Single and happy?

Mila

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Yeah, you get those single, yet happy types. Personally, I hope they ****.

I was one of those. Ai those were the good old skinny days......

I love the BF but Loved living on my own....

I think it comes with realising that i did not need a man and was happy with that, happy to sit in my window looking at the sunset.

But i also think that i was in such a kark relationship that being alone was heaven.
 

CathJ

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I'm happy on my own. It depends what you mean, though - happy to spend time by yourself (whether you're in a relationship or not, are you happy to spend a weekend alone) or happy whether or not you're in a relationship?

I'm happy to spend time on my own, in fact I need it. I'm not one of those people that always needs someone around to talk to (although I know some of those ;)) And I'm not in a relationship, and I'm fine with that. But that doesn't mean that I would avoid a relationship if the right guy came along, or that I don't miss having a life partner.

I don't think there's a secret, it's just what kind of personality you have.
 

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You can be single and happy. Sure, a relationship can great, but if you're not a complete person on your own, will that really change when you're with someone?

And, Kitten, why do you need to be home alone when you're single? That makes no sense...
 

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And you've got heaps of porn on your hard drive:D I dunno your age but damn, that life sounds a bit too much...I used to play my PS2 until late into the night and after two months realised that MGS could never replace the company of a woman.

Nah it's chilled hey. As for the porn, there are kids who use my pc so that would be a bit offsides. Besides, by the sounds of things I often think my married mates score just as seldom as I do :D

It's rather unfortunate but very evident that many relationships are all about the initial fresh feeling, like the smell of a new car, and it soon turns into a obligation rather than a sense of fulfillment. Obviously I'm grossly generalizing, but the way I look at it ... I'd rather be alone and not with the right person than NOT being alone and being with the wrong person.

That does not make sense at all.

It does in a sense of him enjoying not being bothered by someone - until the self awareness of being ALONE sets in.
 

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Well yea my fiancee and g/f of around 6 and half years moved out last week and to be honest i am pretty happy :)

I like being on my own doing my own thing though and she on the other hands always needed to be doing stuff with me and going out all the time.

I can keep myself entertained and i actually prefer being on my own and enjoy the hermit life of which i have been unable to live for the last 7 years and she just never got that.

killa....I swear everytime I read your posts, I get shocked on how similar we are....and this is like the 10th similar post :eek:

weird.... :p
 

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It's rather unfortunate but very evident that many relationships are all about the initial fresh feeling, like the smell of a new car, and it soon turns into a obligation rather than a sense of fulfillment. Obviously I'm grossly generalizing, but the way I look at it ... I'd rather be alone and not with the right person than NOT being alone and being with the wrong person.

I agree 100%. That's the crucial to thing to realise.
 

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I'd rather be alone and not with the right person than NOT being alone and being with the wrong person.

And usually, that is exactly where most people go wrong; choosing to be with someone just so they're not alone.
 

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You can be single and happy. Sure, a relationship can great, but if you're not a complete person on your own, will that really change when you're with someone?

And, Kitten, why do you need to be home alone when you're single? That makes no sense...

I mean I hate being at home alone any time when im single. I must be out with people every night otherwise I sit and mope over failed relationships, wonder if ill ever find someone to spend my life with, etc ... I pretty much drive myself mad thinking when im on my own. I have no peace just sitting doing something solo. My friends can actually do my end of the conversation now on their own, and they laugh as I always find someone ... but am I really finding someone for me, or am I finding the next best thing to avoid being alone? see.
 

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I agree 100%. That's the crucial to thing to realise.

And usually, that is exactly where most people go wrong; choosing to be with someone just so they're not alone.

Thanks girls :)

I'm told by my friends I'm "too fussy"... (and that I chase girls away when I correct their grammar mid sentence)
 

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I think being single has it's pros but also it's cons.

Sure I think being single is fun in a way. But to be alone 24/7/365. No way; I'll go insane. Wife was away for 2 weeks and I felt as if I was going nuts. It's not about the sex and so forth.

When you get home you want to talk about your day. Maybe ideas you have or just silly chit chat. If you had a bad day you want someone to make you smile when you get back home, bring you a beer and say "Relax, I'll go fill the bath for you" You want some one there just so you have someone to at least keep you on your toes if you are getting out of hand and so forth.

I was alone for 2 weeks. Got home, switched on the TV just so there is sound in the house. Made dinner and then switched on my PC and sat there till what ever time and then go to bed. Not speaking a word.

I'll go nuts :eek:
 

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I mean I hate being at home alone any time when im single. I must be out with people every night otherwise I sit and mope over failed relationships, wonder if ill ever find someone to spend my life with, etc ... I pretty much drive myself mad thinking when im on my own. I have no peace just sitting doing something solo. My friends can actually do my end of the conversation now on their own, and they laugh as I always find someone ... but am I really finding someone for me, or am I finding the next best thing to avoid being alone? see.

The latter. With that thinking, definitely the latter.
 

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I am fussy too, but for some reason I choose people who are completely wrong for me. I wonder if those I turn down are actually truly right ... mmmmmmm
 

CathJ

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Thanks girls :)

I'm told by my friends I'm "too fussy"... (and that I chase girls away when I correct their grammar mid sentence)

Nah, they're just the wrong girls then :)

Can you imagine living with someone, for the rest of your life, who doesn't know how to spell/use grammar properly? :eek:
 

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Miss Kitten, when I'm with someone (be it in a relationship or the company of a female friend) I prefer listening rather than talking the whole time...

Ergo, if I'm alone, I'm not talking anyway and I listen to my own thoughts and/or start daydreaming again...

It's also been a financial blessing on me ever since my ex dumped me to, and I quote, "have fun while she's still young and at varsity". Interpret that as you see fit :)
 

Voicy

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I am fussy too, but for some reason I choose people who are completely wrong for me. I wonder if those I turn down are actually truly right ... mmmmmmm

I know stuffall about relationships but I can tell you this much... girls don't want the safe guy - they want the exciting one. The one that all their friends will be jealous of.

You say you want someone who loves you for you and settles down and whatnot. You don't really. You want someone who will ravage you and make you chase after him instead of someone who treats you like a queen...

It's all about the Stockholm Syndrome (Thanks miss Blu! I've told some of my friends about this one!)
 
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