Relationships

[Madhawk]

I watched the DVD "Fireproof" tonight with some friends. It's a must for just about everyone IMHO.

I've watched it, liked it too.

 

[guest2013-1]

How do you keep relationships going. I know they a lot of work but how do you truly know when to let go and how do you move on.... Just a general question. Its good to know other peoples experiences...

Relationships just work. If it doesn't come naturally and feels like work (or that you have to work at it to make it function properly) then you have your answer... it is time to walk away.

 

[guest2013-1]

Why do people cheat. it's so wrong. If you dont wanna be with the person, just be honest.

Mind you sadly there aren't a lot of honest people around

99.99% of the time it's because "I don't want to hurt him"

 

[guest2013-1]

Can you manage the change though ... ? Going from being a genuine person - to being a player and playing with peoples emotions?

I couldn't.

It's easier going from a genuine person to a player and back than starting out as a player trying to then evolve into a genuine person

 

[xrapidx]

Relationships just work. If it doesn't come naturally and feels like work (or that you have to work at it to make it function properly) then you have your answer... it is time to walk away.

+1 - its one thing I've told every girl I've dated, the minute this becomes work - I'm outta here.... I make it clear my office and gym are the only places I'm prepared to work...

Most have understood this, the last one didn't when I dumped her - said she'd "work" to make it easier... she chose her words poorly.

EDIT: Strangely, my gf just called me a player because of something I did last weekend with another girl I don't remember cause I had to much wine.

 

[Dolby]

I'm genuine.

Girls, PM me

 

[tco21]

There are no girls on the interwebz!

 

[Bondizzo]

I say if your a guy dont get attached and keep your options open, in the end the women selects the man so look for as many women as you can. I was the nice guy last year that got scortched by a women , being nice doesnt help you at all.

 

[nkpza]

Relationships just work. If it doesn't come naturally and feels like work (or that you have to work at it to make it function properly) then you have your answer... it is time to walk away.

I don't agree with this. Relationships require work (making sacrifices etc. Feels like work) like every other worthwhile activity. Take your job/work. You werent born proficient in your current job. You got training, education, work experience etc and stuck with it.

And I think it is the same with relationships.

(I'm talking about normal relationships and not the crazy stuff like being in an abusive relationship etc)

The question then becomes is the particular relationship worth the effort?

 

[rwenzori]

How do you keep relationships going. I know they a lot of work but how do you truly know when to let go and how do you move on.... Just a general question. Its good to know other peoples experiences...

WTF is a "relationship"? Only women and emo-kiddies have those. Men have chicks.

 

[HypoThesis]

I don't agree with this. Relationships require work (making sacrifices etc. Feels like work) like every other worthwhile activity. Take your job/work. You werent born proficient in your current job. You got training, education, work experience etc and stuck with it.

And I think it is the same with relationships.

(I'm talking about normal relationships and not the crazy stuff like being in an abusive relationship etc)

The question then becomes is the particular relationship worth the effort?

+1.

Each relationship is unique in it's dynamics. You can't get into one with a blueprint as to how it will all work out.

I've been through the player phase, it leaves you cold and empty. I came out of it, decided to stay faithful to one woman...did right by her and she cheated after 2 years. I could so easily have relapsed and started playing the field again but life is worth so much more than that. Sure nice guys often finish last...but nice guys ultimately finish happier with life.

 

[Dolby]

it leaves you cold and empty.

Everyone that cheats and has one night stands says the same thing - but (generally : not in your case) they keep doing it again.

Very seldom do you find a person that has cheated once, and stopped. As they say : once a cheater, always a cheater.

I've been out with someone who has never *once* been faithful in a relationship, yet she'd probably tell me how she regrets it and how cold it made her feel as well ...