Relationships : More upset if ...

Kasyx said:
Agreed. If my girlfriend found herself about to start making out with another girl who she had feelings for, I would expect her to have the presence of mind to stop and talk to me about it first. I would be far more understanding if she just came out (see what I did there?) and told me straight (oh snap! another one!), before going down (he's on fire!) that road.
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I think that is the best post I have ever read. :|

And yeah, cheating is cheating, no matter what orientation!
 
cipha said:
on a similiar note, which would you find worse

a woman cheating on a man sexually or having a deep relationship with another man. ie: he knows more about whats going on with her than her husband does
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That would depend on how long they have been friends. I.E. my current lady has a gay male friend, that she has known for many years, and they see each other a few times a week, as they work in the same studio, he knows her very well, and probabily knows more about her and her problems than i do.
Personally it doesnt bother me as it is healthy to have an outside person one can speak to about ones problems or issues.
I have an ex G/F that i have been friends with for over 20 years and we chat about many things, often regarding small issues with our partners that we are trying to resolve.
At the end of the day it boils down to being honest about outside relationships with your partner, and ensuring those friendships dont intrude into your relationship, or pose a threat to your relationship.
 
JK8 said:
She can cheat with a girl, as long as the girls hot and I can cheat with her also.:p
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Lol:D

cipha said:
on a similiar note, which would you find worse

a woman cheating on a man sexually or having a deep relationship with another man. ie: he knows more about whats going on with her than her husband does
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The latter happened to me. Wifey has a bro-in-law who has a child with her cousin. These two have been calling one another non-stop, initially I was cool with it, but when it got worse (this guy will call at odd hours) I burst out/ went ballistic/ mad!!! But since we had our own problems we talked about it and it actually made me realise that I probably wasnt there enough to talk to her, spend time, listen, blah blah blah, I was there but not as much as I wanna be. Damn these women species! It just made me also realise that I needed to be a lover, companion, best friend, and all that comes with it:confused:
 
Dolby said:
... if your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you with the same sex?

I've never been in the situation, but I'd probably be less upset (still very upset!) if my girlfriend chose a girl over me.
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Depends if I'm invited or not. :D
 
cipha said:
on a similiar note, which would you find worse

a woman cheating on a man sexually or having a deep relationship with another man. ie: he knows more about whats going on with her than her husband does
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I had a similar situation when my GF moved out. Except everyone knew more than I did =/ . I got bored or something.??? :confused: :confused: :confused:
 
Even though cheating is cheating, you have to assess how serious the relationship is. If it's casual then bummer but you can move on easily. If it's serious though ... eish. Had a bi gf a while ago and at least she would ask me if it was ok whenever she felt she needed 'action' from the other team. Hey I even part joined in a few times so I was cool about it ;):D
 
Mephisto_Helix said:
Even though cheating is cheating, you have to assess how serious the relationship is. If it's casual then bummer but you can move on easily. If it's serious though ... eish. Had a bi gf a while ago and at least she would ask me if it was ok whenever she felt she needed 'action' from the other team. Hey I even part joined in a few times so I was cool about it ;):D
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I think I'd rather end it and move on tbh. I'm 28 and looking for something more serious that that now. I'm guessing that wasn't a very serious relationship?
 
Maelly said:
we talked about it and it actually made me realise that I probably wasnt there enough to talk to her, spend time, listen, blah blah blah, I was there but not as much as I wanna be. Damn these women species! It just made me also realise that I needed to be a lover, companion, best friend, and all that comes with it:confused:
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She's smart, eh? ;) Women do that to you ... they have a way of making everything seem like your fault regardless of what actually happened. You'll end up apologising to her for her 'wrong doings' ... sure that's not what happened here? :P
 
I love these kind of threads... It gives you a better perspective on how to deal with your partner should infidelity emerge... I've been cheated on so many times, actually all the time... For some reason, I fall in love with guys who are emotionless, and only thinks about one thing...SEX! Most of them don't like to talk about feelings, or express how they feel, they will rather send a SMS stating how they feel, WTF is up with that?

Personally, cheating is cheating, be it with a guy or girl. My boyfriend was previously married, which means that he doesn't mind sleeping with girls... THUS, the chances are 2:1 that he would cheat.... :eek:

But this is how i see it: Should your partner cheat within the first few months of your relationship, then I wouldn't necessarily break if off. If might be a lack of communication and boundaries that drove him to this action... A relationship is most vulnerable in the beginning....
 
FaNIX said:
But this is how i see it: Should your partner cheat within the first few months of your relationship, then I wouldn't necessarily break if off. If might be a lack of communication and boundaries that drove him to this action... A relationship is most vulnerable in the beginning....
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I must remember 'explanation' that next time I feel the need to cheat, I might work on my girlfriend at the time :rolleyes:
 
So you actually gets needs and urges to cheat? :/
 
If I am in a loving relationship, then I don't have ANY tendencies to cheat... Not even if the guy is hotter than the sun...
 
Human nature

I would feel less threatened if my gf cheated on me with a woman because then it is not something i can give her that drove her to that.

I know you are not suppose to think of it like that and that cheating should always be seen as cheating, but it is , i think just human/natural to feel less threatened by someone of the opposite sex. :p
 
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