Relationship Dilema

The first practical issue I see here is that Lady ?L? might have given up her lease/rent/home already. The least you should be doing is to assist her in finding somewhere else to stay, whilst ensuring that your mistake doesn't place a financial burden on her.

If I had given up my place to move in with someone and they told me last minute I couldn't I would be seriously peeved.
 
Lady Gaga:

"Luck and intuition play the cards with Spades to start
and after he's been hooked I'll play the one thats on his heart"

LMFAO! :D
 
PhreakBoy said:
The first practical issue I see here is that Lady ?L? might have given up her lease/rent/home already. The least you should be doing is to assist her in finding somewhere else to stay, whilst ensuring that your mistake doesn't place a financial burden on her.

If I had given up my place to move in with someone and they told me last minute I couldn't I would be seriously peeved.
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EffKay said:
See a psychiatrist.

You have Attachment Disorder.
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Thanks. Yes I know I have attachment issues. No Lady G has not given up her current place. So I guess it is time to bite the bullet and do what is right by Lady G and tell her the truth:sick:
 
bex.cpt said:
For once I am NOT or at least trying not too:rolleyes:
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First off, your problem is psychological. If I didn't assume you were a dude I would've immediately labeled you as a girl. (Between the ages of 16-24)

The reason for this is simple, it takes more or less 6-8 months for the "honeymoon period" to be over. The lust then goes away and *should* turn into love (6-8 months is pushing the boundaries)

So then you decide to move on. This indicates you're thinking with your genitals. Before jumping in cock first (excuse the language), why not get your brain (the part in your skull) to help you think things through emotionally before you stick it in so to speak. You are going through a divorce... with who? a 3rd woman?

You also obviously do not think before you speak. You let your 2nd brain take over. When you went to Lady Gaga to tell her you can't see each other anymore because you don't feel the same way, your "pity" emotion flared up triggering you "OMG what if I can't bone her anymore" emotion because you're unsure (for the first time in a while it seems) if the other lady that you "love" will be with you or not. So then you turn it into a commitment instead of breaking up and being honest.

You obviously do not do so well in a face-to-face situation because of brain #2 and your inability to think logically while emotions (and fear) runs wild.

I'd recommend writing a letter. Not an e-mail. Give that letter to her in a face-to-face situation and ONLY speak after she's read the whole thing. You then have the opportunity to do the whole face-to-face thing and get it over and done with without little mr.bex coming up with his schemes of being able to bone 2 girls at once "just in case" **** doesn't work out.

I hope you're more mature than the 21-25 category I'm placing you in.

Also, I would say that you do not love Lady L. You lust after her. Lust is a pretty strong emotion capable of screwing with your mind making you believe you're in love with her. I could go into the psychological aspects of why this is but I'm not sure you'd understand entirely. It is very difficult with someone "in love" to take advice from someone else.

As an example, one of my friends said I should dump my ex because I wouldn't be able to come back from a situation like that. He was right. I was wrong. Stuff gets confusing on how people react.

Drop both of these women.

Try being single (and by single I mean DO NOT STICK YOUR PENIS IN SOMEONE ELSE!) for 2 years at least. Try to separate your emotional need for satisfaction and having the "in love" feeling with the real love feeling.

I go through an exercise where I say to myself "I just got castrated accidentally, she got old, would I still want to be with her?"

I can tell within the first 2-5 minutes if the girl I want to bone would be the girl I won't mind boning when we're both old and wrinkly. Love <> Lust. Learn it. Love it. Live it.

And like I said. Think before you speak, because you obviously don't, so refer to my letter writing method (NOT EMAIL)


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And I'm pretty sure you'll grow tired of Lady L and do the same **** over and over again...
 
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Im still trying to figure out if he's married to a third person.....??

Dude that's quite a hole you have dug for yourself. Try honesty?
 
AcidRaZor said:
First off, your problem is psychological.
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I had the shivers whilst reading your post.

I stand in awe...(and nearly in tears) as I have understood exactly what you are saying. I hope this harsh, but brilliant, advice does not go unheeded...

+10 Respects.
 
making_hay said:
Im still trying to figure out if he's married to a third person.....??

Dude that's quite a hole you have dug for yourself. Try honesty?
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He can't, because he feels sorry for the woman... then he (probably) wonders *what if* it doesn't work out with Lady L, and then immediately his tiny brain is like "but no one else would let you stick it in them, so lets keep Lady G around!"
 
Dixie said:
I had the shivers whilst reading your post.

I stand in awe...(and nearly in tears) as I have understood exactly what you are saying. I hope this harsh, but brilliant, advice does not go unheeded...

+10 Respects.
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Only 10? I wonder how much I would've got if I actually went into detail :p
 
All of this is a case of wanting what you cannot have.

You couldn't have Lady L so you wanted her most.

She rejected you so you fell into the arms of Lady G. Unfortunately you could have her, so you didn't really want her. You said to her that she couldn't have you as your heart was elsewhere, so she wanted you.

You caved in to Lady G's advances. As a result of this you were now not available to Lady L so she came running back to you.

The problem with all of this is why did Lady L not want you when you were available?

My view... once she has you, she will no longer want you any more!
 
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making_hay said:
Im still trying to figure out if he's married to a third person.....??

Dude that's quite a hole you have dug for yourself. Try honesty?
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Ænema said:
Me too. :confused:
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YES I am married to a 3rd party (will be over in less than a month)

AcidRaZor said:
He can't, because he feels sorry for the woman... then he (probably) wonders *what if* it doesn't work out with Lady L, and then immediately his tiny brain is like "but no one else would let you stick it in them, so lets keep Lady G around!"
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No I do not want to keep her around as a back up she deserves more and better.
 
LancelotSA said:
All of this is a case of wanting what you cannot have.

You couldn't have Lady L so you wanted her most.

She rejected you so you fell into the arms of Lady G. Unfortunately you could have her, so you didn't really want her. You said to her that she couldn't have you as your heart was elsewhere, so she wanted you.

You caved in to Lady G's advances. As a result of this you were now not available to Lady L so she came running back to you.

The problem with all of this is why did Lady L not want you when you were available?

My view... once she has you, she will not longer want you anymore!
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The thought has crossed my mind. I guess a some alone time is needed.
 
bex.cpt said:
YES I am married to a 3rd party (will be over in less than a month)



No I do not want to keep her around as a back up she deserves more and better.
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D-amn! :eek:

This makes me realize how boring and normal my life is...thank goodness!
 
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