Relationship Advice

Pho3nix said:
Would have created another username but that's way to much admin.

So there is a girl I've kinda been seeing. Went on a couple dates, weekend away but we never spoke about being official and all that jazz.
Really cool young lady and a great friend too.

So I was chatting to my sister about something that occurred that apparently I made a blunder with. After our weekend away(her birthday weekend as well), she went home ie. she left GP for the month.
We spoke for a couple days but we both got a tad busy with parties and family commitments so we regaled to sms's every now and again.

I went to CPT for a couple days and hit her up sporadically and when I did return we spoke but noticed she was always busy so I told her to let me know when she was back in JHB.
Noticed it's been over a week and she still isn't in GP but my sister says that I should have at least called once in all that time or something or other to let her know I'm still interested.

Now I'm no guru at relationships but isn't a relationship of any sort a two way street and if you want to talk to me you hit me up? Not really into games and all those games girls play and thought by going out with an older lady the games would end but did I just get myself into a bigger problem?

Any advice?
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Your lack of communication is the reason she is too "busy" to see you. Always , always stay in communiction with someone you are interested in. She might think that you just wanted a dirty weekend away and now that its over you are not interested.

Give her a call and explain the situation to her honestly. Or better yet, go see her!
 
Also remember all the effort you make is never enough. I mean like she made an effort once and now I apparently never make an effort :wtf: Women :p

Phone her up and say you booked a table at some place for the two of you.
 
Korn1 said:
she probably feels as if she is just some fling.
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Perhaps I find the wrong girls, but it seems girl nowadays only want to fling

EDIT : Not that this has much to do with the topic ... just a comment on the above
 
Maybe my push-pull "sense" is off in this regard but I'll definitely give her a call today.
 
Pho3nix said:
Would have created another username but that's way to much admin.

So there is a girl I've kinda been seeing. Went on a couple dates, weekend away but we never spoke about being official and all that jazz.
Really cool young lady and a great friend too.

So I was chatting to my sister about something that occurred that apparently I made a blunder with. After our weekend away(her birthday weekend as well), she went home ie. she left GP for the month.
We spoke for a couple days but we both got a tad busy with parties and family commitments so we regaled to sms's every now and again.

I went to CPT for a couple days and hit her up sporadically and when I did return we spoke but noticed she was always busy so I told her to let me know when she was back in JHB.
Noticed it's been over a week and she still isn't in GP but my sister says that I should have at least called once in all that time or something or other to let her know I'm still interested.

Now I'm no guru at relationships but isn't a relationship of any sort a two way street and if you want to talk to me you hit me up? Not really into games and all those games girls play and thought by going out with an older lady the games would end but did I just get myself into a bigger problem?

Any advice?
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You cheating scum! I thought we were going to go on a date this weekend. Now you can stick it!
 
IMO he did everything right. You can't force your cock down her throat though (well you CAN but I assume you're not the type)

It's very humiliating for the guy to keep chasing the woman if there's absolutely no willingness from her side to start a conversation or say hi etc

It's not 1915 anymore

She probably friendzone'd you dude, move on
 
Send a text. If she replies with 'k', she's not interested.
Or be upfront and ask her if she's interested or not

(disclaimer. never take relationship advice from me. foreveralone.jpg)
 
wikk3d88 said:
Send a text. If she replies with 'k', she's not interested.
Or be upfront and ask her if she's interested or not

(disclaimer. never take relationship advice from me. foreveralone.jpg)
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That usually indicates that they are pissed off at you :D
 
Is she originally from CT? Send me her number, I'll call her for you, hell I might even know her.

That's the kind of friend I am, helpful and what-what
 
Like it or not, most girls want to have their cake and eat it. At least in the beginning. They want to be treated as equals, but want you to open the car door for them. They want to have an equal standing in the household, but you must bring them flowers. (Which would be fine if they brought you a sex pack of bear every now and then) [Haha Freudian slip, I am leaving that there] . :D

Sure we can say that it is a 2 way street. But the hard reality is that in the beginning, guys have to put in 75% of the effort. Phone her a few times, but with enough of a gap that she misses you. So that she might be prompted to call you. Once you hit proper relationship status, it is easier to explain your position.

Also, sex is a different kettle of fish altogether with women. If you go away for a weekend with a girl, and bang like crazed rabbits. You phone her at some point, preferably the end of the next day if you are playing it cool. If you want to be a complete dick, then phone her 2 to 3 days later. If you want to be left outside in the cold, don't phone for a month.
Regardless of how busy you were, banging and then no contact is inexcusable unless you intend to send her the message that it meant diddly squat.
 
wikk3d88 said:
Send a text. If she replies with 'k', she's not interested.
Or be upfront and ask her if she's interested or not

(disclaimer. never take relationship advice from me. foreveralone.jpg)
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1) "k" isn't usually an indicator. People think they're clever by shortening/saving time in text (whereas the poor sap reading the **** takes longer to read/comprehend what they say). It's evolved and can mean many things, usually just "k" depending on the context.

2) If you want her to run for the hills, be upfront and ask her if she's interested or not. I haven't had ANY good come off of a relationship that started with the "serious" talk. He either knows she is interested, or he knows she's not. There's no middle ground.

If she was interested, it would show. She would contact him. It would be a 2 way street. My money is on "friendzone'd" and/or met some other guy.

I seriously wouldn't waste any time or emotion on her unless she can step it up and show some interest back
 
SoulTax said:
Like it or not, most girls want to have their cake and eat it. At least in the beginning. They want to be treated as equals, but want you to open the car door for them. They want to have an equal standing in the household, but you must bring them flowers. (Which would be fine if they brought you a sex pack of bear every now and then) [Haha Freudian slip, I am leaving that there] . :D

Sure we can say that it is a 2 way street. But the hard reality is that in the beginning, guys have to put in 75% of the effort. Phone her a few times, but with enough of a gap that she misses you. So that she might be prompted to call you. Once you hit proper relationship status, it is easier to explain your position.

Also, sex is a different kettle of fish altogether with women. If you go away for a weekend with a girl, and bang like crazed rabbits. You phone her at some point, preferably the end of the next day if you are playing it cool. If you want to be a complete dick, then phone her 2 to 3 days later. If you want to be left outside in the cold, don't phone for a month.
Regardless of how busy you were, banging and then no contact is inexcusable unless you intend to send her the message that it meant diddly squat.
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Could you please explain what this is, sounds very interesting. Maybe in a new thread don't want to derail this one.

EDIT: Nevermind missed the freudian slip part. :(
 
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