With friends like these...

[Datura]

Holy hell in a hairy handbag. WTF!?!

My head hurts...

 

[Pitbull]

Um. Wow. And people wonder why I wont go to the police. If I am doubted on an anonymous forum by people who think they maybe know me? Well, cherry on the cake really.

Still doesn't explain why you never went to the police ?

Again, your trying to deflect a 100% valid suggestion

You where told to go to the Police and then find some weird way to claim you don't go because I claim to know you on a forum

Sorry you just made me laugh I know this is no laughing matter.

 

[Devill]

This is not a joke, I have no idea what Pitbull is talking about, the only other thread in connection to this is 'epsiode 1' and to be quite honest I have to say i feel like this is the typical pack mentality i have been receiving from my ex and his mates.

Pitbull knock yourself out. I am not who ever you think i am.

Again why are you then still there if they have the "pack mentallity"?

Um. Wow. And people wonder why I wont go to the police. If I am doubted on an anonymous forum by people who think they maybe know me? Well, cherry on the cake really.

Because you have not gone to the police!!!

 

[almostgone]

I have spent a long time being villified by all and sundry because of untruths spoken about me and am beyond loathe to take that kind of thing sitting down anymore. The underlying tone in your posts implied that there was more to this than i was leading everyone to believe. No you dont know me, no I have not left and gone back and no I do not appreciate your implied accusation that I am somehow making this up.

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions. Once in 2006 when I was living in Bryanston and once on April 17th this year (after I was humiliated in a parking lot in front of all his friends) and I should not have to justify it to anyone let alone a random name on a screen.

If you still feel the need to try and discredit me, then I will take it to mean that posts from me in future will be unwelcome.

 

[dappled]

IMPORTANT NEWSFLASH!

On this forum there are people who beat their wives and kids.
There are rapists.
There are people who are committing fraud.
There are people who are involved in organised crime.
There are people who are cheating on their partners.
There are people with secret families.
There are people who cheat on their taxes.
There are people who drive drunk.
There are people who have smuggled drugs and there are people who have been locked up.

In other words, the people on this forum are just people, being a member of MyBB makes one no more or less likely to be a moral law-abiding person.

 

[Voicy]

I have spent a long time being villified by all and sundry because of untruths spoken about me and am beyond loathe to take that kind of thing sitting down anymore. The underlying tone in your posts implied that there was more to this than i was leading everyone to believe. No you dont know me, no I have not left and gone back and no I do not appreciate your implied accusation that I am somehow making this up.

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions. Once in 2006 when I was living in Bryanston and once on April 17th this year (after I was humiliated in a parking lot in front of all his friends) and I should not have to justify it to anyone let alone a random name on a screen.

If you still feel the need to try and discredit me, then I will take it to mean that posts from me in future will be unwelcome.

Please go to the police. PLEASE

 

[Devill]

I have spent a long time being villified by all and sundry because of untruths spoken about me and am beyond loathe to take that kind of thing sitting down anymore. The underlying tone in your posts implied that there was more to this than i was leading everyone to believe. No you dont know me, no I have not left and gone back and no I do not appreciate your implied accusation that I am somehow making this up.

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions. Once in 2006 when I was living in Bryanston and once on April 17th this year (after I was humiliated in a parking lot in front of all his friends) and I should not have to justify it to anyone let alone a random name on a screen.

If you still feel the need to try and discredit me, then I will take it to mean that posts from me in future will be unwelcome.

Go to the police before he does this to someone else....

If you don't you are just as guilty as he is if he does it again.

 

[almostgone]

Still doesn't explain why you never went to the police ?

Again, your trying to deflect a 100% valid suggestion

You where told to go to the Police and then find some weird way to claim you don't go because I claim to know you on a forum

Sorry you just made me laugh I know this is no laughing matter.

Let me draw you a little picture.

If i go to the cops i will be asked a million questions. It will be my word against his, his friends against mine etc. There will always be the question of 'is she crying wolf' or 'she is trying to hurt him' etc etc. I couldnt bare the thought of going there and being doubted. Being treated like a tramp who deserved it, being told i'm lying or being made to feel like I'm somehow being underhanded.

Your post invoked those exact feelings in me and hence the comment of 'this is why i wont go to the cops'.

I think you are an insensitive creep who is taking pleasure in my discomfort.

 

[dappled]

I think you are an insensitive creep who is taking pleasure in my discomfort.

I suspect, rather, that it is you who are taking pleasure in your discomfort.

You're being a victim by choice.

Go to the police.

 

[smokey]

Let me draw you a little picture.

If i go to the cops i will be asked a million questions. It will be my word against his, his friends against mine etc. There will always be the question of 'is she crying wolf' or 'she is trying to hurt him' etc etc. I couldnt bare the thought of going there and being doubted. Being treated like a tramp who deserved it, being told i'm lying or being made to feel like I'm somehow being underhanded.

Your post invoked those exact feelings in me and hence the comment of 'this is why i wont go to the cops'.

I think you are an insensitive creep who is taking pleasure in my discomfort.

Hello......... The mere fact that you not going to the police earlier is NOT helping your case. On this forum, or with the police. The longer you take, the less credible you'll be. Nose down and into the station with you. Better it gets out now than later. Think of the other ladies you will save. Not just about your own discomfort at answering questions.

In the end... don't you think, for your own piece of mind... you would want some closure?

 

[davemc]

Actually, the point of going to the police is to have a docket opened against the guy, and to begin to build a history of the person.

The next person who is wronged, if they also go to the police, adds to the evidence pool, until they decide that they have enough evidence to do something about him.

But, if everyone behaves like you and nobody reports it, nothing will happen.

 

[Pitbull]

I have spent a long time being villified by all and sundry because of untruths spoken about me and am beyond loathe to take that kind of thing sitting down anymore. The underlying tone in your posts implied that there was more to this than i was leading everyone to believe. No you dont know me, no I have not left and gone back and no I do not appreciate your implied accusation that I am somehow making this up.

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions. Once in 2006 when I was living in Bryanston and once on April 17th this year (after I was humiliated in a parking lot in front of all his friends) and I should not have to justify it to anyone let alone a random name on a screen.

If you still feel the need to try and discredit me, then I will take it to mean that posts from me in future will be unwelcome.

I honestly give up.

No where have I ever implied that what you are saying is untrue. Pls feel free to prove me wrong. At a stage you said he's a member of this community. I ASSUMED you where talking about a good friend of mine who dated a woman from MyBB for a period of no longer that 2 months (I hope you can read this in context this time). However I also indicated that I know nothing about your EX you are referring too but that this lady I assume you are also made the same reference to her EX being abussive. So yes, I was calling bull**** on it being my friend that dated said woman for a period of 2 months. Not the EX she had. As I don't know the EX.

Now pls, stop being irrasional and READ what is typed. You're jumping to all sorts of conclusions because of an assumption I made. You denied being that person so why be all overly defensive about it now.....

Even if you are the same woman, I only know the good friend of mine and not the "ex" referred too. Only what the "ex" did to her to some degree. So much so that this woman actually needs pshycological help. But since you are not this person and I don't know the EX of any one of these 2 woman how can I say you are lying ?

Seriously, you have lost me completely.

Now go back to the advice given and follow it. I never meant to derail this thread I was just under the impression that I know who you are, and still do.

Be it right or wrong that is up to me it bears no implication to your current situation.

Hope it's clear now because I don't know how else to put this in writing no more

 

[ShaunSA]

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions.

And judging by your OP you are more then willing to add a third

 

[Pitbull]

Let me draw you a little picture.

If i go to the cops i will be asked a million questions. It will be my word against his, his friends against mine etc. There will always be the question of 'is she crying wolf' or 'she is trying to hurt him' etc etc. I couldnt bare the thought of going there and being doubted. Being treated like a tramp who deserved it, being told i'm lying or being made to feel like I'm somehow being underhanded.

Your post invoked those exact feelings in me and hence the comment of 'this is why i wont go to the cops'.

I think you are an insensitive creep who is taking pleasure in my discomfort.

You are free to your opinion as I am to mine. Let me just mention that if you have been around long enough to read my posts, I carry woman in a very high regard. And I take rape to be one of the most horible crimes any person can do to another. I will never condone it EVER.

Some woman are happy being the victim and needs to be made aware of how stupid they are. Even if it seems unsensitive. I couldn't care less of what you think of me, as long as my posts put so much rage in you that you decide not to be the victim anymore and do something about it. Then I'm happy even if you think I'm a heartless prick

 

[almostgone]

Ok well let this be my final post then.

My initial post here was to get some kind of clarity on this whole thing. Even in that thread I stated that I am aware of my own part in this and am in no way asking for anyone to hold my hand and guide the way. I asked for thoughts and insight. Having received that I have accepted my precence and understood my actions to a degree. No I wont turn him in because I love him and I know he wont survive jail. I could never disrupt his life in the way he has mine. Is it selfish in that I know he will do it again? Yes. I know. Am I crazy in saying that I'll get past this but he'll die in jail? I dont know. But that is my choice. I am not asking ANYONE to save me from him or myself. All I wanted was to have a space to talk about the screwed upness of it all.

Am I a victim by choice? Yes. Because I chose to give this man power over me for my own selfish reasons. Once again, this post was not about me. It was about men who say one thing and do another.

I did not want sympathy, I did not want help and I did not come in here looking for a saviour.

So long, fairwell, auf wiedersehen, good bye.

 

[Pitbull]

Ok well let this be my final post then.

My initial post here was to get some kind of clarity on this whole thing. Even in that thread I stated that I am aware of my own part in this and am in no way asking for anyone to hold my hand and guide the way. I asked for thoughts and insight. Having received that I have accepted my precence and understood my actions to a degree. No I wont turn him in because I love him and I know he wont survive jail. I could never disrupt his life in the way he has mine. Is it selfish in that I know he will do it again? Yes. I know. Am I crazy in saying that I'll get past this but he'll die in jail? I dont know. But that is my choice. I am not asking ANYONE to save me from him or myself. All I wanted was to have a space to talk about the screwed upness of it all.

Am I a victim by choice? Yes. Because I chose to give this man power over me for my own selfish reasons. Once again, this post was not about me. It was about men who say one thing and do another.

I did not want sympathy, I did not want help and I did not come in here looking for a saviour.

So long, fairwell, auf wiedersehen, good bye.

Ok, so all the personal details where not required I guess. But then again you're gone now. Just hope you took what was said to heart and do something about it.

Good luck and all the best, I do honestly hope you sort yourself out and don't let this get the better of you.

 

[porn$tar]

I have been raped by this man on 2 occassions. Once in 2006 when I was living in Bryanston and once on April 17th this year (after I was humiliated in a parking lot in front of all his friends) and I should not have to justify it to anyone let alone a random name on a screen.

If you still feel the need to try and discredit me, then I will take it to mean that posts from me in future will be unwelcome.

Yet here you are, asking self-same random names on a screen for advice. Really good advice I might add, that you completely shrug off.

After all that and all that you've been through, you're still with him. You discredit yourself because it's just that hard for anybody to believe.

 

[shadow_man]

Congrats - You have just become a rapist by association. Wait till he does it again. You will have raped somebody. You will have caused them the anguish that he caused you. Nice isn't it? Wake the **** up and stop being so selfish, help someone else to not fall in to the same predicament.

But hey you know what I think, I think you want attention. Prove me wrong.

J

Ok well let this be my final post then.

My initial post here was to get some kind of clarity on this whole thing. Even in that thread I stated that I am aware of my own part in this and am in no way asking for anyone to hold my hand and guide the way. I asked for thoughts and insight. Having received that I have accepted my precence and understood my actions to a degree. No I wont turn him in because I love him and I know he wont survive jail. I could never disrupt his life in the way he has mine. Is it selfish in that I know he will do it again? Yes. I know. Am I crazy in saying that I'll get past this but he'll die in jail? I dont know. But that is my choice. I am not asking ANYONE to save me from him or myself. All I wanted was to have a space to talk about the screwed upness of it all.

Am I a victim by choice? Yes. Because I chose to give this man power over me for my own selfish reasons. Once again, this post was not about me. It was about men who say one thing and do another.

I did not want sympathy, I did not want help and I did not come in here looking for a saviour.

So long, fairwell, auf wiedersehen, good bye.

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Ease up there folks. It must be difficult being in her situation. Remember that her ex is probably a highly manipulative sociopath and going to the police over this sort of thing can be highly stressful.

 

[Devill]

Ease up there folks. It must be difficult being in her situation. Remember that her ex is probably a highly manipulative sociopath and going to the police over this sort of thing can be highly stressful.

Still does not make it a valid excuse......