What is love?

[Grant]

Aimed at Garson?

chapter 1 was "if you want something - go and get it"
chapter 2 "divide & conquer"

an overview:
from time to time you will encounter a social group surrounding the object of desire.
very often, the object of desire is the very thread that keeps the fabric of the group together.
you will often also encounter a dominant alpha male within the group.

objectives include creating a ruse in order to distract the dominant alpha male while you are quietly extracting the prey.

 

[Ockie]

objectives include creating a ruse in order to distract the dominant alpha male while you are quietly extracting the prey.

So in fact you are after Nick? Garson just a ruse?

 

[Grant]

So in fact you are after Nick? Garson just a ruse?

no no
as a said before, the chicken coop is full at the moment - no room at the inn

 

[Garson007]

sometimes after capturing your prey you may discover it is quite under size, difficult to domesticate or has defects that were not apparent on the first sighting.

The issue here is, I know all those to be true yet I still feel this way. Seriously, a house of cards is more stable than he is.

 

[Skywalker786]

The issue here is, I know all those to be true yet I still feel this way. Seriously, a house of cards is more stable than he is.

In short and rather bluntly, it's time to move on dude.

Go out get drunk have a hot meaning full one night stand (safely). Go out the next night and repeat!

 

[Grant]

The issue here is, I know all those to be true yet I still feel this way. Seriously, a house of cards is more stable than he is.

this stability - emotional, financial, mental ??

 

[ponder]

Baby don't hurt me!

[video=youtube;DU-s2yWgEI8]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DU-s2yWgEI8[/video]

 

[Garson007]

In short and rather bluntly, it's time to move on dude.

I've been telling myself this for months.

Go out get drunk have a hot meaning full one night stand (safely). Go out the next night and repeat!

I've done this and it solves nothing. Sex is not the issue at play here.

this stability - emotional, financial, mental ??

What's the difference between emotional and mental? Financially he is student (no he isn't 20, he's just gone back to school to study something else), but money isn't an issue. Besides, I make my own money and I'm not moving in with him.

He suffers from anxiety attacks. Which makes matters worse as he's not always capable of seeing other people. However it's not just that. It's... he's kinda broken and eccentric (and a pothead) and I love broken people. It brings out the nurturer in me.

He's also paradoxically not my type. Small. Bottom. Slightly feminine (but not that god awful accent). He weighs like 50kg or something. I'd never go for him on grindr.

Edit: Also, on the topic of stability. Looooots of mixed messages. Which makes everything more complicated. The fact that there is some history between us (non-romantically) makes everything far worse.

 

[Grant]

so, lets see:


anxiety attacks
broken
pothead
not your type
endless mixed messages

quite a box of chocolates you have there.
run forrest, run !!

being in love with someone and being his then third choice at best.

i'm rather intrigued, what is it about him that is so special, that he has a line of potential suiters seeking his favour ?

 

[Garson007]

i'm rather intrigued, what is it about him that is so special, that he has a line of potential suiters seeking his favour ?

I dunno. Some people just have a way with other people. Easily makes other people feel interesting or special. I dunno man. Plus he's really sensual. Plus he's also a bit of a looker, if you're into twinkish guys. I just think he's really great at chemistry; it's why I like him.

Edit: I'm also maybe being overly critical. My point is that all those things don't matter to me. I really like him because there is so much conversational and sensual chemistry. I haven't had conversations like I've had with him in real life outside of my own family (I'm a snob for real intellect) and as far as cuddling is concerned... I've never experienced that kind of bliss before.

Sex to me is something different. The person has to be my type. But this isn't about sex. It's about someone you can share ideas with, experiences with, a home with, a life with...

 

[Pho3nix]

Love is what comes before cynicism.

Quote worthy..

 

[TofuMofu]

I dunno. Some people just have a way with other people. Easily makes other people feel interesting or special. I dunno man. Plus he's really sensual. Plus he's also a bit of a looker, if you're into twinkish guys. I just think he's really great at chemistry; it's why I like him.

Edit: I'm also maybe being overly critical. My point is that all those things don't matter to me. I really like him because there is so much conversational and sensual chemistry. I haven't had conversations like I've had with him in real life outside of my own family (I'm a snob for real intellect) and as far as cuddling is concerned... I've never experienced that kind of bliss before.

Sex to me is something different. The person has to be my type. But this isn't about sex. It's about someone you can share ideas with, experiences with, a home with, a life with...

Damn, you fell for him.

I know all about the feeling of being in love with someone that isn't really suited for you. But you just can't help it. You cannot stop yourself from loving someone. It just happens.

I'd suggest you follow Grant's suggestions. Go for it. Take what you want and hopefully he will come round and love you back

Good luck! Love is awful, but it feels so good!

 

[Ocali]

interesting advice gents.... good luck 007

 

[Nick333]

i'm rather intrigued, what is it about him that is so special, that he has a line of potential suiters seeking his favour ?

I could ask the same of you Mr Chicken Harem.

 

[Jigsaw_Killer]

so, lets see:


anxiety attacks
broken
pothead
not your type
endless mixed messages

quite a box of chocolates you have there.
run forrest, run !!


i'm rather intrigued, what is it about him that is so special, that he has a line of potential suiters seeking his favour ?

obviously because the more uninterested in people you are, the more they flock to you. not to mention that i assume gay guys are as rare as "girls that love gaming", so when you find one you try your luck with them

 

[TofuMofu]

obviously because the more uninterested in people you are, the more they flock to you. not to mention that i assume good gay guys are as rare as "girls that love gaming", so when you find one you try your luck with them

Fixed.

There are a lot of gay guys, but most of them aren't err...a good match

Way too many fems lol

 

[Garson007]

I told you guys I was crazy. However it helps when I talk about stuff like this to other people, helps me adapt to there being other fish.

 

[TofuMofu]

I told you guys I was crazy. However it helps when I talk about stuff like this to other people, helps me adapt to there being other fish.

There might be other fish, but if you're head over heels for someone, it's really hard to move on. But you'll get there eventually

Good luck!

 

[Garson007]

Went on like a meet / date today with some other random guy. Seems nice enough. Good conversation. Etcetera. Maybe long-term potential there.

Got back home and all I can feel is how much I want the guy this thread is about. Ffs.

 

[Picard]

Went on like a meet / date today with some other random guy. Seems nice enough. Good conversation. Etcetera. Maybe long-term potential there.

Got back home and all I can feel is how much I want the guy this thread is about. Ffs.

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