When to stop maintenance payments?

[blunomore]

The recipient can claim they have no income. Simply never re-marry (but live together with new partner indefinitely) to retain alimony.

AFAIK, maintenance payments will cease immediately and automatically on re-marriage.

In cases where the wife starts living with a new partner, the ex-husband can apply to the court for a reduction or for the maintenance payments to cease.

 

[thedutchman]

my dad's ex leeched over 7 million from him in the last 20 years of his payments but than he paid another million and thank god she's off the pay roll

 

[blunomore]

my dad's ex leeched over 7 million from him in the last 20 years of his payments but than he paid another million and thank god she's off the pay roll

I find it pathetic when women try to punish their ex-husbands with money.

I do understand that in terms of the law, you are entitled to it, but my pride would prevent me from taking one cent more than what is owing to me.

Some women consider divorce a mealticket for life.

 

[ColinR]

I find it pathetic when women try to punish their ex-husbands with money.
...
Some women consider divorce a mealticket for life.

That's the abuse I spoke of.

 

[thedutchman]

my dad had to give up flying just to get her financed, she kept on flying and still does

 

[Ghazi]

This is what I had in mind.

 

[Ou grote]

my dad had to give up flying just to get her financed, she kept on flying and still does

Cricky
Staying single forever

 

[guest2013-1]

My youngest child has recently left home and I now pay him directly for his upkeep and Varsity bills.
The ex is now of course on her own and I have still kept up her portion of the maintenance order , but the costs for the upkeep of my child have increased considerably and I was hoping to shed the load of paying the ex maintenance.
She is also earning some income and living with the new man in her life, so I just feel that I should stop payments to her, or at least have the order changed to make her contribute to the child's upkeep.

What's the law on this, and how do you go about achieving my objectives legally?

I'm not entirely sure but this should have been covered in your original maintanence agreement

 

[Ghazi]

I pay the child's costs directly.

 

[Fuma]

I just hate this "law" that you have to pay maintenance for the biatch - sorry I had to say this.
I mean she is old enough to look after herself. Why should I pay her anything? Suppose she cheated on you , and eventually you divorced her, but pay her for that? I hope the law changes on this ruling. It 50/50 after all.

 

[guest2013-1]

That maintenance section of the original high court order was superseded by an order of the maintenance court a few years after, and since then there's been changes i.e. the child (now adult >18) no longer resides with her, and I pay the child's costs directly.
The maintenance court order listed an amount for the ex and an amount for the child.
Now that she no longer supports the child, and is earning income, it is reasonable to expect that I no longer need to support her.

Well, don't pay her anymore, if she moans you say that according to the court order she's earning a reasonable income and staying with someone with a job as well and because you're paying child support directly to your over 18 son/daughter you're not liable to support her anymore.

If she backs down you win. If she takes it to court you'll soon find out

You should pay for the child not the woman