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Here it goes. Quite a couple of years ago (about 12-13 years) I had this buddy. But back in that time he already started to get a bit "frisky" *wink wink* *nudge nudge*. Now I only see him as a friend and nothing else.

We lost contact and every once in a while he'll find me whereever I am. Unfortunately the industry I am in is such that anybody who wants to, can find you. :erm:

I haven't heard from him for about 5 years and yet again he has managed to trace me to my latest work place. I got a call on the office phone and was so shocked that when he asked for my cellphone number, I gave it to him.

This was about 2 weeks ago. Now, last week Friday I got a call from him asking to go out. I said no, as I have plans with my boyfriend.

Yesterday I get a call from him wanting to hook up :eek: .

When I saw him last I was single, however as stated before I have never been interested in him. I have now been in a relationship for over 10 years and I keep mentioning my boyfriend hoping he will catch the drift.

I am not a people's person in general, however I do not like hurting people's feelings (I always put myself on the other side and imagine what I would feel like). How do I break it to him gently (he's a bit annoying in a clingy kind of way and doesn't take no for an answer). Do I just not take his calls, or get my boyfriend to answer one day and get "agro" ?
 
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I think letting your boyfriend answer his next call is a good idea.

He really does sound like a stalker :eek:
 
Well you mentioning the boyfriend should have made it clear.
Just make it quite clear that you are not interested at all.
If that fails, get the bf involved.
 
Tell him that you've been so busy planning your wedding. :D

Seriously though, it doesn't sound like he will leave you alone. Time to put your foot down. If his feelings gets hurt....such is life.
 
Ignore or set him up with a friend you're not too keen on staying friends with. That way you lose the friend and the stalker in one go.
 
10 years and still not married? Whew! Thanks - makes me feel so much better for also not taking the big plunge yet!

Thank you for cheering me up and have a nice day!
 
Maybe he just wants to be friends? Accept the offer to go out with him, but insist your boyfriend comes along. That way you don't have to figure out how to break it to him the easy way. If that does not work maybe go to some more drastic measures such as a direct "I am not interested" talk or ignoring him completely...
 
Just tell him:
"I'm sooo glad you called, I have a friend thats soooo lonely. you sound like a PERFECT match! Hang on I'll give you the number -08x xxx xxxx, HIS name is PERCY! He'll love hearing from you!"

And then every time he calls you just keep trying to hook him up with your "gay freinds"

If he denies it, offer to put him in touch with a homosexual denial support group.

He will stop calling.
 
Madman88 said:
Just tell him:
"I'm sooo glad you called, I have a friend thats soooo lonely. you sound like a PERFECT match! Hang on I'll give you the number -08x xxx xxxx, HIS name is PERCY! He'll love hearing from you!"

And then every time he calls you just keep trying to hook him up with your "gay freinds"

If he denies it, offer to put him in touch with a homosexual denial support group.

He will stop calling.
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Keeper is not interested in getting married! :D
 
1.) you've been dating the same oke for 10years and he's still just your boyfriend? :eek:

2.) I vote for getting your boyfriend to answer the phone next time.
 
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