The Friend Zone

[VioletF]

Some of the recent threads have made me think and I'm curious... Has anyone ever managed to escape the dreaded "Friend Zone" by ending up in a relationship with that person?

If so, how did you do it?

And yes, this happens to women as well.

In my case, I was eventually able to walk away (though not, unfortunately, until I'd basically torn myself to pieces). After a year or so of no contact, we were able to pick up the friendship again - not as close as we had been, but at least without any more romantic interest from either side.

It was the hardest thing I'd ever done, though, and I don't think I'd be able to do that again. So, also, does anyone have advice on how to avoid getting too attached to a good friend in the first place? Not making friends with the interesting sex at all seems a little extreme...

 

[I.am.Sam]

friendzone whats that ..

girls with a boyfriend will put you in the friendzone unless she is different

 

[TJ99]

And yes, this happens to women as well.

I call BS. I would never not sleep with a woman because she's my friend and give a lame excuse like "I don't want to ruin the friendship". I don't know of any guy who would.

 

[Scooby_Doo]

I call BS. I would never not sleep with a woman because she's my friend and give a lame excuse like "I don't want to ruin the friendship". I don't know of any guy who would.

What if she is a fatty?

 

[Randux]

Nope me didn't escape after six months of trying I came to my senses I cut her off but I regret trying so hard I ended up looking desperate. Sigh! if time travel was a possibility

 

[TJ99]

What if she is a fatty?

Then it's not really got anything to do with friendzoning does it? Fatness or uglyness are valid reasons, just being firends isn't. If she's good looking I'd hit it, even if we've been friends forever. Women see the friend-zone as some kind of barrier.

 

[Randux]

I call BS. I would never not sleep with a woman because she's my friend and give a lame excuse like "I don't want to ruin the friendship". I don't know of any guy who would.

depends on the type of girl whos interested in you. I straight up denied a fugly fatty a relationship.
EDIT:she was and still a friend

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

girls with a boyfriend will put you in the friendzone unless she is different

Dude women will cheat on their boyfriends if she feels like it, and there's no risk of it damaging her reputation. The same with guys. We're not monogamous creatures by nature.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Dude women will cheat on their boyfriends if she feels like it, and there's no risk of it damaging her reputation. The same with guys. We're not monogamous creatures by nature.

exactly ...thats why i say if she is different

but is she is loyal you will be the friend if you stay ...

 

[TJ99]

depends on the type of girl whos interested in you. I straight up denied a fugly fatty a relationship.

Yes but you're missing the point. It's got nothing to do with being friends or not. If she was hawt and your friend for the last 10 years, you'd go for it, am I right? Women won't, even if they think a guy is attractive, since they're friends with him...

 

[MartyMarts]

Usually a good f%&k can fix the 'Friend Zone' issue. One way or another at least.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Yes but you're missing the point. It's got nothing to do with being friends or not. If she was hawt and your friend for the last 10 years, you'd go for it, am I right? Women won't, even if they think a guy is attractive, since they're friends with him...

no you not playing your cards right ...i had a best friend in school ...for 5 years i hooked up with other woman and i said ok once matric is over i would ask her out and she wanted the same cause she told me

i moved to cpt ...and never did it ...

so a woman wont really worry about the friend ...it whats makes her happy that will justify her decision

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Women won't, even if they think a guy is attractive, since they're friends with him...

Nope, the mistake guys make is that they try and build comfort too quickly before creating the necessary attraction. That's what lands them in the friend zone. You don't need to be attractive to create attraction, but you do need to creation attraction before building comfort.

 

[TJ99]

Nope, the mistake guys make is that they try and build comfort too quickly before creating the necessary attraction. That's what lands them in the friend zone. You don't need to be attractive to create attraction, but you do need to creation attraction before building comfort.

You're right of course I just mean that's how it ends up.

Didn't recognise you there, Mystery. What happened to your poofy hat, bangles and eyeshadow?

 

[AstroTurf]

Some of the recent threads have made me think and I'm curious... Has anyone ever managed to escape the dreaded "Friend Zone" by ending up in a relationship with that person?

If so, how did you do it?

And yes, this happens to women as well.

In my case, I was eventually able to walk away (though not, unfortunately, until I'd basically torn myself to pieces). After a year or so of no contact, we were able to pick up the friendship again - not as close as we had been, but at least without any more romantic interest from either side.

It was the hardest thing I'd ever done, though, and I don't think I'd be able to do that again. So, also, does anyone have advice on how to avoid getting too attached to a good friend in the first place? Not making friends with the interesting sex at all seems a little extreme...

Women have a friend zone, men have a top ten list.

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

You're right of course I just mean that's how it ends up.

Didn't recognise you there, Mystery. What happened to your poofy hat, bangles and eyeshadow?

That guy is a tosser, but he's right about that Many others have said it too.

 

[killadoob]

Yup, had a very good girl friend when i was young but at about age 10 we never saw each other for 9 years and when we got together again we dated for 8 years.

I don't think that its the same as being in the friend zone as an adult though .

 

[russellO]

What if she is a fatty?

Hahahaha that made me laugh. Thanks.

 

[Randux]

If she was hawt and your friend for the last 10 years, you'd go for it, am I right?

I'd eat that ish til I develop gout

 

[_Hecate_]

So the consensus here is that if he's your friend and hasnt tried to sleep with you he doesnt find you attractive and it has nothing to do with the "friend zone"?