bubblebrain8
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Masculinity versus femininity.
Imagine the following situation:
You buy yourself a new cat and you bring this cat home. You bring it home and you're excited to do all the cat stuff that you know, cats, love to do.
So, what's the first thing you do? Well, you say "okay, boy, come here. I want you to roll over.... roll over..." and the cat sits there, looks at you kind of funny and doesn't move. And you kind of scratch your head. You're wondering what's wrong with this cat? Why isn't it rolling over?
You shrug it off and say, okay fine. "All right, boy, let's go. Let's go to the park. I'm going to take you for a walk to the park", so you grab the leash, hook it up and walk your cat out the door. He's resisting a little bit, but you kind of pull him anyways, and you're walking to the park and you're walking through the park. And as you're walking through, people are looking at you a little bit funny but you don't really mind. So you're just walking and you got your bag of stuff and you got your cat and you're just enjoying the beautiful day and then you get out onto the grassy patch and you take out a tennis ball from your bag and you throw it out there far into the grass and you say "go... go boy" and you unhook the cat and you say "go fetch the ball" and the cat just sits there and looks at you kind of funny and starts looking around and sniffing the grass.
Hmm. What's wrong with this damn cat?
Did the SPCA give me a dud?
Oh, I know! He wants the frisbee! ...so you pull out the frisbee, I'll try the frisbee I got. "Let's go play Frisbee boy" and so you throw the frisbee out there towards the cat and it just flies over his head. He doesn't jump for it.
At this point you're going to look a bit concerned, you're a little frustrated. Maybe you're thinking I bought the wrong cat.
Something's going on with this cat.
All right, I'll give it a another couple shots. I'm sure we'll break them in, you say to yourself. All right, so you get into the car and you're driving back home and then an idea hits you. Hey, Why don't we go to the pet store? You'll go to the pet store and buy you some cool cat toys. They're going like to play with and as you're driving to the pet store with your cat, they're sitting here near you. At the front seat, you roll down the window and say "go ahead, boy, stick your head out the window. Feel the air" And you try to stick him there towards the window but he's afraid he runs away from the window.
....Okay, kind of weird, you're thinking yourself. Well let's just keep driving to the pet store so you drive to the pet store and there you pick out some nice toys forum and then you drive back home and you come back home and you're coming in there with your bag of toys and you pull out a bone "Here boy. Here's a bone. You like bones, right?" And you throw it in front of him and he just sits there and kind of sniffs at the bone and then turns around and walks away.
What's wrong here? This is ludacris? Right? Ludacris is the problem is that you're treating the cat like the dog. The problem is that we don't know who we're dealing with here.
And this is exactly what many do with the opposite sex. This is exactly what OP does with the opposite sex.
If you're a man, you treat the woman not like a woman, but like a man. And if you're a woman, you treat the man, not like a man, but like a woman.
And this is at the very core of many of the issues that you have in your relationship. If not known by you, then definitely known by your imaginary SO - Talking to you here Mr. spectrum-poly
Imagine the following situation:
You buy yourself a new cat and you bring this cat home. You bring it home and you're excited to do all the cat stuff that you know, cats, love to do.
So, what's the first thing you do? Well, you say "okay, boy, come here. I want you to roll over.... roll over..." and the cat sits there, looks at you kind of funny and doesn't move. And you kind of scratch your head. You're wondering what's wrong with this cat? Why isn't it rolling over?
You shrug it off and say, okay fine. "All right, boy, let's go. Let's go to the park. I'm going to take you for a walk to the park", so you grab the leash, hook it up and walk your cat out the door. He's resisting a little bit, but you kind of pull him anyways, and you're walking to the park and you're walking through the park. And as you're walking through, people are looking at you a little bit funny but you don't really mind. So you're just walking and you got your bag of stuff and you got your cat and you're just enjoying the beautiful day and then you get out onto the grassy patch and you take out a tennis ball from your bag and you throw it out there far into the grass and you say "go... go boy" and you unhook the cat and you say "go fetch the ball" and the cat just sits there and looks at you kind of funny and starts looking around and sniffing the grass.
Hmm. What's wrong with this damn cat?
Did the SPCA give me a dud?
Oh, I know! He wants the frisbee! ...so you pull out the frisbee, I'll try the frisbee I got. "Let's go play Frisbee boy" and so you throw the frisbee out there towards the cat and it just flies over his head. He doesn't jump for it.
At this point you're going to look a bit concerned, you're a little frustrated. Maybe you're thinking I bought the wrong cat.
Something's going on with this cat.
All right, I'll give it a another couple shots. I'm sure we'll break them in, you say to yourself. All right, so you get into the car and you're driving back home and then an idea hits you. Hey, Why don't we go to the pet store? You'll go to the pet store and buy you some cool cat toys. They're going like to play with and as you're driving to the pet store with your cat, they're sitting here near you. At the front seat, you roll down the window and say "go ahead, boy, stick your head out the window. Feel the air" And you try to stick him there towards the window but he's afraid he runs away from the window.
....Okay, kind of weird, you're thinking yourself. Well let's just keep driving to the pet store so you drive to the pet store and there you pick out some nice toys forum and then you drive back home and you come back home and you're coming in there with your bag of toys and you pull out a bone "Here boy. Here's a bone. You like bones, right?" And you throw it in front of him and he just sits there and kind of sniffs at the bone and then turns around and walks away.
What's wrong here? This is ludacris? Right? Ludacris is the problem is that you're treating the cat like the dog. The problem is that we don't know who we're dealing with here.
And this is exactly what many do with the opposite sex. This is exactly what OP does with the opposite sex.
If you're a man, you treat the woman not like a woman, but like a man. And if you're a woman, you treat the man, not like a man, but like a woman.
And this is at the very core of many of the issues that you have in your relationship. If not known by you, then definitely known by your imaginary SO - Talking to you here Mr. spectrum-poly
