Shy/nervousness

The pictures - they are generally mazes and patters - I did a few online tests a while back that say I am rather different - but anyway we are focussing to much on me - back to you and your adorable blushing
 
CommonSense said:
Hi _HECATE_

I know the feeling.
I've passed up going higher in the ranks because of this in the past.
I'm getting better with age. But it might be a bit too late.

Watch this Video below. I am sure it will help you. If it doesn't I'm sure you can think of something horrible to do to me.

Amy Cuddy - Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are

Hopes this helps. :)
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Just listened to the speech, very good. Must go to the loo and practice my power poses. :D
 
DrJohnZoidberg said:
Yes, this is something that you will just get better at. I don't think there is any one quick fix.

Strangely, I would much prefer to speak to clients face to face than use the phone - I get nervous on the phone :)
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Me too. I hate speaking on the phone.
 
Go to bed very late and get up very early or organise a serious hang over, but that might be a bit risky I suppose.

When I have had very little sleep I am too tired to worry about the things I am bad at, and I tend to work very efficiently because everything thing I get to do becomes something that I have to get out of the way ASAP to resume my chilling out.
 
Picard said:
Me too. I hate speaking on the phone.
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Speaking on the phone has to be the worst form of communication imo. My reasoning: with text you can think about what you want to say so you have time, sure you don't get tone or don't know if someone is serious or not but that's why there are smileys. With face to face conversation it's more intimate closer you get to hear tone and see expressions. Phonecalls however you have no time to think you don't know the person expressions sometimes you can't hear the person over the phone due to external factors. I hate it! It's difficult to talk to my mom over the phone and it was even difficult to talk to my ex over the phone, I only spoke to her 4 times over the course of our six month relationship over the phone.
 
I just try and breath. Try compose yourself, talk with confidence. I try be a little arrogant, not in a bad way, just enough to show them you are confident in what you are talking about. People tend to take you a lot more seriously when you show them you are confident. I used to sh@t myself sometimes when having to train a room full of people, but at the end of the day you always need to remember, you know more than them, so show it ;)
 
_Hecate_ said:
I had to present my findings to one of our clients today. Normally its over the phone, this time it was in person. I am a ferocious blusher! and hates it!!!

What makes it worse is the client might think i'm lying if asked a question and then I blush.

What do you guys do to be less nervous/shy in similar circumstances? And dont tell me "picture them naked" who does that? and why would it work...I would just blush more thinking of them all naked and...stuff.

I just tried to remind myself to breath and talk slower as I normally start talking very fast.
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Practice in the mirror... constantly. Talk to yourself, pretend to talk to others. Start building scenarios in your head where they'll throw you with questions and you have to answer, even ridiculous comments etc. Practice your facial expressions. Don't be surprised if you stand there laughing at yourself instead, but trust me. Best confidence builder you can have.
 
This book helped me when I was young!

how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people by Dale Carnegie

http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2370171-how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people

How to Win Friends and Influence People Quotes


How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends and Influence People Quotes (showing 1-16 of 16)
“It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“A barber lathers a man before he shaves him.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn't bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: "Wouldn't you like to have that?"
Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“We are gods in the chrysalis.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument— and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes.”

“First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener— a listener who will be silent while the irate fault-finder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“Always avoid the acute angle.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
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More:
http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3317.Dale_Carnegie
 
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Have to agree with Seriously. Dale Carnegie's book is quite good, although I'd definitely suggest getting the audiobook version.
 
Influencing people is piss easy. You don't need a book to tell you how

I started an experiment back in 1996, and to THIS day, even without me being in that particular High School anymore, that which I started, is still going strong...
 
AcidRaZor said:
Influencing people is piss easy. You don't need a book to tell you how

I started an experiment back in 1996, and to THIS day, even without me being in that particular High School anymore, that which I started, is still going strong...
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Tell us more.
 
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