Age gaps in relationships

[Aghori]

It's actually easier than it looks, the promise of getting them into clubs plus a bit of rohypnol goes a long way.

I see you moved up from chloroform and a rag, not much but progress nonetheless

 

[TofuMofu]

My SO and I have 9 years difference. He is younger.

He is mature and doesn't just want to go out and drink and be all studenty so we get a long quite well

It all depend on the maturity (even older guys or girls can be immature).

 

[I.am.Sam]

was always nothing more than 3 year difference

there was this one girl though ..me 21 she 16

 

[satanboy]

My SO and I have 9 years difference. He is younger.

He is mature and doesn't just want to go out and drink and be all studenty so we get a long quite well

It all depend on the maturity (even older guys or girls can be immature).

Are you a student?

 

[I.am.Sam]

It's actually easier than it looks, the promise of getting them into clubs plus a bit of rohypnol goes a long way.

come to the meet

get 1st hand advise from copa

 

[thestaggy]

SO is 9 years younger than me.

Honestly was hell at first, as I still wanted to party all the time and he wanted to get married.

Proof that age wants/needs stereotypes are not always true.

Fair enough. I admit that I over-simplified my OP.

If I look at my friends who are all 28 - 30 and married with kids I'd say I am ''immature'' because I consider myself not ready for marriage or children.

 

[AstroTurf]

What do the good folks of myBB believe an appropriate age gap is in a relationship?

One ''guideline'' I'm aware of is the ''half your age plus 7'' rule. I'm 28, so that puts my minimum age at 21. I reckon that can work out up to a point. A 21-year old and a 28-year old can be at very different points in their lives so a serious relationship may not work out between the two. Example; The 28-year old may be considering a family while the 21-year old may still want to party every weekend.

That is exactly the age difference between myself and my wife

 

[TofuMofu]

Are you a student?

I am not.

 

[TehStranger]

come to the meet

get 1st hand advise from copa

I bow to the great crazy eyes.

Coming to the meet... Joburg meet.

 

[SauRoNZA]

Fair enough. I admit that I over-simplified my OP.

If I look at my friends who are all 28 - 30 and married with kids I'd say I am ''immature'' because I consider myself not ready for marriage or children.

Not being ready to get married and have children could be seen as a sign of maturity.

Knowing what you want and what you are ready for is very mature.

Just doing what is expected of you isn't necessarily mature...it's just easy.

 

[satanboy]

I am not.

So he is a student?

 

[TofuMofu]

So he is a student?

That is correct I said that lol

 

[Aghori]

Not being ready to get married and have children could be seen as a sign of maturity.

Knowing what you want and what you are ready for is very mature.

Just doing what is expected of you isn't necessarily mature...it's just easy.

The Great Eye speaks the truth.

 

[thestaggy]

I figure once you are on the same walk of life...finished studying, have a solid career your own car etc where you are completely self reliant then everyone is one and the same.

Ja, I'd agree with that.

 

[AstroTurf]

Wife and I have a 7 year age gap.

We dated 2 years
We were engaged 2 years
Married 2 years before first child (so 6 years there before it even got "serious").
And now the 2n'd child is on his way

 

[satanboy]

That is correct I said that lol

When?
Where?

 

[thestaggy]

Not being ready to get married and have children could be seen as a sign of maturity.

Knowing what you want and what you are ready for is very mature.

Just doing what is expected of you isn't necessarily mature...it's just easy.

I have never really looked at it that way. Goddamn societal norms.

 

[TofuMofu]

When?
Where?

Oh, I didn't say. I said "be all studenty" when referring to him.

 

[winner]

SO is 9 years younger than me.

Honestly was hell at first, as I still wanted to party all the time and he wanted to get married.

Proof that age wants/needs stereotypes are not always true.

This is probably the biggest factor where age is concerned. If people are on the same page on this one then i dont think age will be important

 

[Pho3nix]

Same reason I don't think someone in the working world already making money should be dating a student who is living off mom & dad's cash. It's just a bad idea and incompatible.

+1. It might work but usually doesn't.