Wife issues [Solved]

Shaun108 said:
take screen shots and such and send it to yourself as a pre-emptive measure. Perhaps install a keylogger and message logger type software on her phone that can be monitored on a pc or another cellphone.

Next step is to watch her and give her time. It may not lead to actual cheating so don't jump the gun.
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Nooooo that's terrible advise, never confront a woman with hard evidence and never snoop on them.
 
There's not much you can do directly if your wife is intent on pursuing something outside the marriage. What you should focus on is why she might be interested in doing that. Is there something missing, maybe work and the kids haven't give you enough time for each other? Bedroom stuff fallen into a routine maybe?

Ask the in-laws or someone to sit the kids for a night or weekend and do her till she's dehydrated. Severe dehydration reduces the propensity to cheat...60% of the time, it works every time.
 
Shaun108 said:
take screen shots and such and send it to yourself as a pre-emptive measure. Perhaps install a keylogger and message logger type software on her phone that can be monitored on a pc or another cellphone.

Next step is to watch her and give her time. It may not lead to actual cheating so don't jump the gun.
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Wow. That's a great way to end a relationship.
 
ShaunSA said:
Screen shots of her whatsapp chats. Not screenshots of her blowing the dude's obviously bigger dick :p
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:ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
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Sorry OP:ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
 
My plan is to speak to her tonight. I dont know if she is doing it to get closure on that relationship which ended on a bad note.

In any event shits going down tonight.
 
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I am not sure how you would do it since you only found out by essentially invading her privacy, but sitting down with her and have a discussion is the best way forward, however it all turns out. In my case, my ex wife and I shared an iPad that she forgot was linked to her Apple account and so I saw a lot of photo's I was never meant to see but made it easier to start the conversation.
 
Will stop the spying because what is a relationship without trust.

Going to ask her if she's happy if she wants out. We might need to look at counselling

Sex life is pretty much the same if not better since she's off birth control. And yes I am wrapping the D

Trust arrives on foot but leaves in a Ferrari.
 
I'll admit and apologize for snooping through the phone.
Neuk_ said:
I am not sure how you would do it since you only found out by essentially invading her privacy, but sitting down with her and have a discussion is the best way forward, however it all turns out. In my case, my ex wife and I shared an iPad that she forgot was linked to her Apple account and so I saw a lot of photo's I was never meant to see but made it easier to start the conversation.
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I have to ask, have there been no signs? like, what is YOUR marriage like etc.

I cannot imagine a couple that is married, has gone through 2 pregnancies and now growing further apart without any signs
 
@Anonymouse123, there are two possibilities here. It's either the beginning of an emotional relationship at this stage or she is just looking for attention to feel attractive. After having two kids, there is a good chance of the latter.

Emotional attachments are a lot more dangerous to your marriage than a pure sexual relationship imo. There are ways to fix a marriage if there are sexual issues if both parties are open, but if you are detached and not doing well on an emotional level, it can be quite difficult in mending things.

I suggest you don't beat about this bush and confront this ASAP. Don't be confrontational, or angry when you approach her. Sit her down away from the kids and other distractions and tell her what you have found. Tell her you are heartbroken, but love her, and your life together and you want to understand why this is happening, and work on a way to fix things.

She is going to lash out at you. She is going to be embarrassed, feel like her privacy has been invaded, and make up all sorts of excuses. You just need to be firm (don't escalate, because it can turn ugly really quickly). Ask that she cut off all contact so you can move on over this bump together. It's going to be a bit of a process, but cool heads and open communication will prevail.

Without understanding the underlying issues in your marriage, or your wife, it's really hard to give any other advise. It sucks. Must have felt like being punched in the stomach when you saw those messages. She could just be feeling like she needs attention (all women do at different times of their lives).
 
Anonymouse123 said:
My plan is to speak to her tonight. I dont know if she is doing it to get closure on that relationship which ended on a bad note.

In any event shits going down tonight.
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I hear anger in there. If you can't remain calm, find a way to make sure you can. Go punch something inanimate or scream in your car, something.

Anonymouse123 said:
Screenshof 1 of the convos

Btw she chats to him in Instagram FM
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That's a supreme violation of privacy dude. Suggest you take it down.
 
Emjay said:
@Anonymouse123, there are two possibilities here. It's either the beginning of an emotional relationship at this stage or she is just looking for attention to feel attractive. After having two kids, there is a good chance of the latter.

Emotional attachments are a lot more dangerous to your marriage than a pure sexual relationship imo. There are ways to fix a marriage if there are sexual issues if both parties are open, but if you are detached and not doing well on an emotional level, it can be quite difficult in mending things.

I suggest you don't beat about this bush and confront this ASAP. Don't be confrontational, or angry when you approach her. Sit her down away from the kids and other distractions and tell her what you have found. Tell her you are heartbroken, but love her, and your life together and you want to understand why this is happening, and work on a way to fix things.

She is going to lash out at you. She is going to be embarrassed, feel like her privacy has been invaded, and make up all sorts of excuses. You just need to be firm (don't escalate, because it can turn ugly really quickly). Ask that she cut off all contact so you can move on over this bump together. It's going to be a bit of a process, but cool heads and open communication will prevail.

Without understanding the underlying issues in your marriage, or your wife, it's really hard to give any other advise. It sucks. Must have felt like being punched in the stomach when you saw those messages. She could just be feeling like she needs attention (all women do at different times of their lives).
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Thanks emjay this is putting my head in the right space
 
Emjay said:
That's a supreme violation of privacy dude. Suggest you take it down.
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When you get married you pretty much give that up - cannot imagine any valid reason to have "privacy" in a marriage. Why?
 
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