Sexual Fetish Obsession

dweezil said:
go see a professional IMO - don't ask for advice online.
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i trust the judgment of most posters here, and i've tried talking to people before, but of course that was when i was younger :)
also, church, articles and meeting other people online with the fetish hasn't really helped, but thanks for the advice :)
 
/puts on seriaas hat

That's a dangerous fetish. When you say you don't like hurting people, can we assume that you're the one doing the choking?

Somebody mentioned getting a professional involved, I concur.
 
smalltownsky said:
...my wife knows about it and is okay with it, but i feel that she feels that way more out of love for me than really being understanding of it, which is also a reason i'd like to get rid of it...
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Nothing wrong with your fetish and certainly nothing to feel embarrassed about.

If you have a loving wife who indulges it from time to time because she loves you then you have hit the jackpot. Just remember to repay her the favour and make sure you indulge her in the sack.

It seriously seems to me like you have everything under control.
 
Haha! I'm guessing smalltownsky will never come to a MyBB meet. Everyone will start choking him..
 
So we have one of the Proteas on the forum :D Which one are you?
 
GhostSixFour said:
Haha! I'm guessing smalltownsky will never come to a MyBB meet. Everyone will start choking him..
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see? all good humour :D

Nothing wrong with your fetish and certainly nothing to feel embarrassed about.

If you have a loving wife who indulges it from time to time because she loves you then you have hit the jackpot.

It seriously seems to me like you have everything under control.
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i was reading threads on addictions today tho, and it's hard to explain but without making it sound like an episode of Dexter it does affect my life tremendously. i won't say always negatively, and as you say my wife understands, but i feel bad that it still feels a little wrong to me to have when my wife doesn't know most of my thoughts or how dark my fantasies really can be.

i spoke to a professional before, they suggested electro-shock therapy, so i'd rather pass that. i just accepted somethign that it was something i was going to live with.

sorry if you guys think i'm just looking for attention too or if i'm being difficult with your answers, some things are just hard to explain :)
 
BrendanD said:
Nothing wrong with your fetish and certainly nothing to feel embarrassed about.

If you have a loving wife who indulges it from time to time because she loves you then you have hit the jackpot. Just remember to repay her the favour and make sure you indulge her in the sack.

It seriously seems to me like you have everything under control.
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Are you mad? Self-asphyxiation is very dangerous.
 
smalltownsky said:
sorry if you guys think i'm just looking for attention too or if i'm being difficult with your answers, some things are just hard to explain :)
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I think you've explained enough.

But, do you actually do the 'act' now and again? You obviously don't follow though with it but I just curious if you do.
 
smalltownsky said:
i was reading threads on addictions today tho, and it's hard to explain but without making it sound like an episode of Dexter it does affect my life tremendously. i won't say always negatively, and as you say my wife understands, but i feel bad that it still feels a little wrong to me to have when my wife doesn't know most of my thoughts or how dark my fantasies really can be.

i spoke to a professional before, they suggested electro-shock therapy, so i'd rather pass that. i just accepted somethign that it was something i was going to live with.
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Sexual kinks are a dime a dozen. Most of us have a kink that defines out sexual relationships in some way. As long as you don't have any plans to indulge some of your darker fantasies that are really harmful and you and your wife are happy to play out some of your fantasies to a level which you are both comfortable with then carry on.
 
tco21 said:
Are you mad? Self-asphyxiation is very dangerous.
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He mentioned he wasn't into auto-erotic axphyxiation.

Through roleplay with his wife he can live out his kinks without any risk to him or her. This is standard BDSM stuff which people really shouldn't be scared of.

He can use a silk scarf on his wife and they have some safe gesture, etc. Having a wife who is willing to indulge him to a certain point means that it is in his best interests to respect her boundries during this play because women like that aren't that common.
 
PythonFSi said:
I think you've explained enough.

But, do you actually do the 'act' now and again? You obviously don't follow though with it but I just curious if you do.
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i'd rather not going into too much detail with that, but it's not as grizzly as my sitting in a bathroom naked with a belt around my neck if that's what you're imagining :) just with sexual partners throughout my life, i've talked to some of them about it and tried it with others, and the reason that it's a nuisance is because i have always wanted to follow through with it, but i also didn't want to hurt anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable
 
porn$tar said:
That can still go horribly wrong, unless you guys have a system going where she "taps out". If that's worked for you so far, then cool.
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As long as you have a safe word and a really good lawyer, you should be fine.
 
BrendanD said:
Sexual kinks are a dime a dozen. Most of us have a kink that defines out sexual relationships in some way. As long as you don't have any plans to indulge some of your darker fantasies that are really harmful and you and your wife are happy to play out some of your fantasies to a level which you are both comfortable with then carry on.
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thanks brendan, i really appreciate the advice :)

for me the problem comes in when i'd feel like i'm asking my wife for it when she wants tenderness and closeness. not that it can't be close or loving too, it's just a feeling i get, like that feeling you get in your gut that something isn't right or something feels different. i know many people enjoy it and can do it easily, and again i want to emphasise that i dont' want to be difficult or make it sound like it's something bad, just that i feel that i'm too obsessed with it.

i was wondering if anyone had read something i hadn't, or knew of things that i didn't, because i read a lot, and with growing up with this fetish i had a lot of time to read up on it too, but i seldom read articles on fixing fetishism or how people fight the urges :)
 
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