Relationship with a dying person...

[ponder]

For myself, it's very rare to hear of a case of cancer in a young adult where the doctors have given up so easily, i.e. when the patient has one or more years to live ...

Pancreatic cancer is pretty quick & deadly as far as I'm aware.

 

[lived666]

If you were dying would you not want to bang someone before its all over ?

I know I would.

there wont be much banging when the pain and cancer get too severe. I have lost in the last few years two family members to cancer and their last 6 months were not that great.

On the other hand from the moment we are born we are dying so if she is healthy now...actually this reminds me of some movie I watched last year, the name will come to me, I think it starred Anne Hathaway

Yeh, google tells me its "Love and Other Drugs"

 

[Johnone]

OP reminds of the Nicholas Spark book, A Walk to Remember. Maybe you should give it a read. Might give you a different perspective. Might make you want to make her last moments memorable. Might change your life.

 

[Nocturnity]

Watch this: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1440161/

 

[guest2013-1]

Explore your feelings for her without the thought/idea behind it that she has cancer or that you want to comfort her. If she's the perfect mix then enter into a relationship with her and just have fun. Live in the now. Fall in love. Life is definitely too short to worry about anything else. Death is inevitable.

Not everything works out, but not trying you'd never know. Why push people away because YOU might get hurt? Cancer can go into remission.

You can never know if you're strong enough to deal with something unless you actually experience it. Cowering away from something great because of FEAR? No man. Grow some balls.

RE: Your add-on question. Being there is enough. Showing up at the funeral, doing the handshake thing, means the world to the person that lost their family member

 

[patrick]

If cancer wasn't an issue would you have a relationship with her?

 

[Solitude]

If cancer wasn't an issue would you have a relationship with her?

That's the same thing I was thinking as I read through this thread.

If the answer to that is yes, then be with her.

 

[guest2013-1]

That's the same thing I was thinking as I read through this thread.

If the answer to that is yes, then be with her.

I think the answer is yes, but I think he's just too afraid of going through that experience thinking he won't be "strong" enough to handle it.

I'd rather be with the love of my life for 6 months and have her die, than never be with her at all and regretting every day that I didn't spend as much time as I could with her or told her how I felt.

 

[DerpiesFreud]

Serious necro...
We were together for a while,then she dumped me
said it wasn`t what she expected.
She might still have cancer,I dunno
Ohwell

 

[Conack]

Was telling someone just the other day about your dilemma and it's really a tough one.
Preciate the followup though. Maybe worked out for the best...

 

[Lycanthrope]

said it wasn`t what she expected.

Was it too big? Too small? The wrong shape? :x

 

[DerpiesFreud]

Was it too big? Too small? The wrong shape? :x

lol
The wrong shape
She had some kind of preconceived notion/fantasy about me being a knight in shinning armor but instead I was "nitoryu samurai"(more badass just not what she expected)

 

[Lycanthrope]

lol
The wrong shape
She had some kind of preconceived notion/fantasy about me being a knight in shinning armor but instead I was "nitoryu samurai"(more badass just not what she expected)

haha... Reminds me of my ex. No idea what he expected, but I was clearly not it.

At least you tried and now you know.

 

[DerpiesFreud]

haha... Reminds me of my ex. No idea what he expected, but I was clearly not it.

At least you tried and now you know.

Yeah though again escalation effect is a beechie
Escalation effect : great friend who becomes not so great girlfriend which terminates and isn`t a great friend anymore.
Or you could read my thread on it

 

[StrontiumDog]

OP, thanks for the update All that agonising and then things fizzled out, oh well!

Btw, where is this escalation effect thread you speak of?

 

[DerpiesFreud]

OP, thanks for the update All that agonising and then things fizzled out, oh well!

Btw, where is this escalation effect thread you speak of?

Necro 2
Made it,uuh its somewhere around here

Met her aunt,she doesn`t have cancer and it was all a ploy(her mother said she does this often)
Though she has serious psychological issues,probably untreated
wonder if there is any policy against necro-ing

 

[HippoMe]

Watch this: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1440161/

+1

Or/and Griffin and Phoenix ... http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0460812/