Sexual Fetish Obsession

What happens when he loses it? Then the safe word isn't going to mean nothing when he's in the zone...
 
/seriaas hat off

On the bright side, at least you don't have a scat fetish...
 
pssshhhh! :p people, i know you're concerned abut my mental health but i don't need help with safe words and good lawyers, all i want to know is how to deal with an addiction like that besides self-control? :) i'd never hurt my wife and i've never hurt anyone
 
smalltownsky said:
pssshhhh! :p people, i know you're concerned abut my mental health but i don't need help with safe words and good lawyers, all i want to know is how to deal with an addiction like that besides self-control? :) i'd never hurt my wife and i've never hurt anyone
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Ok! Heres what you need to do!

You need to substitute the one addiction for another!

Try a food fetish or something.
 
smalltownsky said:
thanks brendan, i really appreciate the advice :)

for me the problem comes in when i'd feel like i'm asking my wife for it when she wants tenderness and closeness. not that it can't be close or loving too, it's just a feeling i get, like that feeling you get in your gut that something isn't right or something feels different. i know many people enjoy it and can do it easily, and again i want to emphasise that i dont' want to be difficult or make it sound like it's something bad, just that i feel that i'm too obsessed with it.

i was wondering if anyone had read something i hadn't, or knew of things that i didn't, because i read a lot, and with growing up with this fetish i had a lot of time to read up on it too, but i seldom read articles on fixing fetishism or how people fight the urges :)
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Separate them.

Have a clearly defined line between sexy times that speak to your fetish and sexy times that are more 'vanilla'. You may well find that your wife gets off on doing things that drive you wild as much as she enjoys cute n cuddly.

Also: don't be selfish - try to find out if and what her fetish(es) may be, you may find that doing something for her too makes you feel better about the times when you want to focus on your fetish.

Ensure that you are educated about the dangers and precautionary measures that pertain to this particular practice - the internet will help. You may also find that you connect with others online who share this fetish and that may help you integrate it a little better.
 
SlinkyMike said:
Separate them.

Have a clearly defined line between sexy times that speak to your fetish and sexy times that are more 'vanilla'. You may well find that your wife gets off on doing things that drive you wild as much as she enjoys cute n cuddly.
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i do that at the moment actually, but thanks for that too :)

Ok! Heres what you need to do!

You need to substitute the one addiction for another!

Try a food fetish or something.
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i've actually tried replacing it with other hobbies, philosophies, activities, more work, etc. but i always come back to it. that is what i mean by too obsessed :)
 
SlinkyMike said:
Separate them.

Have a clearly defined line between sexy times that speak to your fetish and sexy times that are more 'vanilla'. You may well find that your wife gets off on doing things that drive you wild as much as she enjoys cute n cuddly.

Also: don't be selfish - try to find out if and what her fetish(es) may be, you may find that doing something for her too makes you feel better about the times when you want to focus on your fetish.

Ensure that you are educated about the dangers and precautionary measures that pertain to this particular practice - the internet will help. You may also find that you connect with others online who share this fetish and that may help you integrate it a little better.
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This.

The fetish mustn't take over your whole sex life and you must return the favour to your wife in any way you can. I'll reiterate. You're a lucky dude for having a wife willing to indulge you on occasion. Don't forget that or take it for granted.
 
BrendanD said:
This.

The fetish mustn't take over your whole sex life and you must return the favour to your wife in any way you can. I'll reiterate. You're a lucky dude for having a wife willing to indulge you on occasion. Don't forget that or take it for granted.
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thanks :)

and somebody earlier wanted to know what the zone was :D
 
PythonFSi said:
From what I get so far is, you've haven't really tried the professional route yet, right?
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i called one day to ask a psychiatrist how she dealt with fetishes and she mentioned they have a shock pen for it and that they'd also give me some pills, i must come in, but i wasn't interested. then i spoke to a friend doing psychology and told me to accept it, and my friend suggested if it bothered me so much i should speak to this "awesome pastor" who told me to pray more and let out my demons. it's been very unusual when looking for help, but of course this was all before i was 20
 
I dont see why this is a bad thing? Or why he has to replace it with a food fettish... or any other for that matter. Sounds under control to me

If his wife is happy to go along with it now and then, and doesnt have an issue with it... (and he is also pleasing her preferences) then I dont get why this is an issue :confused:

choke on... I mean,

rock on! ;) :)
 
It's all lies, he's got a choking fetish alright... a fetish for choking the chicken! :p
 
smalltownsky said:
i called one day to ask a psychiatrist how she dealt with fetishes and she mentioned they have a shock pen for it and that they'd also give me some pills, i must come in, but i wasn't interested. then i spoke to a friend doing psychology and told me to accept it, and my friend suggested if it bothered me so much i should speak to this "awesome pastor" who told me to pray more and let out my demons. it's been very unusual when looking for help, but of course this was all before i was 20
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Ummm...there is another "professional" option you can take.
I am being serious now.
How much of an obsession is this?
Does your partner know?
 
but yeah, thanks for your help guys. i appreciate the humour and the advice and i'm very grateful for it all, i was just hoping to find some information or ideas that i hadn't seen or thought of before, and that didn't involve seeking out another professional with my measly salary.

but i appreciate what you said brendand, and i see it similarly to how you see it, i've just had it for so long and dealt with it so much that i'm just tired of it now :)

thanks again.
 
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