Was I wrong?

Pitbull

Pitbull

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Long story short.

My brother slapped my little boy on Sunday for hitting him in the balls. (He was trying to play with my brother and he hit him in the nuts by accident.) Now my Brother is a big guy and because of this he thinks he can do as he please.

The moment I saw hit hitting my kid against his head I jumped down from the trailer and hit him a few times. A scuffle ensued and I got another few hits in this all while my dad tried to calm the situation.

All of this happened in front of my little boy, my wife and my dad.

I gave him quite a hiding and he needed stitches to his left eye. The problem now is that my dad says it was uncalled for and I had no reason to hit my brother. a Massive family fight ensued, I took my kids and the wife and left. My dad pissed me off for standing up for him hitting my kid which is 3 years old.

So now my whole family is cross at me for standing up for my kid. (Pls note this was not the first time he slapped my son and I have warned him before)

Anyway, I'm now without a family because of this, I just need to know if I was right in all of this... Just thinking of this now makes me livid again... I can kill him I swear.
 
FFS what an idiot.

Tell him if he needs to slap a 3 yo he is really not much of a man.

You were wrong in hitting your brother (but he did deserve it :p). You should have tried to talk to him and make him understand he was an arse.

Imo you were right.
 
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I think you're justified.
You can't slap a 3 year old no matter the reason, and especially if you're not the parent and taking into account that you've warned him before.

I would do the same, would've seen red as well.
 
You were wrong, not for what you did but for your reacton. You could have been more subtle about the situation. I'm not on your brother's side, he was wrong too and he should know better because he is older.
 
You both were wrong. You don't smack a kid against the head. Unless you are a teacher and the kid is 13 and a little prick. ;)
 
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Well its really uncalled for to hit a little kid against the head.

Maybe going as far as to give him stitches was a bit much ;)
But I reckon you were right in this regard.
 
PythonFSi said:
You were wrong, not for what you did but for your reacton. You could have been more subtle about the situation. I'm not on your brother's side, he was wrong too and he should know better because he is older.
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Yes, you're right I guess. I can understand why my dad is so furious. But like I said, it's not the first time he did it and I warned him.

1. It's my children and NO ONE hit's them except for me.
2. He's a pretty big guy and thinks everyone is scared of him. But he's a damn coward for hitting a 3yo kid. I assume he didn't think I'll respond to it the way I did.

But what is bugging me now the most is the fact that he saw all of this. I couldn't care less about the family tbh. But what example is that for my child?

I feel justified in what I did, but also feel remose now for him having seen it.
 
Blah blah blah.

Sort it out with your brother man to man, forget about the rest of the family members, they are only choosing sides because they have no choice in the matter, and will naturally protect the weaker one.

But, if you and your brother solve the problem on your own, the need for them to protect the weaker one will disappear.

Note though, if you at any time lost your self control out of anger, then you owe your brother an apology for losing control of yourself. If you were 100% in control, then you are a malicious bastard and should have a good think about how you use the violence tool.

Either way you have to explain to your lightie exactly what was going through your mind and try to restore some balance in his little head.

There's a very good reason wolves don't actually tear each other apart during "family" confrontations.
 
PythonFSi said:
Ah! You know what they say: Blood is thicker that water. I'm sure your family won't hold it against you for long.
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True, but I will not let my kids near him again as I will lose it and might end up in jail or worse :o Best to stear clear of these kind of situations. Only problem there is..... He still lives with my folks.
 
Pitbull said:
Yes, you're right I guess. I can understand why my dad is so furious. But like I said, it's not the first time he did it and I warned him.

1. It's my children and NO ONE hit's them except for me.
2. He's a pretty big guy and thinks everyone is scared of him. But he's a damn coward for hitting a 3yo kid. I assume he didn't think I'll respond to it the way I did.

But what is bugging me now the most is the fact that he saw all of this. I couldn't care less about the family tbh. But what example is that for my child?

I feel justified in what I did, but also feel remose now for him having seen it.
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Your dad this your brother that... Have you spoken to your boy about what happend ?
 
Firstly i had to laugh at getting up from the trailer :D

Jerry
Jerry

Is this the brother with HIV? because beating an HIV person can lead to getting infected yourself so if this is the brother then you are rather silly in my opinion.
 
pitbull, i'm on your side except for one thing - wasn't needed to klap him SO hard that he needed stitches...

secondly, he might have done it out of reaction - we all know how eina it is - but i wasn't there so didn't see it...

so yeah, things like this happen - he over reacted and so did you... i feel sorry for him though - he got a punch in the balls and stitches! ouch!
 
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