Age gaps in relationships

Pho3nix said:
+1. It might work but usually doesn't.
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yeah not saying it's impossible but it's certainly an unnecessary complication variable that will cause some kind of trouble at some point.

But the same as people in relationships with very different pay scales. It's not impossible, but does add stress...avoid if you can.
 
SauRoNZA said:
yeah not saying it's impossible but it's certainly an unnecessary complication variable that will cause some kind of trouble at some point.

But the same as people in relationships with very different pay scales. It's not impossible, but does add stress...avoid if you can.
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Think pay scales are workable. Being able to go out on a whim VS your SO having to ask for permission or money :erm: will cause some friction.

OOC : Any word on the noob-investment class you mentioned in the Business Forum. Think it was you that mentioned it. Sorry for the ambush :o
 
A difference of more than 90 years is typically too much.

SauRoNZA said:
yeah not saying it's impossible but it's certainly an unnecessary complication variable that will cause some kind of trouble at some point.

But the same as people in relationships with very different pay scales. It's not impossible, but does add stress...avoid if you can.
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Like all those stay at home mothers and wives of current and previous generations? Even students invariably have vastly different levels of access to money. Trying match those things is itself an unnecessary complication.
 
noxibox said:
A difference of more than 90 years is typically too much.


Like all those stay at home mothers and wives of current and previous generations? Even students invariably have vastly different levels of access to money. Trying match those things is itself an unnecessary complication.
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It's a very different thing being in an existing relationship and one of the parents then choosing to stay at home to look after the kids. It's not like looking after kids is an easy "job" either.

But if someone who is earning 50k is starting to datesomeone earning 15k then there is going to be some friction at one point or another. Like I said it's not impossible but often it's just an extra complication.
 
thestaggy said:
A 21-year old and a 28-year old can be at very different points in their lives so a serious relationship may not work out between the two. Example; The 28-year old may be considering a family while the 21-year old may still want to party every weekend.
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They could just want different things overall rather than it being anything to do with wanting different things right now. Either way a fundamental conflict of that sort will make things unworkable.

winner said:
This is probably the biggest factor where age is concerned. If people are on the same page on this one then i dont think age will be important
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Something like one person preferring to party and the other not shouldn't be a problem if both are mature enough to handle it.
 
noxibox said:
They could just want different things overall rather than it being anything to do with wanting different things right now. Either way a fundamental conflict of that sort will make things unworkable.


Something like one person preferring to party and the other not shouldn't be a problem if both are mature enough to handle it.
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Yep that's true. The husband is 13 years older than me, I still like to party and be socialable with my friends, he doesn't, he stays home and does his thing, I go out and do mine. We met when I was 21. We got together, had kiddies, set up home and then only got married. For some reason I thought things would change with marriage but surprisingly, they haven't and we are still besties. :)
 
AstroTurf said:
Wife and I have a 7 year age gap.

We dated 2 years
We were engaged 2 years
Married 2 years before first child (so 6 years there before it even got "serious").
And now the 2n'd child is on his way :)
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Wife and I also have a 7 year age gap.

Pho3nix said:
Think pay scales are workable. Being able to go out on a whim VS your SO having to ask for permission or money :erm: will cause some friction.
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Not necessarily. My wife doesn't work, we each have a monthly allowance which we agreed upon. She usually blows hers on clothes or going out with her peers. I usually blow mine on gadgets and beers :)

Pho3nix said:
OOC : Any word on the noob-investment class you mentioned in the Business Forum. Think it was you that mentioned it. Sorry for the ambush :o
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MKFrost
 
if there's grass on the field then we can play...else she's too yung for you bro! :p
 
thestaggy said:
Fair enough. I admit that I over-simplified my OP.

If I look at my friends who are all 28 - 30 and married with kids I'd say I am ''immature'' because I consider myself not ready for marriage or children.
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Aren't you like 16? :erm:
 
When I was 28 I dated a girl who was 20...... when she started singing the Barney song, I ended it.
 
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