Restraining Order

There is some serious issues here if your GF cannot trust your word.

Either trust was broken in past between you and her or she is not committed to you. Once you get married it is whole new ball game, her and your family and friends will have to take a back seat and you will have to stand together, take each others word, fend one for another in some cases, stand as one otherwise the relationship is doomed. I know my wife got my back, and she can trust that I will always protect her as well, even against family and friends.

If it doesn't work out now then it is best to be open and frank with you GF about the situation and decide what the future holds for the two of you. If she chooses her friends over you then it is a lost cause, and no, more commitment from you will in most likelihood not change this so do not even think of marriage. If there is a red light before the marriage it becomes a train smash in marriage!

Other advice, be honest with your GF, if you went somewhere, tell her ASAP, this will remove the sting and surprise from the tell-tale and render his account useless.
I know you cannot tell her every little detail, this is where trust comes in, but like places you visit and that weird place you went to, you needed to tell her, if for nothing else than to have a good laugh with her. COMMUNICATE!
 
ghoti said:
Dont listen to this advice unless you are ready for violence, and violence where he can say you assaulted a cop. Cops thrive on confrontation and thats what he wants, and if you throw a punch and it becomes a "my word vs his word"... the judge will likey take his side without evidence, and assault on a cop (especially if his other cop buddies get involved) is bad. Its even worse if he is a bad cop... cause then he can easily get a nigerian to sort you out.

Tell your gf about the stalking and how its making you uncomfy... if she wont do anything about it, break up with her. Anyone who is willing to allow that type of psycho into their lives is not worth getting closer with (unless her dad owns a brewery).

My wife is fully committed to me, and would never allow this type of stuff into our lives... if you are compromising and accepting less from the woman you are with perhaps you are with the wrong woman.
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confrontation doesn't mean violence.
 
Thanks for the advice guys. I see the cop every now and then, I ignore him rather. My gf knows about the whole stalker thing going on, she understands, its cool.
 
okay,I have no idea how to make a new thread and to be honnest i dont have the time to worry about it.
My query falls under the same Topic anyway

This guy (Ronald) and i have been dating for 6 months,
His ex girlfriend and him broke up like a month before we started dating and talking to each other ,and he warned me about her before hand.

Because this is not the first time she has been doing all this.
Her goal in life is to make my boyfriend (Ronald) life hell.Because he broke her heart.

So now she just randomly pitches up at our house trying to act all innocent and saying that she only saw a puppy and wanted to know whose puppy it was when she knows its our neighbours puppy because she hangs out there like almost every weekend.

She Tries to split Ronald and me up by trying to find faults in our relatonship and hinting it to our neighbours who are very good friends with us aswell.
She goes to pubs and starts crying and moaning about her and ronald and what he did to her and everyone in town is actually getting so sick of her.

She goes to the poolparty thats almost right infront of our house every weekend where she knows Ronald will be and she also knows i work untill ten o clock and she goes and swims naked infront of all the guys at the pool party
She Sms's Ronald about crap and calls him about things anyone else could have told him.

Ronald wants her out of his life because she is JUST making **** for him and his life.I also Want her out of MY life because she is just making **** for my life aswell.

She tries her hardest to irritate us by hanging out with our friends and on accasion asks one of our guy friends to come with to our house to make Ronald Jelious,Meanwhile Ronald just doesnt give a ****.

He hates her and everytime she pitches up He sms's me and freaks out about how much she irritates him and just wants her gone and to go away

This has been happening for 2 years to him. and he has lost alot of relationships because of her and what she is doing.

We have tried confronting her... then she causes a scene and goes on about how much ronald hurt her ,so basically thats what she wants.

We have tried to ignore her totally and then she goes out of her wAY to "innocently" conveniently pitch up at our house or our friends house or where WE hang out and want to have fun,and she spoils everything instantly.

Ronald wven sent to her mother to tell her to tell her daughter that it is over and he is not interested and she must stop spreading lies and he does not want to see her EVER again and that she must stay away.

She stayed away for a few weeks but then everything just started again.we feel like we are being forced to move to another town BECAUSE OF HER

Honnestly i think the only thing there is to do is to get a restaining order against this 18 year old young one.

Because she just never stops.
 
Anonymous007 said:
okay,I have no idea how to make a new thread and to be honnest i dont have the time to worry about it.
My query falls under the same Topic anyway

This guy (Ronald) and i have been dating for 6 months,
His ex girlfriend and him broke up like a month before we started dating and talking to each other ,and he warned me about her before hand.

Because this is not the first time she has been doing all this.
Her goal in life is to make my boyfriend (Ronald) life hell.Because he broke her heart.

So now she just randomly pitches up at our house trying to act all innocent and saying that she only saw a puppy and wanted to know whose puppy it was when she knows its our neighbours puppy because she hangs out there like almost every weekend.

She Tries to split Ronald and me up by trying to find faults in our relatonship and hinting it to our neighbours who are very good friends with us aswell.
She goes to pubs and starts crying and moaning about her and ronald and what he did to her and everyone in town is actually getting so sick of her.

She goes to the poolparty thats almost right infront of our house every weekend where she knows Ronald will be and she also knows i work untill ten o clock and she goes and swims naked infront of all the guys at the pool party
She Sms's Ronald about crap and calls him about things anyone else could have told him.

Ronald wants her out of his life because she is JUST making **** for him and his life.I also Want her out of MY life because she is just making **** for my life aswell.

She tries her hardest to irritate us by hanging out with our friends and on accasion asks one of our guy friends to come with to our house to make Ronald Jelious,Meanwhile Ronald just doesnt give a ****.

He hates her and everytime she pitches up He sms's me and freaks out about how much she irritates him and just wants her gone and to go away

This has been happening for 2 years to him. and he has lost alot of relationships because of her and what she is doing.

We have tried confronting her... then she causes a scene and goes on about how much ronald hurt her ,so basically thats what she wants.

We have tried to ignore her totally and then she goes out of her wAY to "innocently" conveniently pitch up at our house or our friends house or where WE hang out and want to have fun,and she spoils everything instantly.

Ronald wven sent to her mother to tell her to tell her daughter that it is over and he is not interested and she must stop spreading lies and he does not want to see her EVER again and that she must stay away.

She stayed away for a few weeks but then everything just started again.we feel like we are being forced to move to another town BECAUSE OF HER

Honnestly i think the only thing there is to do is to get a restaining order against this 18 year old young one.

Because she just never stops.
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So the psycho ex is 18 years old and she has been going on like this for 2 years? This means he dumped her when she was 16? Having sex with children is known to cause strange behaviour in them, and is generally not recommended.

Just get a restraining order already.
 
Seems like Ronald stuck his d1ck in crazy.

Why do you still allow her into your house? That sounds very silly if you want her out of your life. Tell Ronald to tell her to FK OFF in no uncertain terms. Why is he answering her calls and smses anyways?
 
Sensorei said:
So the psycho ex is 18 years old and she has been going on like this for 2 years? This means he dumped her when she was 16? Having sex with children is known to cause strange behaviour in them, and is generally not recommended.
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Hardly. Kids being having sex since humans first evolved. In fact, up until a decade or two ago, it was okay to marry and have kids with a 13 year old (this is still applicable in many parts of the world today). If you are the prophet of a certain religion of peace... it was okay to marry a 9 year old child. So based on the last 100 000 years of humanity, I would say all humans are pretty equal on that level. Even fully grown adults behave like children when they get romantically slighted.


Just get a restraining order already.
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I dont think a restraining order is required here. The dude just needs to tell the chick that you are not welcome on their property and if she comes again you will phone for trespassing and have her arrested. He needs to be strong and put her in her place. If she comes onto the property again, report it to the cops. She does not sound dangerous... just delusional.
 
are you all missing this part?

She goes to the poolparty thats almost right infront of our house every weekend where she knows Ronald will be and she also knows i work untill ten o clock and she goes and swims naked infront of all the guys at the pool party
She Sms's Ronald about crap and calls him about things anyone else could have told him.
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if anything you guys should be asking for the address :p
 
samr1wp said:
we need pics to see who this girl is :p
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Not sure if you can tell much...

ronald_mcdonald_01.jpg
 
She goes to the poolparty thats almost right infront of our house every weekend where she knows Ronald will be and she also knows i work untill ten o clock and she goes and swims naked infront of all the guys at the pool party
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How does one get invited to parties like this ?
 
xrapidx said:
Its generally a "right place, right time" kinda thing....
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no dude this happens every weekend

She goes to the poolparty thats almost right infront of our house every weekend where she knows Ronald will be and she also knows i work untill ten o clock and she goes and swims naked infront of all the guys at the pool party
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we need an address thats all
 
ghoti said:
Hardly. Kids being having sex since humans first evolved. In fact, up until a decade or two ago, it was okay to marry and have kids with a 13 year old (this is still applicable in many parts of the world today). If you are the prophet of a certain religion of peace... it was okay to marry a 9 year old child. So based on the last 100 000 years of humanity, I would say all humans are pretty equal on that level. Even fully grown adults behave like children when they get romantically slighted.
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Ok smartass, tell us something we don't already know.

The fact is that 16 year old kids take break ups much worse than adults who have been around a bit. Hence the behaviour. He was probably her first love which is always perfect until one meets one's second love like the old saying goes.
 
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