power to him - it doesn't make me feel like there's something wrong with me and that he NEEDS the visual stimulation to get it up for me. What I do have a problem with however is child or animal porn.
 
Calina said:
It's hard to tell if any women have posted on this thread, which is an interesting fact all on it's own :D
For my part I have nothing against porn - if my partner wants to read a hustler or watch a porn movie, power to him - it doesn't make me feel like there's something wrong with me and that he NEEDS the visual stimulation to get it up for me. What I do have a problem with however is child or animal porn.
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cool but there definitely comes a time when a woman feels a sense of betrayal when a man is watching porn behind her back and beating his stick.
What's your thoughts about this ie doing it when you're not around?
 
DrYes said:
cool but there definitely comes a time when a woman feels a sense of betrayal when a man is watching porn behind her back and beating his stick.
What's your thoughts about this ie doing it when you're not around?
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If I happen to be away and he has an urge - I rather he beats his stick than sticks it somewhere else.
 
buyeye said:
Freakster it's actually a self perpetuating phonomina it starts with mild interest or boredom but you find that it becomes a habit that you get used mastubating on a regular basis whereas if you didn't start watching porn then you woildn't get aroused.

Your sexdrive would be normal or on par with your girlfriends one.

There is also the influence of the media which I'll prolly add to thread this evening.
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Interesting, I'll definitely read what ever you post!

Just to clarify, you are saying my sex drive would drop if I was not watching? I do get the habit part!
 
Freaksta said:
Just to clarify, you are saying my sex drive would drop if I was not watching? I do get the habit part!
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Just the opposite of what Gary Wilson would claim. So you see, some claim the harm is that it increases your sex drive, others claim it reduces your sex drive.

buyeye said:
Freakster it's actually a self perpetuating phonomina it starts with mild interest or boredom but you find that it becomes a habit that you get used mastubating on a regular basis whereas if you didn't start watching porn then you woildn't get aroused.

Your sexdrive would be normal or on par with your girlfriends one.
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So then sex must have the same affect. The more you have the more you'll want and it'll just go through the roof. Why doesn't it then work the same for women?

buyeye said:
There are better alternatives. Like using that energy with work or volunteer services .
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Yes, let's avoid all fun. It's a waste of valuable energy.

Cloud said:
Last year I met a girl who I am going to marry in November. I used to use porn as a substitute for sex and to avoid promiscuity but noticed that it affected me more than I realized when I started spending time with an actual person as opposed to digital fantasies.

Been porn free since about September last year and I must say it truly has improved my life in all aspects. I have "rebooted" my brain to respond to normal stimuli and I am far less cranky and moody than I used to be. Quite a strange feeling knowing that I have been a slave to porn in one form or the other since about the age of 16.

It was hard at the beginning, but with someone to support and help you through the rebooting process it is really worth considering if you were like me.

Just my 2c.
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Even if you hadn't changed at least two things at the same time it would be hard to necessarily attribute any change to a particular element. You might still have been moody and cranky without ever having seen any porn. You might have become less so when having a girlfriend.
 
I did it! 90 days no fap! Not noticing any really benefits though, except my willpower is pretty strong now :D
 
The only problem I find with porn is that its is an uphill climb. The porn you need to get off becomes more and more intense and hardcore. This I think is the problem.

It makes it hard to get turned on by normal sex with the gf or wife.
 
I just quit as well after watching that video. Gone about 2 days without looking at porn or having a fap.. deleted all my porn as well. Will report back on how it goes.
 
Rosaudio said:
I just quit as well after watching that video. Gone about 2 days without looking at porn or having a fap.. deleted all my porn as well. Will report back on how it goes.
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Post in the self help thread.
 
KaladinStormblessed said:
The only problem I find with porn is that its is an uphill climb. The porn you need to get off becomes more and more intense and hardcore. This I think is the problem.

It makes it hard to get turned on by normal sex with the gf or wife.
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why would you evr want normal sex? :p
 
Funny how that "Your Brain on Porn" site presents only one side of the argument. It's almost like they have some sort of agenda.
 
I know of a few marriages that where broken by porn screwing the mans head around. It creates expectations and is often very "extreme forms" of sex and men then demand their wives perform to the level of the professional actors doing it on their monitor. Also they tend to compare their wives to the airbrushed and professionally make-upped artists and get disappointed that their wife who's body has given birth too two children already does not look as firm as his favorite porn star. Seriously, I know that for some people porn may not have much of an effect, but for many it does actually damage your odds of having a normal long term relationship. Thing is people don't realize this when they are young and porn is so alluring. Its later on when you have been married a few years and neither you or your wife is 25 anymore and the wife is struggling to loose the baby weight and get a decent night's sleep that it will catch up to you. Hence I am mostly against porn as evidence seems to indicate that in the long run its overall affect is negative on preserving marriages. Also there is a chance you could get addicted to it like David Duchovony and it screws up your relationship and eventually your marriage.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
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I thought you were Indian :D:D Kidding please do not RBP me :erm:
 
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