Should I Block Her?

JuliusSeizure said:
Even, that, think very carefully. The situation will vary so I can't really say for certain but when you see things like this, it's often better to not entertain from the start as tempting as it may be. It may suck in the moment and take some will power but you will be glad in the long-run.

But far too many guys start of situations like this and then emotional investments start and they get into situations which are hard to get out of. You don't want to get into a dangerous situation where she can become a danger to herself or you.
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Seems that you think a woman is a danger to herself and to you. It does make it seem that you have some inherent fear of women in general.

You cannot live your entire life in fear of women.

I wonder, have you ever said a bad word to girl at any point in your life?

JuliusSeizure said:
Lol, I am far from a magnet with women but I have seen this situation happen with family and friends and it is not good. It can mess up your life.

I was also in a bit of a similar situation in 2016 with a girl who wanted me to date her. I had to tell her from the start that I did not want to and it was bad doing so in the moment but in the long-run, it is for the best.
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I dunno I think you projected your fears and insecurities onto her. I think she wasn't the one who you were protecting.

wizardofid said:
most people would say your the ass :p. But on the other hand I to do like making jokes and taking the mickey some times, and I am not going to change my personality on a whim to get laid unless she is hawt. It's a simple matter of incompatible personalities rather then a age thing, sure she is just starting out, you sort of on the end stage of fking around, and settling down, that is sure to cause some clashes.

I would be straight, explain my personality, what I am looking for, she will either get with the program, or friendzone you.A random hook up isn't the worse thing to happen if you both agree, just as long you are up front and not a complete douchebag
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Maybe you're right, in general though I'm a bit much and I do take things overboard. Playful banter with women almost always ends up with me winning and turns into something what I could best call consentual bullying.

Now that I think about the vast majority of times perhaps even all the times she had a meltdown was when I said something that could be considered sexist or making fun of woke concepts :unsure:
 
Polymathic said:
Seems that you think a woman is a danger to herself and to you. It does make it seem that you have some inherent fear of women in general.

You cannot live your entire life in fear of women.

I wonder, have you ever said a bad word to girl at any point in your life?


I dunno I think you projected your fears and insecurities onto her. I think she wasn't the one who you were protecting.


Maybe you're right, in general though I'm a bit much and I do take things overboard. Playful banter with women almost always ends up with me winning and turns into something what I could best call consentual bullying.

Now that I think about the vast majority of times perhaps even all the times she had a meltdown was when I said something that could be considered sexist or making fun of woke concepts :unsure:
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I don't really fear women but I maybe do try to avoid conflict as much as possible. I did end up hooking up with the lady I speak about here in 2017 when I was in final year but it was after I told her I couldn't emotionally invest. Maybe I do try and avoid emotional investment. I don't even want to get a new dog for that reason.
 
JuliusSeizure said:
I don't really fear women but I maybe do try to avoid conflict as much as possible. I did end up hooking up with the lady I speak about here in 2017 when I was in final year but it was after I told her I couldn't emotionally invest. Maybe I do try and avoid emotional investment. I don't even want to get a new dog for that reason.
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Essentially rejecting her before you she gets to reject you. It seems that you have an the anixety of a teenage girl riddled with acne.

I'm not trying to be mean but

Well you're right in terms of strategy because somebody with your current constitution you would be eventually she'll look at you as a coward who cannot stand up for himself.

Either you have really low testosterone (unlikely) or you are repressing parts of your personality or some psychological issues. Could even be repressed homosexuality. I would suggest you to speak to @ShaunSA but he probably guilt you into taking it from him up the bum and that would be a bad thing if it turns out that you're not gay or bi.

You definitely need to seek psychological counseling of some sort.
 
Anyway I did get another message from said female yesterday. Marked it as read and deleted the chat.
 
Polymathic said:
Essentially rejecting her before you she gets to reject you. It seems that you have an the anixety of a teenage girl riddled with acne.

I'm not trying to be mean but

Well you're right in terms of strategy because somebody with your current constitution you would be eventually she'll look at you as a coward who cannot stand up for himself.

Either you have really low testosterone (unlikely) or you are repressing parts of your personality or some psychological issues. Could even be repressed homosexuality. I would suggest you to speak to @ShaunSA but he probably guilt you into taking it from him up the bum and that would be a bad thing if it turns out that you're not gay or bi.

You definitely need to seek psychological counseling of some sort.
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How do you reach to all these conclusions from some posts from a stranger? :unsure: Are you a clinical psychologist or some such?
 
surface said:
How do you reach to all these conclusions from some posts from a stranger? :unsure: Are you a clinical psychologist or some such?
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speaking from experience actually, High school to the early part of university was not fun for me. Perhaps because of being a middle child with somewhat overbearing and very conservative parents left me repressing a major part of personality, ended one year gaining at least 15kg during the single June holidays because I essentially used food as a tool to repress my personality.

I ended up being extremely anxious as a result. it was when I started to lose weight in 2nd year that true personality, turns out I wasn't really a calm, reserved good boy but actually turns out I was actually the opposite to all of those and my anxiousness essentially evaporated almost overnight. Took my parents a couple years to guilt me into suppressing my personality with constant threats of reform school.

The transformation is stark. I literally went from being the most popular boy in class preschool according to girls in the class right up to Jr Primary to that weird quiet kid who never said a word in High School. It was in university where I went from a total loser in one semester to totally crushing it with women the next semester that I actually remembered that I was that way with the girls back in preschool, really weird memory to suppress.

I'm still basically farked up in the head due to the my early childhood experiences which is why I tend to struggle with long term relationships but I'm making progress.
 
Polymathic said:
speaking from experience actually, High school to the early part of university was not fun for me. Perhaps because of being a middle child with somewhat overbearing and very conservative parents left me repressing a major part of personality, ended one year gaining at least 15kg during the single June holidays because I essentially used food as a tool to repress my personality.

I ended up being extremely anxious as a result. it was when I started to lose weight in 2nd year that true personality, turns out I wasn't really a calm, reserved good boy but actually turns out I was actually the opposite to all of those and my anxiousness essentially evaporated almost overnight. Took my parents a couple years to guilt me into suppressing my personality with constant threats of reform school.

The transformation is stark. I literally went from being the most popular boy in class preschool according to girls in the class right up to Jr Primary to that weird quiet kid who never said a word in High School. It was in university where I went from a total loser in one semester to totally crushing it with women the next semester that I actually remembered that I was that way with the girls back in preschool, really weird memory to suppress.

I'm still basically farked up in the head due to the my early childhood experiences which is why I tend to struggle with long term relationships but I'm making progress.
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tl/dr/dc
 
Polymathic said:
speaking from experience actually, High school to the early part of university was not fun for me. Perhaps because of being a middle child with somewhat overbearing and very conservative parents left me repressing a major part of personality, ended one year gaining at least 15kg during the single June holidays because I essentially used food as a tool to repress my personality.

I ended up being extremely anxious as a result. it was when I started to lose weight in 2nd year that true personality, turns out I wasn't really a calm, reserved good boy but actually turns out I was actually the opposite to all of those and my anxiousness essentially evaporated almost overnight. Took my parents a couple years to guilt me into suppressing my personality with constant threats of reform school.

The transformation is stark. I literally went from being the most popular boy in class preschool according to girls in the class right up to Jr Primary to that weird quiet kid who never said a word in High School. It was in university where I went from a total loser in one semester to totally crushing it with women the next semester that I actually remembered that I was that way with the girls back in preschool, really weird memory to suppress.

I'm still basically farked up in the head due to the my early childhood experiences which is why I tend to struggle with long term relationships but I'm making progress.
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TL;DR;DC
 
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