Why have kids?

I doubt I will ever be ready for kids.

Firstly I love my money even though I don't have a lot at all. I would be so miserable paying for school fees :D it would make me seriously depressed instead of one day affording my own i-pad or something.

I never even wanted a pet. My step mom bought me a fish as my first pet this year. It's a cool fish, but sometimes I forget to feed him so I have to sms them to. I just am way to scatterbrain and busy to worry about that stuff.

I have never appreciated the company of a child either. So either I would ignore my kids or be the most controlling and strict father in the world.

No thanks. I'm too busy for that nonsense, even without children I feel 10pm everyday approaches as fast as a second lol. I simply would not be able to handle it.

And based on what I just said, I reckon I am way too immature for children anyway :p


More toward the OP though I think a lot of it has to do with your own childhood, family etc...
 
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cerebus said:
There's no more logical basis in not wanting a child than in wanting one. The argument that they contribute positively to your life is as valid as that they contribute socially to humanity. A child has as good of a chance as turning out positively as negatively - and your parenting can strongly influence the direction they go towards, so you are the one who can to a large extent determine whether they will become what you hope they will.
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Yes all true. There isn't really any more logical basis for one decision over the other. The OP's question however was not which is more logical, but what is the logical reason to have them. He has determined the logical reasons to him why not to have them, but because of his bias he is having trouble determing the mirror logic to that same question. Although the truth in this matter is that it is trying to apply objective logic to something that is subjective. Its a flaw in the original question really. I know there is some fancy term for it, cant remember now and have 2 mins left of work so no time to google. At the end of the day, there is no real logical reason to have kids. They are all personal reasons as logic is universal it cannot be applied here.
 
I think I found the reason...

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K lets tally it up shall we...

Negatives:

1. They cost a lot of money
2. They give you headaches
3. They keep you up at night
4. They break things
5. They take up all your time if you have any
6. They try rule the house
7. You are judged by the way they behave
8. They stress you out when they are teenagers


Positives:

1. Apparently they make you smile sometimes with some unknown force of joyful and tearful happiness. (I know some substances that can do that)

Conclusion:

What bullshyte. :D it is definately an age or maturity thing. Let's ask this q again when I am 10 years older :p I might be quite young. But I am old enough to know when I give in to biological urges I usually end up in some deep k*k.
 
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The only good reason is the one that nature intended - to make sure the human race doesn't die out.

However the benefits from having kids are plentiful. From a personal wellbeing point of view - coming home and seeing them react positively makes the **** that went on at work worthwhile.

but if you are no a children person. the above will be lost on you. so don't have kids.

edit - i have a 6 and a 1 year old. when i come back from work and they come to greet me; the world is a good place. even if i have had the sh*****t at work. seeing them grow and helping them grow also gives me a great feeling.
 
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I don't understand people who don't want to have kids. I mean I respect their opinions etc etc. But to me it feels...dare I say, 'natural' to at least have 1 kid.

If I don't have a kid, it's like I am killing myself from existence in the future. I believe we all live on in our kids in more ways than one...This is how Genetics are passed over and such.

I'll be damned if I don't have a kid before I die! Long live ME!
 
VioAdmin said:
I don't understand people who don't want to have kids. I mean I respect their opinions etc etc. But to me it feels...dare I say, 'natural' to at least have 1 kid.

If I don't have a kid, it's like I am killing myself from existence in the future. I believe we all live on in our kids in more ways than one...This is how Genetics are passed over and such.

I'll be damned if I don't have a kid before I die! Long live ME!
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Bolded for truth :) And a good laugh
 
SoulTax said:
...But to ensure that the Gene pool is not watered down by the poor, illiterate, uneducated, unfit, etc... Basically those that live in circumstances that will keep their kids back and perpetuate the weakness...
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I like your reasoning. :)
 
Even if we wanted to have, we can't anymore:
1) I've had a vasectomy
2) My wife recently had to have a hysterectomy

But let me state this; we felt this way at 24, 30, 35, 40 and we still feel this way (even more so).

We love our cats, they are our children.
 
satanboy said:
Even if we wanted to have, we can't anymore:
1) I've had a vasectomy
2) My wife recently had to have a hysterectomy

But let me state this; we felt this way at 24, 30, 35, 40 and we still feel this way (even more so).

We love our cats, they are our children.
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And that is a fair enough stance to take. Some people just aren't the parenting type for various reasons. And I commend your for actually having the sense to realize at an early age that you and your wife fell into this demographic. Not so many people are that responsible. If its not for you, just dont do it.
 
Regardless of the personal pros and cons individuals feel about having children:

To have raised a child:

- gives you insight into human psychology/emotions
- gives you respect for what it takes to produce an amiable, content and healthy human
- gives you insight into the complexities of relationships
- gives you insight into the spiritual development of the human

Children:

- challenge you emotionally
- teach you to control your default reactions
- teach you to be patient
- teach you to see life honestly

Children as teens and older:

- challenge you emotionally on a higher level
- challenge your pre-conceived ideas about society
- challenge you intellectually
- challenge your patience and understanding
- bring new knowledge/data/education into your life
- bring new technology into your life
- bring technological skills into your life

Have a nice day folks :)
 
wrathex said:
Regardless of the personal pros and cons individuals feel about having children:

To have raised a child:

- gives you insight into human psychology/emotions
- gives you respect for what it takes to produce an amiable, content and healthy human
- gives you insight into the complexities of relationships
- gives you insight into the spiritual development of the human

Children:

- challenge you emotionally
- teach you to control your default reactions
- teach you to be patient
- teach you to see life honestly

Children as teens and older:

- challenge you emotionally on a higher level
- challenge your pre-conceived ideas about society
- challenge you intellectually
- challenge your patience and understanding
- bring new knowledge/data/education into your life
- bring new technology into your life
- bring technological skills into your life

Have a nice day folks :)
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Nice post!
 
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