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Woke up this morning and found my dad with an young unknown lady "visitor" , my parents are still married, do I just keep this to myself or eventually disclose it ?

Oh yeah we currently have a place in RSA and my home country so he's here to visit.
 
ask him to share! lol. but seriously, very touchy and tricky situation dude...
 
So where is your mother?
Talk to dad and then talk to mom.
Keep nothing from her.
 
you know your family situation better than anyone here so you need to decide for yourself, taking family circumstances into consideration.
put yourself in your mom's shoe's and consider her perspective how she would feel, it's also an issue of integrity for yourself and what would you consider to be the right thing. If possible speak to you dad and get his side of the story

however, it's just not a great situation to be in all round and your dad should have thought better
 
My moms in SA, and always had suspicion on such matters. He's been coming late for the past week e.g. 5/6 am. Funny thing is that I opened the gate this morning at 4:30 am and he was alone in the front, the rear Windows have tint though, and strangely he waited for me to go to the cottage before getting out the car which normally doesn't' happen.

Maybe I should just forget it and realise that its normal for married men to go loose once in a while ?
 
Bondizzo said:
My moms in SA, and always had suspicion on such matters. He's been coming late for the past week e.g. 5/6 am. Funny thing is that I opened the gate this morning at 4:30 am and he was alone in the front, the rear Windows have tint though, and strangely he waited for me to go to the cottage before getting out the car which normally doesn't' happen.

Maybe I should just forget it and realise that its normal for married men to go loose once in a while ?
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Normal? I'd say you tend to hear about it more often than not but to call it "normal" is a bit of a stretch.

I think your mom would appreciate knowing, after all, how would you feel of your spouse slept with a stranger? Surely you wouldn't touch them again without a couple of STD tests?

Some couples talk about this sort of thing (what happens if sex-life gets boring one day) and are open to the idea of having a "kind of" open relationship. If there's no communication, no agreement and he's doing it behind your mother's back, that pretty much makes him a number of things but above all: a cheater.

Do your mom a favour and save her from having to find out the hard way.
 
if I was you i'd talk to my dad often in such a manner that he eventully feels guilty & discusses it with your mom.

This is not a pleasant story. She has the right to know. This will get a lil ''rough'' after that & will only settle down once things are sorted be they still together or not.
 
Venomous said:
if I was you i'd talk to my dad often in such a manner that he eventully feels guilty & discusses it with your mom.

This is not a pleasant story. She has the right to know. This will get a lil ''rough'' after that & will only settle down once things are sorted be they still together or not.
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+1 needs to come from him

Didn't he give an explanation when he saw that you saw?
 
Did you see them in the act? Or what? Nothing could've happened.
 
Ask your dad for her number.

Oh, and ask him for some money too.
 
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Dolby said:
+1 needs to come from him

Didn't he give an explanation when he saw that you saw?
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Yip,

the ''child'' should not be the one to tell coz they'll be in the middle & will probably get blamed for the pain....

Otherwise he should tell someone else who should write/type the mom an annon-note & place in the post box or somewhere she'll find it if the dad won't own up.
 
If it was my dad I will chill ,when she leaves I will be like WTF pops,give him kark etc basically guilt trip him.
 
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