Thats life

look kian, i'll give you some advice. it's all about power.

We all want some power, so we all give the best.
we just work, every minute of every hour

Don't think about the rest!

And if you get the power, You will get the best


When everyone gets everything, And every song..........everybody sings

Life is life.
 
Slootvreter said:
Oh my god. Again, grow up.

/facepalm. So he must get a job? Why didn't all unemployed folks think of that? Must be the easiest thing to do :rolleyes:
I'm sure his wife will be real proud when he tell her he got a job, as a waiter or barman. Where are the days of a woman standing by her man? No, these days they just piss off when they hit tough financial times. At the OP: When she leaves, just make sure you take back the car you got her.

And you never answered, what does SHE do for a living?
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There is nothing that I am able to say that will highlight your stupidity as much your own post.
 
Kian said:
If i could ask, how could i take away something i got her, even if she wants to leave, wouldn't that be wrong?

She works at a university
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so she works but you guys cant afford a place of your own. we need more info. its coming in drips and drabs and people are gonna give u wrong advice or just call you lazy etc.
 
Kian said:
hi guys

I am currently unemployed, trying to start my own business on virtually no capital, my wife is constantly on my case about it(dont blame her), we live at my folks for now, but my wife wants to move out by the weekend, and all the appliances bought by friday, living at my folks has been an endless problem, and i just kinda got kicked out, need to move out by the end of feb and have to see to my child aswell. So i need to pay rent, deposit, buy appliances, furniture, oh and get another vehicle, as my wife uses the vehicle i got her and i use my folks, all this needs to happen by monday, and my wife is threatening to leave otherwise(cant blame her).

So today was a lovely day to say the least, but anyway what would you do if in this position.

Thanks
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Kian said:
24
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You are 24 have a wife and kid and you still lived with your parents?
And inthe last 6 years you never thought of starting tobuy things like kettles or something?

Oi
Good luck. Try waitering and barman to get money till your "plan" works.
 
Get a waitering/barman job asap to get the money going and wife and folks a bit happier (Basically show her that you aren't a deadbeat which you kind of come across as. For women a gesture can sometimes be enough.)

Start looking for a serious job and set a deadline for everyone of when your business is going to be successfulenough to get you out of your folks place. If you get a job offer take it and run your business part time until it makes enough to sustain you.

The deadline and part time job ASAP are serious though if you plan on saving your marriage.

Also if you are on the ITC be upfront about it to any prospective employers. Tell then you ran it up when you were unemployed or when the wife was ill or something.
 
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Kian

Your wife has a point, it must be very tough living with your parents, even if it is cheaper, the psychological aspect of living in another womans domain is a very heavy burden to bear, if you had to because of economical circumstances I understand, but you should have done everything you can to get out of your parents home as quick as possible, they are your parents, and though you might feel quite comfortable going about your business there, it must be a private hell for her.

Waitering can bring in an average of R200 - R300 cash per shift (per night) sometimes much more, depending where you waiter, it really is a good suggestion.

Selling curtaining, in this age my friend ?, curtains are out, everybody that can afford it, will rather have blinds, I have no idea why you're selling curtaining, it's just not a good choice in these modern times.

My daughter comes from an upperclass home and is waitering her butt off to make a living, as she simply can't find a job, she's living in a students residence and doing everything she can to be independent from her parents.

Your first priority is to find a job, sharp-sharp and to let your wife understand that you will now do everything you can, to get away from your parents, if you don't act fast, your parents and your wife and thus your child will all soon be very miserable, and it seems as if you're squat in the middle of this situation.

Please Kian, do what it takes, take any job that will immediately put some cash into your situation, you cannot procrastinate any longer.

Best of wishes, I hope you get lucky with a job and that taking immediate control of your situation will prevent the impending explosion.
 
wrathex said:
Kian

Your wife has a point, it must be very tough living with your parents, even if it is cheaper, the psychological aspect of living in another womans domain is a very heavy burden to bear, if you had to because of economical circumstances I understand, but you should have done everything you can to get out of your parents home as quick as possible, they are your parents, and though you might feel quite comfortable going about your business there, it must be a private hell for her.

Waitering can bring in an average of R200 - R300 cash per shift (per night) sometimes much more, depending where you waiter, it really is a good suggestion.

Selling curtaining, in this age my friend ?, curtains are out, everybody that can afford it, will rather have blinds, I have no idea why you're selling curtaining, it's just not a good choice in these modern times.

My daughter comes from an upperclass home and is waitering her butt off to make a living, as she simply can't find a job, she's living in a students residence and doing everything she can to be independent from her parents.

Your first priority is to find a job, sharp-sharp and to let your wife understand that you will now do everything you can, to get away from your parents, if you don't act fast, your parents and your wife and thus your child will all soon be very miserable, and it seems as if you're squat in the middle of this situation.

Please Kian, do what it takes, take any job that will immediately put some cash into your situation, you cannot procrastinate any longer.

Best of wishes, I hope you get lucky with a job and that taking immediate control of your situation will prevent the impending explosion.
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Thumbs up to your post.
 
wrathex said:
Kian

Your wife has a point, it must be very tough living with your parents, even if it is cheaper, the psychological aspect of living in another womans domain is a very heavy burden to bea.
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There can be two pairs of legs in a kitchen. Never two sets of boobs.:D
 
I do not think he lives with all of them hey. Mondays he screws nozela, then tuesdays he screws nomilo. He has a wife for every working day :D. 2 more and he has a whole week of sex with a different chick.

What a legend :D
 
davemc said:
Tell that to our president. :p (I apologise - I could not resist)
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:D

killadoob said:
I do not think he lives with all of them hey. Mondays he screws nozela, then tuesdays he screws nomilo. He has a wife for every working day :D. 2 more and he has a whole week of sex with a different chick.

What a legend :D
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Maybe they all have their own kitchens.. cause imagine those cat fights!!!:wtf:
 
Wrathex is right. It's no good for you to be living with your parents. We stayed with my wife's parents for like a month then we moved out in a month when we were earning barely enough to cover the rent just because it was a bad situation to be in. Your wife won't be able to take that kind of pressure.

Look - you got married and had a kid very early in life, before you had a clue about the real world - so I feel sorry for you. You need to get what we like to call a 'real job'. Not knowing how the food will get on the table will destroy your marriage. Your wife will not be able to cope with that pressure. That means forget trying to start your own business, use whatever skills you have to get your foot in the door of a corporation who will give you a dependable monthly salary, lick boots, and learn to live on not enough money which is what everyone has to do in the world of 'real jobs'. Otherwise - and this is quite real - you will be divorced by the age of 25 with a long distance kid to raise.

Forget about your dreams - or table them for now. Something big isn't going to happen. Someone will stab you because you don't know what you're doing and they know it and don't care. Forget about your own company, sell your stock. Or get a job and still try to build it up on the side. But primarily before anything else you need a salary young man :p
 
just find and job and make sure you can take care of the little one.chances are she has found someone who is more interesting than you, by that i mean financially and socially. she will leave you soon enough... life is tough. good luck...
 
koeks said:
just find and job and make sure you can take care of the little one.chances are she has found someone who is more interesting than you, by that i mean financially and socially. she will leave you soon enough... life is tough. good luck...
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:wtf::eek: Hello Ice Queen. ;)
 
Yep like everyone said, get a job to ease the expenses for now and in your free time apply for proper jobs. Be wise with your money and as soon as you get a good job see if you can cover your wife and child on medical aid. Start saving for the kids schooling and clothes, ask your wife to assist. Make those your goals for now. Can't cross the river without them stepping stones :)
 
cerebus said:
Wrathex is right. It's no good for you to be living with your parents. We stayed with my wife's parents for like a month then we moved out in a month when we were earning barely enough to cover the rent just because it was a bad situation to be in. Your wife won't be able to take that kind of pressure.

Look - you got married and had a kid very early in life, before you had a clue about the real world - so I feel sorry for you. You need to get what we like to call a 'real job'. Not knowing how the food will get on the table will destroy your marriage. Your wife will not be able to cope with that pressure. That means forget trying to start your own business, use whatever skills you have to get your foot in the door of a corporation who will give you a dependable monthly salary, lick boots, and learn to live on not enough money which is what everyone has to do in the world of 'real jobs'. Otherwise - and this is quite real - you will be divorced by the age of 25 with a long distance kid to raise.

Forget about your dreams - or table them for now. Something big isn't going to happen. Someone will stab you because you don't know what you're doing and they know it and don't care. Forget about your own company, sell your stock. Or get a job and still try to build it up on the side. But primarily before anything else you need a salary young man :p
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I would have recommended to try out your business, witha job you'll just live okay and it will take longer to be financially independant. the only problem here is that you have a wife and kid so you can't take huge risks anymore, its time to sell your soul to the corporate world, you can do your biz on the side, can you pm a sample of the stuff you make ?
 
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