Reporting abuse?

STS said:
It was a neighbour in our community, I wanted info more of the route to take rather than justifying my reason to report or excusing why i didn't intervene.

I would rather ignore it, but every time I hear the kid scream I simply don't want to reimagine this morning
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You are quite a snowflake aint you, so the lady spanked her kid and it left you so traumatized that every time you hear a kid scream you think of that ?

You are a drama queen, looking for attention of IT forums.
 
STS said:
Hi guys,

Just a quick ask for help, I like to keep my nose out of people's lives and business, but I saw what I assume is a mother really laying into a kid this morning. I understand discipline and I ignore crying as I don't always know the context for it, but what I saw this morning was horrible.

Is there a place I can report this anonymously? I had a look online and everything asks for details of myself or the person being abused. I don't want to get involved in this myself either but I hate thinking the kid has to go thru this.

I also don't want the kid to suffer due to me reporting it, ie arrests, being taken away, etc. It just feels wrong to leave it?

I didn't get involved coz I have temper issues myself and get emotional over kids/animals getting hurt
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I bet none of the other posters in this thread had an abusive mother, but I did.

I don't know where or how you can report this, but I think you should. You might be saving a life.

My mother wasn't abusive like that btw. But from having had a mother like that, I know the damage it can leave on you.

People in this thread forget that we are human enough to know what discipline looks like, and what abuse looks like. If you say it is abuse, I believe you, and I'd ask you to do something about it.

EDIT: For those saying keep your nose out of other people's business, I miss the old days when the community raised the child, and they were all responsible for its welfare. But these days, nobody trusts anyone else, so nobody allows anyone else to have a hand in raising their children.
 
STS said:
Every where I look seems they WANT my details tho? I just don't want to get more involved in this
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If you want to get involved then you also need to get involved. I imagine they do this so people can't anonymously report others to for malicious reasons.
 
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Splinter said:
If you want to get involved then you also need to get involved. I imagine they do this so people can't anonymously report others to for malicious reasons.
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Thank you, I lost my temper in the other thread coz this is bugging me and I apologise for being a twat.

Just close the thread, nothing more productive will come out of it
 
The details are probably just so that their is record of a witness but doesn't mean they will involve you. They most likely will not want to involve you at all.
 
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Ancalagon said:
I bet none of the other posters in this thread had an abusive mother, but I did.

I don't know where or how you can report this, but I think you should. You might be saving a life.

My mother wasn't abusive like that btw. But from having had a mother like that, I know the damage it can leave on you.

People in this thread forget that we are human enough to know what discipline looks like, and what abuse looks like. If you say it is abuse, I believe you, and I'd ask you to do something about it.

EDIT: For those saying keep your nose out of other people's business, I miss the old days when the community raised the child, and they were all responsible for its welfare. But these days, nobody trusts anyone else, so nobody allows anyone else to have a hand in raising their children.
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100%

@STS please report
 
Having grown up as witness so physical abuse, I wish someone had stepped in and attempted to resolve or help the situation.

So I'm all for you speaking up - the investigation will happen and if nothing untoward is found, then so be it. But in cases like these, where there's a legitimate case to be made for mistreatment, you do have a responsibility to act.
 
Depends on if actual abuse or not. Have experienced abuse but these days even a hiding is frothed about as abuse .....

If it's actual, report and don't care that they want your deets, it's more important to stop abuse than worry over that.
 
OP wants to have his cake and eat it. Either mind your own business, or man up and report it and provide your details to whomever you are reporting it to (I would assume SAPS is the correct authority). If you are right, good for you. Why the fck are you afraid of reporting an abuser? If you are wrong, then that should teach you to mind your own business.
 
Report. She not stop, it will only escalate.

I agree in principle with not being nosey but you need to consider at which point that becomes tacit approval.

Really sounds like you are at or possibly over that line from your posts.

Pretty basic suggestion but is Childline still a thing? Perhaps their hotline can guide you?

Personally I would be inclined to take something like this into my own hands.

Godspeed.
 
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Call the police. Last I needed to they only asked me for my name and phone number. You can give both as fake
 
It's a tricky one. Known of kids screaming blue murder during some sort of autistic fit with the helpless parents just standing idle unable to do anything about it. One of our fellow forumites even had a neighbour who did the same thing: let their kid scream like it was being murdered all day long.

As you haven't actually described what happened in any detail, my advice would be to report it to some sort of social service as a child in distress. Don't allude to any abuse by the parents UNLESS YOU ARE 100% SURE IT'S HAPPENING. It could just be a normally patient parent losing their cool with a very difficult child, after all.
 
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Mephisto_Helix said:
Depends on if actual abuse or not. Have experienced abuse but these days even a hiding is frothed about as abuse .....

If it's actual, report and don't care that they want your deets, it's more important to stop abuse than worry over that.
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Corporal punishment is illegal in this country. End of discussion.
 
I'll call them this evening when I am home, i'll allude to it being a child in distress and give them my details without mentioning the incident this morning.

I had heard screaming before but I had assumed it was tantrums, hidings, children playing, nothing that would cause me to be concerned or clear cries for help. Perhaps this morning was even a one time thing, but I will be sure to see if someone could go past and just check it out anyway
 
Why would you leave out the incident this morning, if that's the one that made you decide to step in?

Just be clear and honest man, hiding things may make them not take it seriously, they may assume it's a thing of the past, they may assume many things.

Just tell them everything and let them do their jobs. Withholding that may just sabotage what you want to achieve, which is the safety of the child.
 
STS said:
I can assume an old woman beating kids is the mother,
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Beating kids?

Describe what exactly you saw.

Woman punching kid? Slapping? Belt or slipper being used? Where? Across face, across arse?

What did you see that makes you post this thread?
 
STS said:
Every where I look seems they WANT my details tho? I just don't want to get more involved in this
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So, you need to give your details so that the authorities know it's a real complaint and not a prank call. They also want to follow up with you for details and as a witness.

You can of course give fake details or make an anonymous complaint, or via your CPF or similar.

As to your last statement, then don't. Walk away. Either stand up and be counted as it were, or sit down and mind your own business. I'm not saying which you should do, you have your own moral compass.
 
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