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So it has taken me a couple of years to get enough courage to "talk" about this.would like to have your input,whether its positive or negative. It all started with my first intimate girlfriend.we sat in a jacuzi and she asked me,can I stick my finger in your ass (meaning my ass). The idea of us doing that never crossed my mind but I said ja ok why not, i am willing to experiment. I didnt really like the feeling of it, but i loved the thought of it (girl doing something naughty for my pleasure).

After that she would do it to me while we have sex every now and again. Would get me to climax almost instantly. Tried anal sex with her a couple of times but she said it was too painful. Then we broke up. Same story as above with my second intimate partner. These two girls were on the wild side,which I liked but it caused endless hastles. Wanted a chilled gf, met her and then I got married. Been 3 years now.thing is,i am still craving this anal attention,both ways (to me and her). But she isnt into it at all. She does rub my ass every now and again,and lets me touch hers.but thats as far as it goes. I was used to more than that, and constantly want that everytime we have sex. So currently I get my fix from anal porn, and thata not really how I want to do things. And no, ther isnt even a question that I am gay, girls are my thing,end of story.

Now I can imagine all of this might sound a bit sick.is it? Am I screwed in the head? Are there other guys that enjoy it? Have tried to juat forget about anal,but ja,like a craving that doesnt stop. Cheating is not an option,I am not that type of guy.

Thoughts please
 
nah man dont stress personally dont think its gay...know a few guys into it and they women only !!!
 
Dont know if you screwed in the head, but for me - no fingers unless its the doc, and even then I am very, very hesitant :)
 
this-is-it said:
Now I can imagine all of this might sound a bit sick.is it? Am I screwed in the head? Are there other guys that enjoy it? Have tried to juat forget about anal,but ja,like a craving that doesnt stop. Cheating is not an option,I am not that type of guy.
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No, you're not. You're confident enough to experiment sexually and do things you enjoy. That places you a step above anyone who is too scared to try something new because they're scared it might hurt their 'image' or 'masculinity.'

Do what you enjoy and **** what anyone else says. If you're a straight guy who's into anal play, good for you. Lots of straight guys and their girlfriends engage in anal play on each other.
 
I won't say it's "normal", but to each their own. Would be best discussing it with your SO, marriage has no bounds, if you unable to discuss these sort of matters with your SO I'm a bit scared for the longevity of it.
 
There's nothing wrong with putting your own finger up your bum.
TBF if she's not into it then there's no pushing her.
Is she sure she doesn't like it?
Not even a stray tongue?
 
Anyway, on the discussion of your girlfriend, it's a tough one. You can't force her into anything, but if you really feel strongly about it then sit her down and have a talk with her about it.

If she still won't budge, then you need to consider whether you want to be in a relationship where you're not sexually compatible or not into the same kind of thing. As much as people don't like to hear it, sex is a big part of any relationship and if you're not being fully satisfied then it will harm your relationship down the line.
 
Zewp said:
Anyway, on the discussion of your girlfriend, it's a tough one. You can't force her into anything, but if you really feel strongly about it then sit her down and have a talk with her about it.

If she still won't budge, then you need to consider whether you want to be in a relationship where you're not sexually compatible or not into the same kind of thing. As much as people don't like to hear it, sex is a big part of any relationship and if you're not being fully satisfied then it will harm your relationship down the line.
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Probably the best advice that you will get on this. I'd listen, OP.
 
TehStranger said:
"Accidentally" put your dink in her stink often enough for her to get the hint.
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it's hard to get it in there by "mistake" though. or is it just me?

i've been with women who loved anal and i've also been with some who wouldn't let me even get a finger inside.
 
Skrilla said:
i've been with women who loved anal and i've also been with some who wouldn't let me even get a finger inside.
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That's often because some people have really bad experiences with it and then decide to never try it again. Most of my female friends claim to have tried it and refuse to do it again, citing horrible first times as the reason. Straight guys don't often know that anal sex takes a bit of preparation and patience. You can't just lube it up and shove it in.
 
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