Unexpected pregnancy

[mug11]

Hi everyone....for obvious reasons...i want to be anonymous writing this message!

So I know this girl for a while now, we are just friends, nothing else.
3 weeks ago , we had unprotected sex, during and after i asked her a few times if it's ok and maybe we should rather use a condom and she assured me it's ok.

yesterday i was told she is pregnant.
seems like i am unable to convince her to abort...i asked her how far is she, and she said 5 weeks! but we had sex 3.5 weeks ago!!!

however someone posted this on the internet:

She might not understand the difference between a doctor telling her "you are x weeks pregnant" and a conception date. (A doctor times a pregnancy by the first day of the last period, or if that date is not known, by an implied first day of the last period. Doctors don't mess around giving conception dates, they don't know what they are

is this true?

 

[Ninja'd]

Attention Sam: I am not this guy.

Stupid of you for not using protection. And under no circumstances should you tell a woman to get an abortion.

 

[themba990]

I don't know whether it's true or not but i do have one question, is your friend hot?

 

[Maverick Jester]

Stupid of you for not using protection. And under no circumstances should you tell a woman to get an abortion.

This right here...

You didn't use protection- sorry mate, these are the consequences...

If really in doubt, have a paternity test done after the child is born...

 

[Ninja'd]

And then you believed her too when she said it was okay? :wtf: Sounds like a baby trap.

 

[Maverick Jester]

And then you believed her too when she said it was okay? :wtf: Sounds like a baby trap.

Shouldn't be up to the woman to decide whether or not to use protection... She ain't the one that might be a little premature...

 

[mug11]

And then you believed her too when she said it was okay? :wtf: Sounds like a baby trap.

i know....
sad i know this girl for 2 years.thought i could trust her :-(

 

[Shake&Bake]

Just off the bat with the "Unprotected is ok - really it is" line
I get the feeling she was setting you up.

I appreciate I'm judgemental in that train of thought - but it happened to a friend a few years ago.

Get a hold of 3Talk after the birth - perhaps they'll have a DNA show lined up if you're lucky.
Cos I've heard those tests are pricey :erm:

 

[Maverick Jester]

i know....
sad i know this girl for 2 years.thought i could trust her :-(

Dude- seems like you couldn't trust yourself in this situation...

 

[Ninja'd]

Shouldn't be up to the woman to decide whether or not to use protection... She ain't the one that might be a little premature...

Also, diseases and crabs.

 

[Ancalagon]

This would be my nightmare come true. I am so glad I have never had that phone call.

My sympathies.

 

[Nerfherder]

Hi everyone....for obvious reasons...i want to be anonymous writing this message!

So I know this girl for a while now, we are just friends, nothing else.
3 weeks ago , we had unprotected sex, during and after i asked her a few times if it's ok and maybe we should rather use a condom and she assured me it's ok.

yesterday i was told she is pregnant.
seems like i am unable to convince her to abort...i asked her how far is she, and she said 5 weeks! but we had sex 3.5 weeks ago!!!

however someone posted this on the internet:

She might not understand the difference between a doctor telling her "you are x weeks pregnant" and a conception date. (A doctor times a pregnancy by the first day of the last period, or if that date is not known, by an implied first day of the last period. Doctors don't mess around giving conception dates, they don't know what they are

is this true?

Its true... the pregnancy is measured by your last period. Its impossible to know the conception date.

The other thing is 5 weeks is not a pregnancy, its a missed period.

 

[ijacobs3]

Hi everyone....for obvious reasons...i want to be anonymous writing this message!

So I know this girl for a while now, we are just friends, nothing else.
3 weeks ago , we had unprotected sex, during and after i asked her a few times if it's ok and maybe we should rather use a condom and she assured me it's ok.

yesterday i was told she is pregnant.
seems like i am unable to convince her to abort...i asked her how far is she, and she said 5 weeks! but we had sex 3.5 weeks ago!!!

however someone posted this on the internet:

She might not understand the difference between a doctor telling her "you are x weeks pregnant" and a conception date. (A doctor times a pregnancy by the first day of the last period, or if that date is not known, by an implied first day of the last period. Doctors don't mess around giving conception dates, they don't know what they are

is this true?

you did it, it's happened ,

Now man up, and be responsible

 

[mug11]

Attention Sam: I am not this guy.

Stupid of you for not using protection. And under no circumstances should you tell a woman to get an abortion.

but if i don't.....i really tell her it's ok to have the baby?
she told me to take my time and think....but i don't want her to think i need to think about it, and maybe change my mind later...i need to make sure that,that is what i want, and i am 100% sure of it.

 

[ChocolateBadger]

Oooh dear. That is by far one of my worst fears. Sorry mate but you better start increasing your job performance.

Yes it is wrong to tell her to get an abortion but there is also a stigma about it. I'm not sure about 5 weeks or 3.5 weeks but I know that there is a time windows where the abortion is as simple is a prescribed pill. Obviously she can also choose to keep it or put it up for adoption.

I think you need to clarify that it is your and what your plans are from here on.

EDIT: Also yeah I agree with another post here. 5 weeks is a little soon to start jumping to conclusions because stress can play a factor. Unless she has been to the doctor already.

 

[Ninja'd]

Get a hold of 3Talk after the birth - perhaps they'll have a DNA show lined up if you're lucky.
Cos I've heard those tests are pricey :erm:

It is.

 

[Maverick Jester]

Also, diseases and crabs.

That goes without saying...

 

[mug11]

Its true... the pregnancy is measured by your last period. Its impossible to know the conception date.

The other thing is 5 weeks is not a pregnancy, its a missed period.

I asked her,how far are you and she said 5 weeks?

 

[Shake&Bake]

Otherwise you're left with the option OP - to go down on one knee and punch her in stomach as hard as you can! :twisted:


/applies flame suit

 

[Ninja'd]

but if i don't.....i really tell her it's ok to have the baby?

You tell her it's her choice.