Urgent. Peadophile?

marco said:
My daughter aged 16 wants me to meet her "boyfriend" tomorrow. She is 16 and he is 23. I do not agree with it. I think he is a peadophile.
What do you think?
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If she lives under your roof she should play by your rules :p Corny I know:o

gdiza said:
Dude, chicks mature alot faster than guys do.
When I go out, I meet alot of girls who get into clubs who are under-age but because they look older (especially edgemead chicks) guys chat, and hook up etc.

I've always believed that age is but a number

So long the girl in question knows the difference between right and wrong... let her make her own choices.

You can stop her yes, but then she'll find a way to do it behind your back... what do you want... VISIBLE things happening or INVISIBLE?

You h ave to just have faith that 'they' know what they doing and that 'they' have been taught well (aids, pregnancies etc etc etc)
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No 16yo girl is ready or mature enough for what most 23yo guys are looking for.... Im 23 and Im sorry but if you have to date a 16yo you are either emotionally imature or just looking for one thing.

/2c
 
Devill said:
If she lives under your roof she should play by your rules :p Corny I know:o



No 16yo girl is ready or mature enough for what most 23yo guys are looking for.... Im 23 and Im sorry but if you have to date a 16yo you are either emotionally imature or just looking for one thing.

/2c
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:eek: Right on:D
 
peder said:
i agree with you guys, making your daughter not being allowed to see the guy is going to be the most wrong thing to do. at least she wants you to meet him, meaning that she thinks you'll approve. Most don't let their parents even know.

My Opinion from a 17yr Old guy
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I agree, if you forbid your daughter to see this guy, she will not listen to you for sure, so just play along......
 
Jewelbox said:
I agree, if you forbid your daughter to see this guy, she will not listen to you for sure, so just play along......
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What do you think this guy wants from their relationship?

1) A stimulating intellegent conversation? Well then he must be a retard.

2) A loving mature relationship? Well that will be a problem, she is still in school!!

Nha I am sorry but a 16yo girl is not mature enough to handel the advances of a 23yo man. FFS 16yo girl can not even pick a pair of shoes....
 
Devill said:
What do you think this guy wants from their relationship?

1) A stimulating intellegent conversation? Well then he must be a retard.

2) A loving mature relationship? Well that will be a problem, she is still in school!!

Nha I am sorry but a 16yo girl is not mature enough to handel the advances of a 23yo man. FFS 16yo girl can not even pick a pair of shoes....
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Oh s**t.

:o

Ja. Difficult. I wouldn't approve either...

But meet the guy. The daughter at least trusts the father enough to introduce him... Perhaps give HER some credit... Forget the guy for now...

As I say, meet him, THEN have a talk with her....

Keep the trust/respect between daughter and father.

Damn difficult situation, though...

To OP, good luck.

;)

:)
 
Pooky said:
My one friend is 18 and her boyfriend is 37!
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wow. long relationship?

(btw, if that was my daughter... oh man... i'd put the skinning skills i learned from hunting to use...)
 
My mother was engaged to my father before she wrote her matric exam in 1970. My father was 27 at the time and a university lecturer. They only got married though a year and a half later. I, the eldest, were only born 6 years later and my parents are still happily married thankyou very much.

I don't see someone in their early twenties who is attracted to a senior high-school girl, as being a pedophile. I do see it as a relationship that will have many problems, but not more than that.

Being a pedophile means having sexual desires towards pre-teenage girls.
 
Picard said:
I don't see someone in their early twenties who is attracted to a senior high-school girl, as being a pedophile. I do see it as a relationship that will have many problems, but not more than that.

Being a pedophile means having sexual desires towards pre-teenage girls.
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agreed, but i'd rather avoid those problems in the relationship that WILL come to happen.


and yeah, pedos go for pre-teens, but i think the O/P just used the term loosely to express his level of discomfort with the situation...
 
Picard said:
My mother was engaged to my father before she wrote her matric exam in 1970. My father was 27 at the time and a university lecturer. They only got married though a year and a half later. I, the eldest, were only born 6 years later and my parents are still happily married thankyou very much.

I don't see someone in their early twenties who is attracted to a senior high-school girl, as being a pedophile. I do see it as a relationship that will have many problems, but not more than that.

Being a pedophile means having sexual desires towards pre-teenage girls.
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Nice to hear they are still together.

All i am saying is the chances that this guys has honest intentions are 100billion - 1.

But like the other poster said meet the guy and keep your daughters trust, then have a talk with her.
 
Devill said:
Nha I am sorry but a 16yo girl is not mature enough to handel the advances of a 23yo man. FFS 16yo girl can not even pick a pair of shoes....
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What a load of cr@p, when my buddies and myself did our national service, many of us were over 20 and many of us had girlfriends who were 16/17 (going on 30), we had cars we had money we could take them out, we certainly werent responsible most of the time, but there were no pregnancies from any of the relationships, and the girls were pretty wise about how far they were willing to go.
Considering many of the guys were away for many months , you can imagine how horny they were when they came home on pass. :eek:

At the end of the day it boils down to trust, as a parent you either trust your child or you dont, and if you have done you part right, then you need not worry.
 
Nanfeishen said:
What a load of cr@p, when my buddies and myself did our national service, many of us were over 20 and many of us had girlfriends who were 16/17 (going on 30), we had cars we had money we could take them out, we certainly werent responsible most of the time, but there were no pregnancies from any of the relationships, and the girls were pretty wise about how far they were willing to go.
Considering many of the guys were away for many months , you can imagine how horny they were when they came home on pass. :eek:

At the end of the day it boils down to trust, as a parent you either trust your child or you dont, and if you have done you part right, then you need not worry.
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Whahahahaha. :D

Yes i can see how 99% of the GIRLS aged 16 and 17 are responsible and mature:rolleyes:

Mmm teen pregnancies are 10 fold wht they were 20 years ago.... Yes their will be 1 out of 10000 girls mature enough but 9999 that are not. You willing to play those odds?
 
Devill said:
Mmm teen pregnancies are 10 fold wht they were 20 years ago.... Yes their will be 1 out of 10000 girls mature enough but 9999 that are not. You willing to play those odds?
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1) Right - Sexually active teens are more prevalent today than 20years ago, hence more preganancies.

2) Wrong - Teenage girls are way more mature today than 20 years ago, more knowledgable, and more worldly.
 
Nanfeishen said:
1) Right - Sexually active teens are more prevalent today than 20years ago, hence more preganancies.

2) Wrong - Teenage girls are way more mature today than 20 years ago, more knowledgable, and more worldly.
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+1 ..... and point 2 is very evident. Most 12yo's know more nowadays than I knew in high school .... reality :o
 
Nanfeishen said:
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2) Wrong - Teenage girls are way more mature today than 20 years ago, more knowledgable, and more worldly.
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that may be true, but girls are constantly *TRYING* to be more mature than the other though, and in trying to prove that they start drinking + smoking and having sex at younger and younger ages. blame the parents. blame the media. blame society. but its happening. and because the girls are trying to be more mature, guys are trying to keep up (and be badass) by starting doing things younger and younger too. this, to me, isnt maturity. its the exact opposite of it. a mature person doesnt try to prove he/she is mature by being promiscuous or being a badass etc... thats just seeking external validation. its insecure, not mature.
 
I pretty much wouldn't like it either. Most guys that age looking at younger girls just want to shag a young chick. Wouldn't call him a pedophile, but he definitely isn't dating her for the deep conversations.

At 16 you think you're all grown up, at 26 look think back and wonder how you could have been that stupid.
 
Nanfeishen said:
1) Right - Sexually active teens are more prevalent today than 20years ago, hence more preganancies.

2) Wrong - Teenage girls are way more mature today than 20 years ago, more knowledgable, and more worldly.
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Wrong: Girls today might know more of how sex/the world works but that does not make them mature enough to deal with it :rolleyes:

At age 5 I read and understood math textbooks (gr1-6).... but im sure i would not have really understood the implications in a bussiness setup of even the simplest format...

Girls of 16 might know how sex works ectect but have you ever wondered if they can really deal with it?

If you think understanding and "handeling" something is the samething you need to check in at your local brain surgeon, and get some scans done.

Mephisto_Helix said:
+1 ..... and point 2 is very evident. Most 12yo's know more nowadays than I knew in high school .... reality :o
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Which is not saying a lot :p
 
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