After years of reference to this forum, I signed up as my research of 'online dating' somehow led me here and I got a shock to discover 'available in 10 years time once kids leave school' men.
It's boxing day, we aren't really religious, so this time of year is a rather bland time. And what do people do when they have nothing to do? Ponder. Thats what.
So being 36, single and actually just fine, on days like today, the reality of my actual age kicks in. I look younger (thankful) and I'm super young at heart. But really, in 4 years time I'll be 40. FORTY. Shut the front door - this is a fact. Base this on how fast this past year has gone, I'll be 40 in no time!
That means I best start meeting men who are single. But there are none. And I'm actually perfectly happy being single right now!
This is all very contradicting and it's confusing my mind. Biologically - times ticking in the having a child part of life too. I do want my own kid one day. But I don't want one now nor in the next few years - but a few years is all I have in actuality. See my confusion. To be fair, I think the having kids ship has sailed. I cannot see how it's possible to meet someone (when you are not actually looking), get to know someone well enough to decide if you could be married, and purely for biological reasons have a kid, in the span of four years. And again, I cannot envision that il be interested in having a child in the next 5 years (min) - but that pushes me past 40. Maybe that would change if one meets the right person. Who knows?
So, a bit of a reality check day today. And it peeves me off to a degree that 'aging' is forcing me to make decisions before I feel ready. If I carry as per normal, just pottering about all content I will not meet anyone.
I definitely want a family one day. If I have to adopt, then that's just the way it is.
So today I find myself thinking that if that's what I want one day, I'm going to actively have to make it happen. When that shouldn't be how it is. Surely people meet naturally and things happen organically. Now I'm strapped for time - and that is unlikely to happen.
Everyone I do meet - is married or in a relationship. I think most people in their thirties are - which makes meeting someone all the more difficult and pushes us mid thirty single people into a strange place.
Such a strange place in fact, that I'm considering online dating and im now writing this on a forum. Two days ago, when i was not accutely aware of my age, i would have laughed if someone said id be doing this today! And I'm not keen on online dating one little bit. To me it just seems like such a 'fake' thing. I don't know, just not comfortable with the concept - I think you'd have to sift through a lot of BS and argh it's just weird.
So where are all the thirty year old single men? Does one really have to go the online dating route to meet them? Bar hopping in the hopes of meeting someone is, well just far to much work and too expensive. And most of those people are wipper snappers.
Now I wish there were an over 30's single bar!
And to top it all off, I don't actually think I want to be in a relationship right now. I'm quite happy as things stand. Nothing is making sense.
And then you get people saying 'Mr right will come along when you least expect it'. Really- is this so. I think at 36, it's highly unlikely unless you change and actually start putting yourself 'on the market'.
Rant over!
Am I the only one who wonders such odd things?
It's boxing day, we aren't really religious, so this time of year is a rather bland time. And what do people do when they have nothing to do? Ponder. Thats what.
So being 36, single and actually just fine, on days like today, the reality of my actual age kicks in. I look younger (thankful) and I'm super young at heart. But really, in 4 years time I'll be 40. FORTY. Shut the front door - this is a fact. Base this on how fast this past year has gone, I'll be 40 in no time!
That means I best start meeting men who are single. But there are none. And I'm actually perfectly happy being single right now!
This is all very contradicting and it's confusing my mind. Biologically - times ticking in the having a child part of life too. I do want my own kid one day. But I don't want one now nor in the next few years - but a few years is all I have in actuality. See my confusion. To be fair, I think the having kids ship has sailed. I cannot see how it's possible to meet someone (when you are not actually looking), get to know someone well enough to decide if you could be married, and purely for biological reasons have a kid, in the span of four years. And again, I cannot envision that il be interested in having a child in the next 5 years (min) - but that pushes me past 40. Maybe that would change if one meets the right person. Who knows?
So, a bit of a reality check day today. And it peeves me off to a degree that 'aging' is forcing me to make decisions before I feel ready. If I carry as per normal, just pottering about all content I will not meet anyone.
I definitely want a family one day. If I have to adopt, then that's just the way it is.
So today I find myself thinking that if that's what I want one day, I'm going to actively have to make it happen. When that shouldn't be how it is. Surely people meet naturally and things happen organically. Now I'm strapped for time - and that is unlikely to happen.
Everyone I do meet - is married or in a relationship. I think most people in their thirties are - which makes meeting someone all the more difficult and pushes us mid thirty single people into a strange place.
Such a strange place in fact, that I'm considering online dating and im now writing this on a forum. Two days ago, when i was not accutely aware of my age, i would have laughed if someone said id be doing this today! And I'm not keen on online dating one little bit. To me it just seems like such a 'fake' thing. I don't know, just not comfortable with the concept - I think you'd have to sift through a lot of BS and argh it's just weird.
So where are all the thirty year old single men? Does one really have to go the online dating route to meet them? Bar hopping in the hopes of meeting someone is, well just far to much work and too expensive. And most of those people are wipper snappers.
Now I wish there were an over 30's single bar!
And to top it all off, I don't actually think I want to be in a relationship right now. I'm quite happy as things stand. Nothing is making sense.
And then you get people saying 'Mr right will come along when you least expect it'. Really- is this so. I think at 36, it's highly unlikely unless you change and actually start putting yourself 'on the market'.
Rant over!
Am I the only one who wonders such odd things?
