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It’s 2000-and-something; I forget the date. I’m 14 and there’s nothing I want more than fat loss. In order to accomplish this goal, I do what any kid that age would do: buy my first fitness magazine.
So I buy the magazine and saunter out the shop, big grin plastered across my face because, as the magazine promised, in 6 weeks, I, yes little old me, would have a shredded midsection just like the model on the cover.
Fast forward six weeks, and, to borrow from The Fresh Prince: Now this is the part of the story all about how my life got flipped-turned upside down, and I’d like to take a minute just sit right there because I’m about to tell you how all that excitement turned to despair.
Six weeks came and went and I didn’t look any different than when I’d started, little did I know that It would take another decade before I even saw my abs. Yes, a decade.
Therein lies the problem. Everything you see and read about fat loss sells you the sexy stuff – how awesome you’re going to look, how effortless it is with this one weird trick, how much sex you’re going to have, etc. and don’t get me wrong, I get it: it catches your attention. It’s the same reason I bought my first fitness magazine; the promise of abs in six weeks. It’s the same reason you clicked this article; what exactly are these unsexy fat loss truths? That’s not the problem. The problem is the lack of information that tells you the other side of fat loss.
The unsexy stuff.
1b. This is also why you fail
Gee Aadam, you’re just bursting with positivity today.
Look internet person, this article is about truths, it says it right there in the title. Anytime you hear or read the word ‘truth’, you can be pretty certain you’re about to hear something you might not like or find particularly comfortable. You knew what you were getting into.
Here’s the second reason you’re going to fail: It’s not the last diet, or this diet, or the one you’re going to try after you’re done with this one. It’s not the macros, it’s not clean versus bad, it’s not the calories, or one weird trick, or some magic voodoo nutrient manipulation. Or any of that other stuff. That stuff is important, sure, but only after this fact – you might want to take a seat because this is going to blow you away:
Your fat loss is down to you actually wanting to make a change.
2. Your Body Is Your Fault
Ever hear the phrase, “People don’t fail diets, diets fail people”?
Well, it’s bull****. Want to know why it’s bull****? Because people do fail diets. All the time, in fact. Want to know why that saying is blindly accepted as gospel? Because telling people “it’s your fault” isn’t sexy.
How else is someone supposed to sell you their own super secret diet book if you don’t believe the fault lies in the last diet plan you tried and not with you?
Your body is your fault. If you’re overweight, it’s your fault; If you’re weak and skinny right now and think you can’t build muscle, it’s your fault; decide to go out every weekend and get totally ****faced instead of staying in and getting sleep, your fault.
This isn’t to be hurtful, but to make you realise that the onus of habit change is on you and not the diet or anybody else: the sooner you start to take responsibility for your health and body the sooner you’re going to make a change.
3. It’s Really Damn Hard
Read any real literature on human psychology and development and you’ll soon notice a common theme: humans thrive on stress and challenges. Of course there’s a limit, and too much is just as bad as not enough. But, the problem is we’re becoming more and more averse to any amount of effort and discomfort.
Which isn’t good because fat loss sucks. It’s damn hard and there is absolutely nothing “effortless” about it.
And not the, “man, I didn’t win the lottery AGAIN” kinda suck, more like, “Mike Tyson just up and punched me in the face and now my jaw’s wired shut and I can only drink through a straw” kinda suck.
You’re going to have to eat less food. You’re going to be a little hungry. You’re going to have to exercise, you’re going to need to eat better which also means having to plan.
Sigh, hoping for next drop this week![]()