Was I wrong?

Sigh. This is what makes me worried about the owners of pitbulls.
 
killadoob said:
Firstly i had to laugh at getting up from the trailer :D

Jerry
Jerry

Is this the brother with HIV, because beating an HIV person can lead to getting infected yourself so if this is the brother then you are rather silly in my opinion.
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Nope, it's not the HIV one. The one I had a fight with is the youngest one. He's 25 now.
 
Stiches in the eye ... eish thats hectic. I think you probably scared your son more by fighting with your bro, than him smacking you kid. First you shoud have just intervened, not violently (your son is gonna remember this for a long time - and it is a bad life lesson). Quite simple, openly infront of all reprimand your brother, remind him that physical / corporal punishment is unlawful in S.A. Then again console your son, explain what your brother did was wrong, but also why he reacted that way. If your dad is a stand up person, he would have definately supported you on that.
 
If its your brother with AIDS and you punched him to the point he needed stiches.. lets hope you both didnt split skin.
 
Pitbull said:
But what is bugging me now the most is the fact that he saw all of this. I couldn't care less about the family tbh. But what example is that for my child?

I feel justified in what I did, but also feel remose now for him having seen it.
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I presume you want frank advice, so you get it

You should have thought of the damage you do to your child before acting in such a rash way.

If your child sees you getting violent (don't know how often this happens in your house/family), he will have one of two reactions as he grows up - he will either hate you for it, or emulate you. No other option!
 
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Yissem, anyone hits my child I will bury them. Its hard for people to understand without kids. When you have kids you change.

Hmm, I think it was a natural reaction from Pitbull. Like I said. If it was me I would have buried him right there and then. My kids come first and if the others are too stupid to understand or too scared then thats there problem.

Pitbull, I reckon you did your duty as a father. Also I dont think your brother will do it again.
 
I think in a way you both were wrong, firstly you NEVER hit someone over the head.

But you overreacted and should have just said to your brother to say sorry...
 
Esea said:
Well now that depends on what your conclusion is after these jjjj "formites" had there fill
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That is the reason for this thread.

I know that what he saw was wrong. And I will have to explain this to him.

1. I know I overreacted (I was livid)
2. The kids saw all of this.

The problem I'm faced with as far as I can see is that there is 2 things playing here.

On the one side my kid knows that his dad will stand up for him no matter what. But on the flip side he saw me hitting his uncle. Now I don't want my kids growing up seeing shyt like this. What if he gets the wrong idea and think it's the only way to settle differences. But I have no idea what to tell him. I don't want him to get the idea that I'm sorry for standing up for him, but I want him to know that fighting is bad.
 
Devill said:
Yeah like the police do.... like armies do.... Talking and asking only goes so far, I mean look at what wonders our talks have done to better the situation in Zim :rolleyes:
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You compare the way a parent handles conflict with the military forces of a country ???????????? :rolleyes::rolleyes:
 
Slootvreter said:
Would you hit your father if he did it?
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He wouldn't but if he did, I doubt I would have had a go at him. He's an old man and that would make me no better than him hitting my child. However it's a different story when it comes to my brother though.....
 
See, the thing that clears it for me is that the brother did it before and Pitbull talked to him before. He didnt listen.
 
Pitbull said:
Yes, you're right I guess. I can understand why my dad is so furious. But like I said, it's not the first time he did it and I warned him.

1. It's my children and NO ONE hit's them except for me.
2. He's a pretty big guy and thinks everyone is scared of him. But he's a damn coward for hitting a 3yo kid. I assume he didn't think I'll respond to it the way I did.

But what is bugging me now the most is the fact that he saw all of this. I couldn't care less about the family tbh. But what example is that for my child?

I feel justified in what I did, but also feel remose now for him having seen it.
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I think you did the right thing although you might have over reacted a bit. You could have just verbally warned your brother but you do say you told him before not to hit your kid, so I guess he asked for it.

But I also feel close family should be allowed to spank ones kid. If they do something that deserves a spanking they should be spanked. BUT, who the hell smacks a 3 year old on the head? Wtf.
 
to be honest it sounds all messed up to me,
1)Maybe its just the way I grew up, but my parents never hit me (we were 4 children we had our issues,)
2)Hitting someone in the balls - sounds like no manors to me at all,
3)Violence in front of kids and wives?Not to mention stitches and hitting someone over the head? I would be ashamed if my children fought like animals, I mean this sounds all backwater to me.

This sounds outside my lifestyle / experience.
 
Geriatrix said:
I think you did the right thing although you might have over reacted a bit. You could have just verbally warned your brother but you do say you told him before not to hit your kid, so I guess he asked for it.

But I also feel close family should be allowed to spank ones kid. If they do something that deserves a spanking they should be spanked. BUT, who the hell smacks a 3 year old on the head? Wtf.
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I disagree to a degree.

Yes, if I'm not around and my kids are naughty by all means my dad or mother can spank them if needed. They are parents themselves and understand punishment. My brother on the other hand has nothing to do with my kids, he doesn't have kids of his own so he has no right to punish my kids by any means.

And yes, if he gave him a spank on the bum that would have been a different story. But to slap my kid against the head so that his ear was all red ..... NEVER!
 
Morgoth said:
to be honest it sounds all messed up to me,
1)Maybe its just the way I grew up, but my parents never hit me (we were 4 children we had our issues,)
2)Hitting someone in the balls - sounds like no manors to me at all,
3)Violence in front of kids and wives?Not to mention stitches and hitting someone over the head? I would be ashamed if my children fought like animals, I mean this sounds all backwater to me.

This sounds outside my lifestyle / experience.
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I agree that what my kid did was wrong. The 2 of them play sometimes and my boy gets a little rough sometimes. But in no way would he have aimed to hit him in the nuts. He's 3 yo he doesn't know better. And I have been struck in the nuts by him a few times by accident. I don't slap him against the head ;)
 
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