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Okay, now, the reason this is in THIS section is because I'm possibly getting involved with someone who is a Seventh-day Adventist.

Now I know I can Google it and spend all day reading up on this 'religion' but I want you guys to break it down for me - if this "relationship" should prosper - what are the basic parts of this religion I need to know and understand and respect for me to have a happy relationship with her.

We've agreed on some levels that I'm not religious but I would respect her beliefs and such and she will respect my stance etc.

If I'm not wrong; 1 of the main things I need to respect is their Sabbath which starts from Friday sunset to Saturday sunset but what things can't she do, can she do, etc.

I could ask, but I want to pretend to be clever and KNOW this stuff (via you guys) so come... share the love peeps!

Thanks!
 
On a Friday the blood of a sheep who is slaughtered must be drunk :D

Well im catholic so can't really help you...I remember my friend said that they wash each others feet sometimes.
 
Korn1 said:
On a Friday the blood of a sheep must be slaughtered and drunk :D

Well im catholic so can't really help you...I remember my friend said that they wash each others feet sometimes.
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SHE did mention something about the feet story... I really struggle to pay attention when it comes to religion because I have issues of my own with religion - which is why I can't sit and Google for hours learning about it because I'll get irratated and want to debate and blah blah blah so I just needed the SDA's or people who know it to give me a summarized version.

And telling me to avoid it / run for the hills is not really acceptable solutions because I've heard it enough! :D
 
gdiza said:
SHE did mention something about the feet story... I really struggle to pay attention when it comes to religion because I have issues of my own with religion - which is why I can't sit and Google for hours learning about it because I'll get irratated and want to debate and blah blah blah so I just needed the SDA's or people who know it to give me a summarized version.

And telling me to avoid it / run for the hills is not really acceptable solutions because I've heard it enough! :D
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Are you going to go to church with her?
 
gdiza said:
If I'm not wrong; 1 of the main things I need to respect is their Sabbath which starts from Friday sunset to Saturday sunset but what things can't she do, can she do, etc.
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So the rest of your post was basically a cover for wanting to know if you can shag her Friday sunset to Saturday sunset? :p:D
 
gdiza said:
Not a chance!



No sex before marriage buddy! It's the rest of the stuff I must concentrate on! :)
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Is she seriously that religious?Hmmm well you would be a good man if you can wait till marriage but wont her parents ask about your religious affiliation etc
 
Korn1 said:
Is she seriously that religious?Hmmm well you would be a good man if you can wait till marriage but wont her parents ask about your religious affiliation etc
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Ultimately, they have to accept me as I am, like I do her.

I'm meeting the parents this weekend which is a big step for her because apparently, if they do not like me, I have to go - which is a given - she takes their opinions highly and I have no problem with it.

It can work and we both want it to work - drinking is a problem - so we've agreed that I'll cut down on that which I've already done (I hardly drink these days - only at social sessions and then it's minor) and as for other stuff, I'll just have to go with it... figure it out.
 
Ahhh this explains the foot washing

Foot washing (which symbolizes our commitment to love others as Jesus loves us),
bread ("This bread is my flesh," Jesus said, "which I will give for the life of the world," John 6:51, NIV), and
wine or grape juice ("Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life." John 6:54, NIV)
 
Korn1 said:
Ahhh this explains the foot washing

Foot washing (which symbolizes our commitment to love others as Jesus loves us),
bread ("This bread is my flesh," Jesus said, "which I will give for the life of the world," John 6:51, NIV), and
wine or grape juice ("Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life." John 6:54, NIV)
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I can think of other ways to express my commitment to love others as Jesus loves us...

I'm glad you think it explains it... one guy PM'd me saying SDA's are just a crazy-ass-cult... haha!
 
She must be pretty amazing for you to change your lifestyle - I know nothing about SDA, so my post is actually pretty useless - but maybe you can finagle a foot massage after the foot washing. :D

So if the meeting doesn't go well with the parents, will you really be ok with leaving her?
 
gdiza said:
I can think of other ways to express my commitment to love others as Jesus loves us...

I'm glad you think it explains it... one guy PM'd me saying SDA's are just a crazy-ass-cult... haha!
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I went to a SDA church with my one mate but I had a mother of a hangover so wasn't concentrating but they are good people.
 
RustyPrincess said:
So if the meeting doesn't go well with the parents, will you really be ok with leaving her?
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If the opinions of her mom / dad are so strong that they don't approve of me etc then I will have to respect her enough - but I won't go down without a fight.

She's a Virgin, I'm not - she is okay with that - her parents might not be or at least, the dad might not be - but like I said originally, I'm meeting them on Sunday - I'm going there as 'myself' and they will either love me or hate me by the end of the day - what happens after that... ... well, I'll take it 1 step at a time.
 
it's a pretty legalistic patriarchal interpretation of the bible iirc (well, i had some friends who were very involved adventists)
it's a worry to me that her parents are still such a great authority in her life - there may be some conflict there.
prepare to have her parents, church leaders and god have as much if not greater importance in her life than you.

all i can say is take it slowly, try to experience her world, see where she is coming from and anticipate if you can live with it as a big part of your life indefinitely.
think of things like your peer group, drinking, music, movies, ideas about raising of kids etc which may not be acceptable by her or her spiritual family.
understand that a lot of her purpose, identity and affirmation comes from her role in this 'family' of believers.
be honest now about things that you aren't prepared to change, otherwise it will only cause pain later on.

if would be very easy for her to get into the place where your actions aren't sanctioned by her doctrine and she is forced to choose between you and the church.
she will favour the relationship which gives her the most affirmation and significance, and, judging by her submission to her parents, i'm not sure it would be you.

look, not everybody is black and white in their faith, but you need to establish at what level she is willing to compromise and where she draws the line in the sand.
 
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