I am a complete mess at the moment, a few weeks back my fiancé informed me that he doesn't love me anymore. Since then my life has been a roller coaster of emotions, one moment he loves me, next day he's not sure. He then tells me he wants us to work on things, I must just give him some time. What should I do? How do I fix the broken relationship?
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Relationship Advice?!?!?!?
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medicnick83
Paramedic
It's called a broken relationship for a reason... it's broken.
Ridolfc
Expert Member
If you are female, I'll be your rebound guy 
Zewp
Banned
Oh no.
Oh nooooooo
Oh nooooooo
Musiclover08
Senior Member
I think go ahead and work on what is causing problems. The best way to fix it is to work on it! That being said, at this moment you are vulnerable to suggestion, which is dangerous. Remember that all decisions should benefit you both and that you/him are not always at fault.
Also, there should be a time limit where if things have not been worked out, it should be best to leave this relationship. Be slightly generous but if you can see things will not work, don't prolong it
Pitbull
Verboten
Break it off now. It's not going to work. Distance yourself as far as possible and move on.
Pitbull
Verboten
The pain will be very deep and very raw. But no use trying to salvage something already past it's sold by date. You will get through the pain and you'll find someone that loves you as much as you love them. Just let it go.
TheMightyQuin
Not amused...
Datura
Captain Faptastic
cerebus
Honorary Master
Gotta be honest, my first instinct is to go with mightyquin on this.
sit down and talk like adults.
honestly, try and remove the idea of love that has been lost.
talk about things you both enjoy doing, just talk. get your heart on the table and allow him to get to that point as well.
when you have connected as friends again and your minds are straight the real reason will come out. then you can work on the problem in the relationship.
from my experience, I have hit that point twice in my life.
The one time was when I cheated on a girl, I realised there was no point in the relationship, but I was not secure enough to admit to my fault, this lead to the relationship dragged on for another 2 years and me cheating more.
The other time it was 100% me getting cold feet, I was having major doubts in myself and the relationship. I did a bit of soul searching, cleared out my head, spoke to my best friend and to my brother, after that, when I got myself together, I sat down with her and told her what I went thought, our relationship got stronger after that.
honestly, try and remove the idea of love that has been lost.
talk about things you both enjoy doing, just talk. get your heart on the table and allow him to get to that point as well.
when you have connected as friends again and your minds are straight the real reason will come out. then you can work on the problem in the relationship.
from my experience, I have hit that point twice in my life.
The one time was when I cheated on a girl, I realised there was no point in the relationship, but I was not secure enough to admit to my fault, this lead to the relationship dragged on for another 2 years and me cheating more.
The other time it was 100% me getting cold feet, I was having major doubts in myself and the relationship. I did a bit of soul searching, cleared out my head, spoke to my best friend and to my brother, after that, when I got myself together, I sat down with her and told her what I went thought, our relationship got stronger after that.
Stevi
Expert Member
RandomHero is that you? 
RandomHero is that you?
lol
RandomHero is that you?
Possibly his crazy gf which has now turned into his fiance?
I am not ready to just give up on this relationship
Pitbull
Verboten
Then a thread on the internet is not going to help you.
You made this thread as you wanted people to confirm what you already expect. IT's OVER.
Either accept that or suffer by your own chosen fate. Simple as that really.
Zewp
Banned
You're not going to get the answer you want here.
Even if you 'fix' the relationship now, what's to stop him feeling like that in 10 years, then cheating on you with his secretary, getting her pregnant and destroying your family?If he has doubts about whether he loves you before your marriage, then he will have those same doubts after the marriage.
Marriage is not a magic "fix-all" remedy for broken relationships.