Who do you think is happier ?

[4cer]

I've been having a FOMO part of my life, so here is my question to the world

Who do you think is happier. The people in a normal relationship with a decent girl, or the people going wild (like those on spring break/Ibiza/Magaluf) doing everything that walks and partying their lives away.

I just tend to see the people who party and shag everything are happy at points but are mostly actually lonely. Whereas the people in stable relationships dont seem to be living the dream as much but seem generally happier!

What do you peeps rate ??

 

[HavocXphere]

FOMO = fear of missing out

Undecided...keen on hearing others views. Tending towards the stable approach.

Personally the prevalence of STDs has put a significant dent in the "shag everything" angle.

 

[Safferbeauty]

Me. Hmmm interesting question. I would be far happier in a stable relationship or single than going out having wild parties etc...

 

[Jamo114]

I haven't exactly got a whole lot of life experience so far, but from what I have experienced is that I was a lot happier/fulfilled in a stable relationship. Don't get me wrong, partying and the like is VERY fun, but you get to a point where you realize there is no real point to it and you are just wasting time/money.

 

[Griz]

Some people are happy doing one, others the other.

There is no right way, its what makes you happy that counts.

 

[Shiraz]

The grass always SEEMS greener on the other side. So I guess it depends on which side of the fence you are

 

[Humberto]

Well-being and happiness never appeared to me as an absolute aim. I am even inclined to compare such moral aims to the ambitions of a pig.

Albert Einstein​

 

[Arthur]

There are many important differences between pleasure and happiness. The former resides largely in the nervous system and the affects, is transitory and thus easily and inexorably lost; the latter is much deeper and more a condition of the soul. Pleasure is a passing existential sensation; happiness is an ontological state, the consequence of being good.

Only weak fools would sell out happiness for pleasure, or mistake one for the other. It all shows on their faces by the time they reach 50. Just look around and read the faces of the ol' ballies you encounter - you can often see the choices they made written clearly in their prosopon.

 

[bromster]

The grass always SEEMS greener on the other side. So I guess it depends on which side of the fence you are

I can vouch for this. Some people spend years chasing a dream which you psychologically build up to something that it isn't. Then, if you ever achieve it, you are underwhelmed after all the anticipation and the cycle begins again.

I only learnt this recently, so I am no oracle, but I think people forget what potential happiness and beauty we surround ourselves with every day. Just take your blinkers off.

 

[PapercutPrincess]

Everyone is different and will prefer different things

I know people who are completely happy on their own and do not have any desire to have a relationship.
Then I know others who are completely happy being with their partner.

I feel that it is impossible to say which is better as a whole and that it differs between person to person.

 

[Avenue]

Its all a facade brother. Okay I cant speak for everyone, but personally when I was doing the whole party thing, picking up random chicks, there were often times during the best parts I would think, this is empty and I'm lonely. I mean think about it, there is only so far you can push things to retain that thrill before you start getting into some bizarre stuff. Then I realised I don't even like the people I'm trying to impress and I don't relate to them, so why am I trying to act like them.
A long term relationship is about so much more than just the physical- its waaaaay better- just make sure you find the right person.
But yeah, find what works for you and go for it.

 

[RiaX]

Both. You cant put a static answer to something as dynamic as life. When you young obviously partying like a mad person is the way to go fall in love break some hearts get your heart broken then eventually when you more mature in years the simpler controllable lifestyle is more attractive.

I used to be a mad man in my school and university days. Now I just like to chill with my lady play fetch with the dog have some fun with my car surf the net play some box.

The trick is to discard everything and just do what you want to do. If you dont like clubbing then dont go, if you want to smoke cigs dont worry and smoke. People try so hard to extend their lives with what ifs in a hope to live longer yet they never realise they not living. As always just dont be an idiot about it - if you always wanted to kill someone keep that in your FPS

 

[copacetic]

Both. You cant put a static answer to something as dynamic as life. When you young obviously partying like a mad person is the way to go fall in love break some hearts get your heart broken then eventually when you more mature in years the simpler controllable lifestyle is more attractive.

I used to be a mad man in my school and university days. Now I just like to chill with my lady play fetch with the dog have some fun with my car surf the net play some box.

I think we agree.

The sky is going to fall.

 

[RiaX]

I think we agree.

The sky is going to fall.

ZOMG. lol dude there is a difference when it comes to life advice and medical advice.

 

[visrot]

define happiness

 

[copacetic]

ZOMG. lol dude there is a difference when it comes to life advice and medical advice.

Speaking of medical advice, what do you have to say about Pregabilin?

 

[SoulTax]

I think that a lot of it would have to do with money. At least the single partying side. Like going to expensive beaches, with wild bikini babes attracted to oodles of cash. I think you would get your shag on quite easily and have less lonely moments.

Then again, that same amount of cash in a stable relationship would be amazing and going on holidays and partying with your SO would be enhanced too. I think money plays more of a factor for the single person though.

 

[Nick333]

I've been having a FOMO part of my life, so here is my question to the world

Who do you think is happier. The people in a normal relationship with a decent girl, or the people going wild (like those on spring break/Ibiza/Magaluf) doing everything that walks and partying their lives away.

I just tend to see the people who party and shag everything are happy at points but are mostly actually lonely. Whereas the people in stable relationships dont seem to be living the dream as much but seem generally happier!

What do you peeps rate ??

It's not really an either or situation. You can have one or the other; one then the other or, even both. Happiness isn't a product of your external circumstances. In other words true happiness is a state of mind. Being in a relationship and partying are both sources of pleasure not happiness.

Having said that being in a relationship can be a much more stable scenario for cultivating happiness. But, being with, at least a few, different women before settling into a long term relationship will give you a better idea of what you want from a relationship.

 

[4cer]

Some rather interesting answers

i think i have just realised at my age (24) that it is a lot more fulfilling to love someone and have someone there, than to have a random shag each weekend. The latter feels like a rather lonely life for some reason. I just look at most single guys at my age, all they are actually doing is looking for a girlfriend but they end up banging random girls, and those obviously aren't girlfriend material.

I also found at this age, having a "high Number" isn't thing people are really proud of. At 21 okes where on a mission to rack up their tally. Now i notice my mates trying to make excuses to girls of why they have a high "hit" ratio.

Growing up is weird

 

[RiaX]

Speaking of medical advice, what do you have to say about Pregabilin?

lyrica ? honestly i dont know this drug in great detail. Drs seem to like it, patients seem to like it and its quite effective. Havent had anyone complain about it... yet

why?