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What's your opinion on people getting married who set up / send out very specific gift lists to their guests? Often these lists mostly include expensive things only and I find that a lot of couples are very hard up on these, constantly reminding you about the list and it's as if they want to say that you dare not deviate from it and dare not pitch up without something.

Personal opinion,
What if I don't have the money to buy one of those as a gift for someone else, and who said I anyway want to spend that much money on you or buy you a gift at all?
Then they have the audacity to specify brands on top of everything else, has got to be AMC Classic pots, nothing else will do etc etc.
 
Personally while I do enjoy giving gifts, I will not be forced into buying something I do not want to or to blow my own budget.

I retaliate with either buying a nice ornament or alternatively I'll buy a R300 giftcard (current limit), from a store of my choice that sells various home items, wrap it inside a nice card and they can then go spend it there.

There was once an exception where the couple already had all home stuff but they wanted to do lanscaping on their new property, so they kindly asked to rather be given cash instead of gifts. They received a nice amount in cash so they donated half to cancer research
 
Gift registries are great because you're buying something the couple wants or needs. If it's too much of an audacity decline the invitation to their wedding.
 
bwana said:
Gift registries are great because you're buying something the couple wants or needs. If it's too much of an audacity decline the invitation to their wedding.
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But people get greedy sometimes, and the stuff they're asking for is too expensive. And then you remember the cheap crap they gave you for your wedding

Also wedding chows and booze is usually free, so sometimes essential to attend
 
Hamish McPanji said:
Also wedding chows and booze is usually free, so sometimes essential to attend
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The cost of your gift should be equal to or greater than the amount of food and drink you consume. That's just good manners. :p

Same goes for flights.
 
bwana said:
The cost of your gift should be equal to or greater than the amount of food and drink you consume. That's just good manners.

Same goes for flights.
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Flights?!! That happens too?

Damn, I think I need to find some richer friends and family.
 
If the gifts are expensive you can put some cash in an envelope.
 
bwana said:
Gift registries are great because you're buying something the couple wants or needs. If it's too much of an audacity decline the invitation to their wedding.
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They need a frying pan, they want a Le Creuset frying pan.
They need a impact drill, they want a Makita impact drill.
Think you get my point, at least put small and affordable things on the list as well.
 
Every wedding I go to, I give the exact same gift. All my friends and family know by now.
 
bigboy529 said:
What's your opinion on people getting married who set up / send out very specific gift lists to their guests? Often these lists mostly include expensive things only and I find that a lot of couples are very hard up on these, constantly reminding you about the list and it's as if they want to say that you dare not deviate from it and dare not pitch up without something.

Personal opinion,
What if I don't have the money to buy one of those as a gift for someone else, and who said I anyway want to spend that much money on you or buy you a gift at all?
Then they have the audacity to specify brands on top of everything else, has got to be AMC Classic pots, nothing else will do etc etc.
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Totally agree. Recently went to a wedding where the gift list was sent out a week before the wedding and the gifts on the list ranged from a dishwasher to a double bed :crylaugh:

Venomous said:
So OP I recommend a R300 @home, edgars/bordmans, woolies, makro, home etc, etc voucher that they can then go spend.
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I ended up giving them a R500 Game gift voucher


bwana said:
The cost of your gift should be equal to or greater than the amount of food and drink you consume. That's just good manners. :p

Same goes for flights.
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In that case they got the better end of the bargain. You even had to pay for your own tea/coffee and soft drinks. The only drinks provided were a revolting fruit squash or water
 
/me kicks thread back to life

hashbrown99 said:
I ended up giving them a R500 Game gift voucher
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Hmmm.... Would it be acceptable to ask for guests to "limit" their purchases to a specific store e.g. Game? I am thinking of doing this as Game has a fairly loose exchange policy and it would allow me to exchange the five toasters I might get for that Le Creuset frying pan I always wanted :crylaugh:
 
Check out the gift registry first. Sometimes the gifts are not unreasonably priced and it saves on a whole lot of thinking. If really out of the way pricey, give a gift voucher. If not, then politely decline the invitation.
 
Venomous said:
Personally while I do enjoy giving gifts, I will not be forced into buying something I do not want to or to blow my own budget.

I retaliate with either buying a nice ornament or alternatively I'll buy a R300 giftcard (current limit), from a store of my choice that sells various home items, wrap it inside a nice card and they can then go spend it there.

There was once an exception where the couple already had all home stuff but they wanted to do lanscaping on their new property, so they kindly asked to rather be given cash instead of gifts. They received a nice amount in cash so they donated half to cancer research
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"Nice ornaments" are why couples go for the gift registry in the first place......:p
 
Last 5 weddings I have been to all asked for cash gifts. The wedding gift list is a waste of time and money for everyone. Ask for cash, people can give what they can afford, and then you can do with the cash as you like.
 
RedViking said:
Last 5 weddings I have been to all asked for cash gifts. The wedding gift list is a waste of time and money for everyone. Ask for cash, people can give what they can afford, and then you can do with the cash as you like.
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Just sell tickets to your wedding.
 
a bag of cement, it symbolises them building their life together
 
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