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scotty777

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so, while i was at the new years party, I got pretty dam drunk.
I tried so hard the whole night to avoid girls (that way i don't get tempted) but towards the end of the night I was saying good bye to a bunch of people who were leaving, then while I was hugging this chick, she pulled in and kissed me :(. then she pulled away and walked away... Now, I don't know if that's cheating, but I still feel like an ass... I was pretty shyte faced when she kissed me and she was sober so who's to blame here??? fsck, why me? and I actually was trying to stay faithful and such yet this shyte happens... I know I have to tell my gf, but she's only getting back to Johannesburg on the 9th :sick:
 
Don't even start to feel guilty! Dude. That chick is to blame. Obvioulsy! /softly: You didn't perharps get a name and number did you?/
Now go have another beer or something. It will make you feel a whole lot better.
 
Yip the chicks' fault indeed. How can you be responsible for another person's actions?

Don't stress too much but definitely tell your gf.

If you don't and she finds out all hell will break lose and make you who was innocent seem guilty.
 
Lol as a woman i know how we get and trust me most of the time it's illogical and we don't even understand it ourselves. Even though rationally we know it wasn't his fault we still feel as though he should have done something, said something..(ie declare his love for me, made her feel terrible for what she did.)
 
and whats more is I told this girl that I'm in a relationship and it can't go any further a week prior :(. do you guys feel it would be best if said what happened in person to my gf?
 
Serqet said:
Lol as a woman i know how we get and trust me most of the time it's illogical and we don't even understand it ourselves. Even though rationally we know it wasn't his fault we still feel as though he should have done something, said something..(ie declare his love for me, made her feel terrible for what she did.)
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well thanks for telling me my relationships gone by the waist side and i didn't do anything wrong. I was drunk, so my reaction times were slow as hell... you kinda confirmed my suspicions though
 
you have to! if you don't and she catches wind of it, she will think you wanted something from this girl and kept it under wraps so she didn't find out. you have nothing to lose if you are completely honest with her and trust me she will respect you that you didn't do what most guys would do and keep quiet about it.
 
No you have hope for your relationship because you didn't do anything wrong and like you just said in your other post you did tell the girl that you were in a relationship. That's all your gf will need to know is that you put your foot down and told her and this girl went ahead anyway. That's not your fault..it's hers!
 
I'd wait to see if the G/F has any interesting tales of guilt to tell when she gets back. Goose and gander ;)
 
Serqet said:
No you have hope for your relationship because you didn't do anything wrong and like you just said in your other post you did tell the girl that you were in a relationship. That's all your gf will need to know is that you put your foot down and told her and this girl went ahead anyway. That's not your fault..it's hers!
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there's one thing that's bothering me though, some other people saw myself and this girl, and I've got the feeling that they might just have gotten the wrong fscking end of the stick... :sick::(:(. Seems like i'm going to have to pull a rabbit out the hat for me to keep the girl a love :(

thanks bwana, but she's not like that (or so i hope)
 
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Honesty is everything in a relationship so be the first one to tell her before someone else does and you'll see. Love will still be yours. :)
 
What is the problem here though, some chick kissed you, so what why does your G/F even need to know about it? If you tell her there will be that moment of do i believe him? Dude your setting yourself up for trouble by telling her.

Sometimes its better to not be honest than to be honest and this is one time :p
 
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killadoob said:
What is the problem here though, some chick kissed you, so what why does your G/F even need to know about it?
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Exactly, but go ahead and spill the beans Scotty. It's a valuable lesson you're about to learn about the female psyche. ;)
 
killadoob said:
What is the problem here though, some chick kissed you, so what why does your G/F even need to know about it? If you tell her there will be that moment of do i believe him? Dude your setting yourself up for trouble by telling her.

Sometimes its better to not be honest than to be honest and this is one time :p
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Exactly! If the g/f finds out, play the age old "Deny Everything" card.
 
Depends on how much you guys really trust each other. Call me naive, for saying this, but I think you should tell her. Also mention the part where you told this girl you're not interested and that you have a gf.

Worst thing that can happen is someone else tells her and then it seems like you were trying to hide it...which you were.
 
So you think she should find out from someone else? How is that going to make anything better?
 
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