Was I wrong?

SiriS said:
Jeesuzz :eek: If you disagree with someone, after normal discussion/arguments failed, then tell them to fark off, or kark them out, or boycott the next family gathering or whatever. Not bash the offender into hospital. I'm not saying/implying you will ever hit your wife, but geez, if you can lose your cool like that, I mean how do you control it?

Are you sure you jumped off the trailer, not out of the trailer? ;)
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Yes,

I have anger issues. I have had it all my life, I have never directed it at anyone close to me till this Sunday and it's eating me up inside. Maybe I should take myself and my brother to go see a shrink :o.

That being said:

I was busy loading things on a double axel trailer and was standing on top of a few things when this happened. He was at the bottom having a smoke while the wife and the kid was standing there looking at what we're doing. My dad was at the bottom busy with the rope when it happened. At that stage I jumped from the trailer to where the A-Frame is and walked up to him, I asked my dad if he saw what my brother just did. By that time my wife saw what was coming and took the boy out of the way. I asked my dad if he saw my brother slapping the kid, my dad said no. I looked at my kid who was holding his head and his ear was bloodshot from the slap. I then slapped my brother hard with my left hand, he took a shot at me and then the fists started flying.

It was all over in a minute or 2 when my dad managed to get me off my brother and my wife grabbed me by the shirt and pulled me one side. My borther got up with blood running down his face and walked into the house. My mother came out screaming wanting to know what is going on.

My brother never came out of the house again. I finished loading the trailer, got the wife and the kids and we left. Last night my mother send me an SMS asking if I'm happy now, my brother got 6 stitches to his left eye. I just ignored it and never responded.

I have a sore JAW and a couple of bruises. We both got our fair share in it wasn't a one sided afair.
 
Your boy had blood on his ear? I would have been furious... Not really the hitting type myself but I don't think I would have let him near my son again.
 
cerebus said:
Your boy had blood on his ear? I would have been furious... Not really the hitting type myself but I don't think I would have let him near my son again.
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No it wasn't bleeding but it was red, a throbbing red I could see how sore his ear was from that slap he got...... and he's only 3yo.
 
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Pitbull said:
Long story short.

My brother slapped my little boy on Sunday for hitting him in the balls. (He was trying to play with my brother and he hit him in the nuts by accident.) Now my Brother is a big guy and because of this he thinks he can do as he please.

The moment I saw hit hitting my kid against his head I jumped down from the trailer and hit him a few times. A scuffle ensued and I got another few hits in this all while my dad tried to calm the situation.

All of this happened in front of my little boy, my wife and my dad.

I gave him quite a hiding and he needed stitches to his left eye. The problem now is that my dad says it was uncalled for and I had no reason to hit my brother. a Massive family fight ensued, I took my kids and the wife and left. My dad pissed me off for standing up for him hitting my kid which is 3 years old.

So now my whole family is cross at me for standing up for my kid. (Pls note this was not the first time he slapped my son and I have warned him before)

Anyway, I'm now without a family because of this, I just need to know if I was right in all of this... Just thinking of this now makes me livid again... I can kill him I swear.
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I would say you were wrong if you didn't warn him beforehand and if he didn't slap your kid beforehand, or even asked if it was okay to flex some "discipline muscle" if your boy was being naughty.

But you weren't in this case. He was wrong. You warned him, and you acted on it. Maybe a bit more violently than I would (I'm more passive aggressive, because I know words hurt more than physical violence)

I agree and would love to see the Youtube video of you donnering your brother because he thinks he can do as he pleases all the time
 
Well in any case... There are some people that we have a kind of understanding with that they are allowed to discipline our son if he was to get out of line like the parents in law (he's only 12 months now so not much of that sort of thing yet). But with most people it's strictly our business, and if they were to hit him like that - hard on his head - we would be very offended. He had absolutely no right to even touch your boy, never mind klaap him in a way that you probably wouldn't even do yourself. He actually needs to be brought down a few pegs tbh.
 
Pitbull said:
Yes,

I have anger issues. I have had it all my life, I have never directed it at anyone close to me till this Sunday and it's eating me up inside. Maybe I should take myself and my brother to go see a shrink :o.

That being said:

I was busy loading things on a double axel trailer and was standing on top of a few things when this happened. He was at the bottom having a smoke while the wife and the kid was standing there looking at what we're doing. My dad was at the bottom busy with the rope when it happened. At that stage I jumped from the trailer to where the A-Frame is and walked up to him, I asked my dad if he saw what my brother just did. By that time my wife saw what was coming and took the boy out of the way. I asked my dad if he saw my brother slapping the kid, my dad said no. I looked at my kid who was holding his head and his ear was bloodshot from the slap. I then slapped my brother hard with my left hand, he took a shot at me and then the fists started flying.

It was all over in a minute or 2 when my dad managed to get me off my brother and my wife grabbed me by the shirt and pulled me one side. My borther got up with blood running down his face and walked into the house. My mother came out screaming wanting to know what is going on.

My brother never came out of the house again. I finished loading the trailer, got the wife and the kids and we left. Last night my mother send me an SMS asking if I'm happy now, my brother got 6 stitches to his left eye. I just ignored it and never responded.

I have a sore JAW and a couple of bruises. We both got our fair share in it wasn't a one sided afair.
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Don't get me wrong, your brother should never have hit your child. And the way you described the situation now, it seems a bit more "understandable" what transpired. But as you said, maybe you and your brother (or only you) should see someone - somewhere down the line an outburst like this could cost you much more dearly. And violence is really not the way to deal with a problem.

Maybe it was truly just a once-off, after long simmering issues between the two of you. Only you can tell.
 
In my opinion, he should have given the child a warning. 3 or not, playing or not you don't smack someone down there. I don't care what someone says but your brother was totally wrong in smacking the child in the head, even if the 3 year olf was being naughty. Rather smack him on the bum, not the head.
 
Safferbeauty said:
In my opinion, he should have given the child a warning. 3 or not, playing or not you don't smack someone down there. I don't care what someone says but your brother was totally wrong in smacking the child in the head, even if the 3 year olf was being naughty. Rather smack him on the bum, not the head.
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what part of "accidentally" didn't you understand?

Personally I wouldn't scold (or hit for that matter) a child who did something by accident.

**** HAPPENS
 
Pitbull said:
Long story short.

My brother slapped my little boy on Sunday for hitting him in the balls. (He was trying to play with my brother and he hit him in the nuts by accident.) Now my Brother is a big guy and because of this he thinks he can do as he please.

The moment I saw hit hitting my kid against his head I jumped down from the trailer and hit him a few times. A scuffle ensued and I got another few hits in this all while my dad tried to calm the situation.

All of this happened in front of my little boy, my wife and my dad.

I gave him quite a hiding and he needed stitches to his left eye. The problem now is that my dad says it was uncalled for and I had no reason to hit my brother. a Massive family fight ensued, I took my kids and the wife and left. My dad pissed me off for standing up for him hitting my kid which is 3 years old.

So now my whole family is cross at me for standing up for my kid. (Pls note this was not the first time he slapped my son and I have warned him before)

Anyway, I'm now without a family because of this, I just need to know if I was right in all of this... Just thinking of this now makes me livid again... I can kill him I swear.
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Your where right, he was wrong...
 
Hey pitbull

I would probably do the same!
Your father instinct kicked in and went into overdrive mode.

The question is, do you feel sorry for what you did?
If you do, go and apologise.
If you dont, live with the consequences.
 
I just read your situation Pitbull and didn't bother reading the rest of the thread. Basically what your brother did was uncalled for, I have a son that's almost three (in December) and should anyone be it family, friend or even my wife had to hit my son I would also go ballistic.

A firm spank, lighty on the leg or buttock is sufficient. Nothing major like hitting the head, bad in my opinion. Shyte this gets me pissed :(. No one but the parents are allowed to discipline their kids - end of the story.
 
On the bright side...
Think of all the money you'll be saving on bdays and Xmas.
You can get that iMac soon. :)
 
You beat your brother so hard he needed stitches.

Do you need stitches?
Does your kid need stitches?

You beat you brother so hard - in front of your wife, in front of your child, in front of your father- so hard that he needed stitches.

You BEAT your brother in front of your KID. You BEAT him so badly that he required STITCHES.

Kids learn by example- the same sex parent is the person in the kid's life that he/she is most likely to model their behaviour after. In front of your kid you beat your brother so hard he needed stitches.
 
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