Age gaps in relationships

[thestaggy]

What do the good folks of myBB believe an appropriate age gap is in a relationship?

One ''guideline'' I'm aware of is the ''half your age plus 7'' rule. I'm 28, so that puts my minimum age at 21. I reckon that can work out up to a point. A 21-year old and a 28-year old can be at very different points in their lives so a serious relationship may not work out between the two. Example; The 28-year old may be considering a family while the 21-year old may still want to party every weekend.

 

[satanboy]

I don't have a rule.

 

[Aghori]

As long as it's 16 and over it's all good.

 

[Polymathic]

As long as it's 16 and over it's all good.

for casual sex maybe. I don't think I can have realtionship with a person who is more than 5 years younger than me

 

[Vroomfondel]

It doesn't matter, just find someone that's compatible. My girlfriend is almost 3 years older than me, but because we have similar personalities, sense of humours, etc, everything works out great.

 

[Nick333]

What do the good folks of myBB believe an appropriate age gap is in a relationship?

One ''guideline'' I'm aware of is the ''half your age plus 7'' rule. I'm 28, so that puts my minimum age at 21. I reckon that can work out up to a point. A 21-year old and a 28-year old can be at very different points in their lives so a serious relationship may not work out between the two. Example; The 28-year old may be considering a family while the 21-year old may still want to party every weekend.

Different levels of maturity can be a problem for people of the same age. Having said that a more mature person can help a mature person grow.

 

[Nick333]

* less

 

[tcofran]

as hy pas is hy vas !

 

[LCBXX]

Half your age, plus 7. Not my guideline but I find it quite a good yardstick.

 

[Aghori]

your casual sex maybe. I don't think I can have realtionship with a person who is more than 5 years younger than me

She would be 36 years younger than me if she was 16

 

[satanboy]

maturity and age don't always correspond

 

[Skywalker786]

SO is 9 years younger than me.

Honestly was hell at first, as I still wanted to party all the time and he wanted to get married.

Proof that age wants/needs stereotypes are not always true.

 

[Skywalker786]

maturity and age don't always correspond

Ditto

 

[Electric]

As long as it's 16 and over it's all good.

In some parts of the world that would be considered old.

 

[Aghori]

In some parts of the world that would be considered old.

Let's not start a discussion about Islam/Hinduism/Christianity :erm:

 

[TehStranger]

I wouldn't put a rule to it. No reason why a 21 year old with life experience can't be more mature than a 23 year old who has spent 5 years failing a BA degree in varsity while partying every weekend.

If she's out of school, she's fair game. :twisted:

Heck some in school are fair game. :twisted:

My SO disagrees.

 

[Polymathic]

In some parts of the world that would be considered old.

Certain states in the US (if my memory serves me right) 14years is legal

 

[SauRoNZA]

I figure once you are on the same walk of life...finished studying, have a solid career your own car etc where you are completely self reliant then everyone is one and the same.

Whether you are 30 and she's 50 really doesn't matter, it's about your own position in life versus each other.


Same reason I don't think someone in the working world already making money should be dating a student who is living off mom & dad's cash. It's just a bad idea and incompatible.

 

[satanboy]

I wouldn't put a rule to it. No reason why a 21 year old with life experience can't be more mature than a 23 year old who has spent 5 years failing a BA degree in varsity while partying every weekend.

If she's out of school, she's fair game. :twisted:

Heck some in school are fair game. :twisted:

My SO disagrees.

She's just jelly...because you can scoop up a 16 year old.

 

[TehStranger]

She's just jelly...because you can scoop up a 16 year old.

It's actually easier than it looks, the promise of getting them into clubs plus a bit of rohypnol goes a long way.