Anorgasmia

[50CentShort]

If she does .... will you be open minded? You have not told us how sexually open you are?

I'm pretty open minded Ockie. Nothing that she can suggest will shock me. I have a sexual history with other partners, so I have a good idea of what is out there.

 

[50CentShort]

Just take it very very easy, make it as non-threatening as possible. Good luck.

thank you, I will most definitely make this very non-threatening. If I have ever asked her anything, she always answers. She is a truthful/honest kind of person.

 

[Ockie]

I'm pretty open minded Ockie. Nothing that she can suggest will shock me. I have a sexual history with other partners, so I have a good idea of what is out there.

Ok good. Just wanted to make sure, because else the problem gets shifted from her to you ... or actually just both of you. The one is ashamed of it and the other is freaked out about and having nightmares because of what his woman wants to do.

 

[Pitbull]

My wife is not lying. She honestly does not have the opportunity to even do this. Unless she is getting off in the car in the parking lot during lunch.

Or in the bath at home, maybe the shower. While on the crapper. Maybe at night while you sleeping. And so the list goes on and on. I have no idea why there is this stigma attached to self pleasure people are shy to admit it but everyone does it. It's like someone saying: "I have never farted before in my life"

Come on, really?

 

[Pitbull]

thanks for this. We are most certainly going to have a sit-down and put everything on the table. She might be guarded due to having some really off the wall desires, and feels guilty about it. I need to rule that out.

Most important of all. Make her understand that she has nothing to feel ashamed about and you start off with something that should shock her a bit. She'll then start to open bit by bit. This will be the best thing you will ever do for your relationship. Once everyone know what is good for who it gets really really interesting

 

[Pitbull]

I'm pretty open minded Ockie. Nothing that she can suggest will shock me. I have a sexual history with other partners, so I have a good idea of what is out there.

Maybe she wants another chick and have a 3-some /holding thumbs for you

 

[EMAM]

Try spanking her and call her a dirty whore... if it works you'll never look back, trust me.

Do negotiate this up front however.

That.............I'm getting spoken to now like that, and, OMG, does it work!!!! I must admit I was very shocked the first time it came out of his mouth (because I am quite a lady) but then I realised what a turn on it was.
Open up the lines of communication in the bedroom, talk dirty, ask her to take control and let her talk dirty back to you. Let her take the pace. Control for a woman is amazing - I prefer to be the one in control.

 

[Ockie]

That.............I'm getting spoken to now like that, and, OMG, does it work!!!! I must admit I was very shocked the first time it came out of his mouth (because I am quite a lady) but then I realised what a turn on it was.
Open up the lines of communication in the bedroom, talk dirty, ask her to take control and let her talk dirty back to you. Let her take the pace. Control for a woman is amazing - I prefer to be the one in control.

What do they say? Great cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom?

 

[50CentShort]

Or in the bath at home, maybe the shower. While on the crapper. Maybe at night while you sleeping. And so the list goes on and on. I have no idea why there is this stigma attached to self pleasure people are shy to admit it but everyone does it. It's like someone saying: "I have never farted before in my life"

Come on, really?

She told me categorically that she does not do it because she does not enjoy doing it to herself. I believe that she wont lie to my face.

I will ask her again, and if something does come up, I will most definitely come back here and tell you.

 

[Pitbull]

She told me categorically that she does not do it because she does not enjoy it. I believe that she wont lie to my face.

I will ask her again, and if something does come up, I will most definitely come back here and tell you.

Just don't feel bad that she lied to your face. Like I said, people don't like admitting that get off on themselves sometimes. Weird but true. Anyway, I'm sure you guys are on the correct track with having a chat and understanding each other. You can't go wrong no matter what happens and comes out of it. Just sit back, relax and enjoy.

Do you know if she's on any chronic medication? That can affect a woman's libido and they agree to have sex but only to pleasure you they not in the mood due to the meds. Could also be an issue. She will tell you when you have a nice open discussion.

 

[Akasha]

All i can contribute to this thread is vibrators. If she's not having orgasms from your effort, do her a favor and give her a vibrator. I had the same issue as your wife with some guys. And sometimes i still do. But my toys have helped me a lot and I'd recommend it to anyone. Even if it's just a bullet vibe, it does some amazing stuff!

 

[samrai.jck]

Right so try this technique.

1. make sure she peed beforehand.
2. make sure she is wet.
3. (this is my super secret ultimate orgasm, my wife loses consciousness trick so take care.)(also proven on other woman before said wife)
4. put your middle finger in her til about the first bend of your finger making come hither motion(but not the point of the excercise), now with the palm of your hand, the part under your thumb, rest that on her clit.
5. Move your wand up and down, the middel finger going up and down, not in and out, the thumb-palm part rubbing against her clit.
6. rest your head in her neck and go slow for long, and if she climaxes go faster. But its important to put your head in her neck, so she can make faces as much as she wants.

this will make her crazy.

Feel free to give me feedback, if this worked or not.
she has to be relaxed and in the right state of mind, me and my wife have now gotten it to a point where she orgasms for about 1-2minutes, but its so intense and drains her body that she cant do it two nights in a row.

 

[EMAM]

What do they say? Great cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom?

How did you know??????:wtf:

 

[EMAM]

Right so try this technique.

1. make sure she peed beforehand.
2. make sure she is wet.
3. (this is my super secret ultimate orgasm, my wife loses consciousness trick so take care.)(also proven on other woman before said wife)
4. put your middle finger in her til about the first bend of your finger making come hither motion(but not the point of the excercise), now with the palm of your hand, the part under your thumb, rest that on her clit.
5. Move your wand up and down, the middel finger going up and down, not in and out, the thumb-palm part rubbing against her clit.
6. rest your head in her neck and go slow for long, and if she climaxes go faster. But its important to put your head in her neck, so she can make faces as much as she wants.

this will make her crazy.

Feel free to give me feedback, if this worked or not.
she has to be relaxed and in the right state of mind, me and my wife have now gotten it to a point where she orgasms for about 1-2minutes, but its so intense and drains her body that she cant do it two nights in a row.

How do you tag another forumite????

 

[Baxteen]

with @ username no spaces

but a message like that, maybe its better to just simply send it via PM....

 

[Blue Shirt]

Right so try this technique.

1. make sure she peed beforehand.
2. make sure she is wet.
3. (this is my super secret ultimate orgasm, my wife loses consciousness trick so take care.)(also proven on other woman before said wife)
4. put your middle finger in her til about the first bend of your finger making come hither motion(but not the point of the excercise), now with the palm of your hand, the part under your thumb, rest that on her clit.
5. Move your wand up and down, the middel finger going up and down, not in and out, the thumb-palm part rubbing against her clit.
6. rest your head in her neck and go slow for long, and if she climaxes go faster. But its important to put your head in her neck, so she can make faces as much as she wants.

this will make her crazy.

Feel free to give me feedback, if this worked or not.
she has to be relaxed and in the right state of mind, me and my wife have now gotten it to a point where she orgasms for about 1-2minutes, but its so intense and drains her body that she cant do it two nights in a row.

The good old G-spot stimulation....

 

[50CentShort]

Right so try this technique.

1. make sure she peed beforehand.
2. make sure she is wet.
3. (this is my super secret ultimate orgasm, my wife loses consciousness trick so take care.)(also proven on other woman before said wife)
4. put your middle finger in her til about the first bend of your finger making come hither motion(but not the point of the excercise), now with the palm of your hand, the part under your thumb, rest that on her clit.
5. Move your wand up and down, the middel finger going up and down, not in and out, the thumb-palm part rubbing against her clit.
6. rest your head in her neck and go slow for long, and if she climaxes go faster. But its important to put your head in her neck, so she can make faces as much as she wants.

this will make her crazy.

Feel free to give me feedback, if this worked or not.
she has to be relaxed and in the right state of mind, me and my wife have now gotten it to a point where she orgasms for about 1-2minutes, but its so intense and drains her body that she cant do it two nights in a row.

Will keep this info on hand, but I think we need to make some mental advances first before we go with the new methods. I think trying this method MIGHT work, but would rather keep it up my sleeve for later.

 

[samrai.jck]

Will keep this info on hand, but I think we need to make some mental advances first before we go with the new methods. I think trying this method MIGHT work, but would rather keep it up my sleeve for later.

Just a thing you have to keep in mind, you expecting stuff to happen is going to put unnecessary pressure on a situation where you could just naturally get stuff to happen.

You have to take it slow and get her comfortable, that is the longest and slowest process, it may take months-years.

The one thing a woman cannot do is perform when there is pressure on her to perform. Men are easy, hard, fudge, cum, over.

 

[MickeyD]

Right so try this technique.

1. make sure she peed beforehand.
2. make sure she is wet.
3. (this is my super secret ultimate orgasm, my wife loses consciousness trick so take care.)(also proven on other woman before said wife)
4. put your middle finger in her til about the first bend of your finger making come hither motion(but not the point of the excercise), now with the palm of your hand, the part under your thumb, rest that on her clit.
5. Move your wand up and down, the middel finger going up and down, not in and out, the thumb-palm part rubbing against her clit.
6. rest your head in her neck and go slow for long, and if she climaxes go faster. But its important to put your head in her neck, so she can make faces as much as she wants.

this will make her crazy.

Feel free to give me feedback, if this worked or not.
she has to be relaxed and in the right state of mind, me and my wife have now gotten it to a point where she orgasms for about 1-2minutes, but its so intense and drains her body that she cant do it two nights in a row.

@nick333

 

[samrai.jck]

@nick333

Im sorry I dont understand this reference.