To find a partner!

StonerStuart said:
Ok good points.

However I do not fear women or anyone thinking I am gay.
I know I am not, I have nothing to prove to women but I will not compliment there clothing unless the article makes them look good then I would rather compliment her on making said article look good!
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so you will say hey wow thats ugly but wow you make it look good

she bought it she thinks its nice ...tell her you look nice in that outfit
 
StonerStuart said:
Ok good points.

However I do not fear women or anyone thinking I am gay.
I know I am not, I have nothing to prove to women but I will not compliment there clothing unless the article makes them look good then I would rather compliment her on making said article look good!
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Well, sure. Complimenting something that doesn't make them look good would make you a sneaky douche bag.

Anyway, I'm only giving my opinion because you asked a question. Use it don't use it.

My thoughts on paying compliments (for what they're worth):

1. They should always be genuine.

2. They're nice not necessary.

3. Don't do nice things expecting something in return.

4. Pretty girls are used to compliments. If you're going to compliment one, try to be original.
 
Nick333 said:
Well, sure. Complimenting something that doesn't make them look good would make you a sneaky douche bag.

Anyway, I'm only giving my opinion because you asked a question. Use it don't use it.

My thoughts on paying compliments (for what they're worth):

1. They should always be genuine.

2. They're nice not necessary.

3. Don't do nice things expecting something in return.

4. Pretty girls are used to compliments. If you're going to compliment one, try to be original.
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Any advice given is welcomed.

Thanks.
 
samr1wp said:
now make use of it ....start from online or physical talking

is there no woman at your work place
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I work in a sector where woman have still note quite gotten into just yet.
Sure there is the occasional cleaning lady but my house is already clean.

I do not deal with the public or people other than old men.

There are a few apprentice girls where I work. I have never thought of approaching one tho :confused:
 
Wow, that was fast. 0 to full Picard in about 2 weeks.... :D
 
Eish, some of you guys. I just want to add a little to the compliments bit. Attracting a woman is no different to training a dog - you reward her for good behaviour. Paying her compliments that she doesn't deserve is not going to get you any action. She's beautiful, she knows it, and she's used to hearing it from several guys just like you. What are you doing to differentiate yourself from these guys? All you're doing is lowering your value because you're saying that you're exactly like the others. I'm not saying go out and be a douche, but know what you're worth and don't sell yourself short by lowering your value and increasing hers when the outcome is that you won't get anything in return.

Remember that women are looking for someone to look after them and their offspring, not someone who is going to leave her stranded in the cave while you're out banging someone else. The reason why giving her compliments right off the bat will immediately raise the walls is because you're actually saying that you're interested in her, which she reads as being you wanting her for sex. The power of choice lies with her, not with you and therefore you will actually need to satisfy the criteria that she's looking for in a man (i.e. someone who will look after her, not someone who wants sex).

Compliments are to be earned, not to be dished out freely. And even then, it should rarely be a compliment about her looks (why tell her what she already knows?), but about her personality. Since she has the power of choice, she's the one who will need to do the chasing. She wants you to make her earn your affections. It's her way of selecting a mate. The sooner guys realise this, the easier it will be for them to find someone.

Anyway, just my R0.02 :)
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Eish, some of you guys. I just want to add a little to the compliments bit. Attracting a woman is no different to training a dog - you reward her for good behaviour. Paying her compliments that she doesn't deserve is not going to get you any action. She's beautiful, she knows it, and she's used to hearing it from several guys just like you. What are you doing to differentiate yourself from these guys? All you're doing is lowering your value because you're saying that you're exactly like the others. I'm not saying go out and be a douche, but know what you're worth and don't sell yourself short by lowering your value and increasing hers when the outcome is that you won't get anything in return.

Remember that women are looking for someone to look after them and their offspring, not someone who is going to leave her stranded in the cave while you're out banging someone else. The reason why giving her compliments right off the bat will immediately raise the walls is because you're actually saying that you're interested in her, which she reads as being you wanting her for sex. The power of choice lies with her, not with you and therefore you will actually need to satisfy the criteria that she's looking for in a man (i.e. someone who will look after her, not someone who wants sex).

Compliments are to be earned, not to be dished out freely. And even then, it should rarely be a compliment about her looks (why tell her what she already knows?), but about her personality. Since she has the power of choice, she's the one who will need to do the chasing. She wants you to make her earn your affections. It's her way of selecting a mate. The sooner guys realise this, the easier it will be for them to find someone.

Anyway, just my R0.02 :)
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Mike your 2c is worth a lot.
Thanks that was a good simplification on the subject of compliments.
 
The_Assimilator said:
Out of curiosity, what? TBH I haven't had much luck with online dating sites... but then I haven't tried too hard either...
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The problem with online dating sites is that people try to make themselves look good, with pics and their write-ups. It's a very long and drawn out process, from chatting a bit, to getting them to reveal more about their "true" selves, to setting up a meeting, and then finally meeting and possibly discovering that they're not really what you're looking for. Then you have to repeat the process ad-infinitum which can get boring very quickly.

I find it better, and more fun, to cut out all the red tape and do it the old fashioned way. You see what you want, there's the excitement/nervousness of approaching, and if she's not what you're looking for then you haven't wasted the countless hours that you would have if you went the online route.
 
The_Assimilator said:
Out of curiosity, what? TBH I haven't had much luck with online dating sites... but then I haven't tried too hard either...
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Personally I am virtually unable to get anywhere with women through online dating. The most I get is some lame online conversation.
They get flooded with so many messages, they can pick and choose so most of us get ignored.

It's easier to go out and learn to approach women in person.
 
I was skeptical about online dating too... I just tried it as an experiment, met a few nice girls and still with one of them.

Okcupid specifically though, women join that site for it's quizzes and dating is optional.
 
As a woman, it's LOL to read the guys dishing out dating advice lol!! But after having a good laught, let me tell you, half of the advice you got here is not going to get you anywhere with a girl.

StonerStuart, now you need to chat to girls about dating etc, what they are looking for / how they want to be approached etc. Then you have advice from both sides, which would make finding a partner much easier :)
 
Nicci said:
As a woman, it's LOL to read the guys dishing out dating advice lol!! But after having a good laught, let me tell you, half of the advice you got here is not going to get you anywhere with a girl.

StonerStuart, now you need to chat to girls about dating etc, what they are looking for / how they want to be approached etc. Then you have advice from both sides, which would make finding a partner much easier :)
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Hey Nicci, yeah everything in here has been taken with a siphon of salt.
 
Whenever I see pick-up advice threads I always get reminded of this joke I saw some time ago.

100% guaranteed pick-up line to works all the time is "Does this smell like chloroform to you?" Only side effect is you might injure your back picking her up afterwards... :)
 
Nicci said:
As a woman, it's LOL to read the guys dishing out dating advice lol!! But after having a good laught, let me tell you, half of the advice you got here is not going to get you anywhere with a girl.

StonerStuart, now you need to chat to girls about dating etc, what they are looking for / how they want to be approached etc. Then you have advice from both sides, which would make finding a partner much easier :)
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To be fair, there is a lot to laugh about in this thread, and I will admit I have been following it mostly.

Now, there are some advice in here that is good, however I don't think they really explain how it works. I am not expert, but I like reading up on how to do things, of which this was one.

#1 is confidence, guys find hot or beautiful woman attractive, just as we find that attractive, they generally find confidence in men attractive. So the advice that you need to be confident, is good, faking it can work with some. Personally, I am very much a introvert, only a little bit shy, but when it comes to something that I know, I am pretty good at showing off just how confident I am.

#2 is practice. Without practice you not really going to find that person, so even if you have to go out and just make mistakes, is a start. A good start would probably be to have some pointers. The best I have found online is videos, audio books, and ebooks from themodernman (The modern man). It explains #1, it gives many good pointers on how to practice and generally speaking their followers have a very good success rate. I say this because I have used many of them and it actually works.

The reason why confidence works, is because it goes back to the basic primal principle of animals, the alpha male gets the girl. I am sure you have seen ugly guys, short guys, and generally speaking guys in all kinds of forms getting fairly hot girls and you then have to ask yourself, how is that possible.

So step #1 when you meet a girl, is to get her attracted to you, by just being plain confident. Walk over, introduce yourself, you don't even need a pickup line. Now once you have created attraction, next you need to keep it going, find something you both can talk about, but instead of just boring questions, you instead need to flirt ect. It is the language of love and this is one of those things you can't teach someone, they have to practice it.

Getting a few more hobbies is actually a good idea, because if you are generally busy, you also seem more interesting than someone that goes home every single night of his life playing games, coding, or what have you behind the computer. Don't get me wrong, that is exactly what I do, and I love it, because I am an introvert, I get my energy from being alone, vs extroverts that get it by being between people.

One of the best things I have found is, join a dance studio, and start learning to dance, you have no idea how many girls actually like to dance, many of them single too. I joined a dance studio at the start of March, and to my surprise, this is almost where I meet the most girls that fall in the criteria that I have. The best thing also is, there are usually 2 to 3 girls for every guy there on the social evenings. Did you know they stand in a queue next to the dance floor, and all the guys do is, pickup the next girl in the front of the queue, take her for a spin around the floor, drop her off at the end of the queue and pickup the next one at the front. It is crazy how many I now meet this way.

There are a lot more things you will have to learn, I can't even begin to think about them all, but its a fun journey.

So now I am at the point, where girls on a regular basis ask me for my number, keep on asking me if I have time to go do things with them, and sadly I am now mostly in the position where I have to give them the bad news that I am not interested and/or already doing something with someone else. I am just your regular gamer nerd, love to sit at home, play games, watch tv series ect ect. I am pretty sure if you really want to, you can start meeting someone on a weekly or even daily basis, all depends on how much time you will put in.

ps. Have fun while you are at it :)
 
Nicci said:
As a woman, it's LOL to read the guys dishing out dating advice lol!! But after having a good laught, let me tell you, half of the advice you got here is not going to get you anywhere with a girl.
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IMO I find that taking advice from guys who have had success with women to be more valuable than taking advice from a woman. Just because you're a woman doesn't mean that you know what you want, nor that it applies to most other women out there. You're all emotional creatures when put on the spot, no matter how lame you think that some of this stuff is when reading it now :p
 
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Ok, here is my top tip....

If you're hot... getting chicks is easy and requires little effort, if you're not... don't set the bar too high and take what you can get! :D
 
Aqua_lung said:
Ok, here is my top tip....

If you're hot... getting chicks is easy and requires little effort, if you're not... Make a lot of money, women normally find power/money way more attractive than actual looks. :D
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FIFY :)
 
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