Bachelor Party

Dot1 said:
Here they are looking at going away for a night - R1500 - is that reasonable?
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I've been to a number of bachelorette parties. R1500 is expensive. I've never paid more than R500 as a guest - I.e. Not part of the bridal party.
 
Dot1 said:
Here they are looking at going away for a night - R1500 - is that reasonable?
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Why would anyone do that? I don't get it, no matter whether the groom or his family pays, or the guests are expected each to pay their own way.
 
May as well hijack the thread since it's up for grabs:

How do you feel about having your husband's birthday "party" at home, inviting 35 guests and saying "if you don't want to bring a gift, he's going to watch the rugby in Netherlands next year so money is welcome"?

Also BYOB.

I think it's despicable and I paid R500 to sit in a plastic garden chair, no music because it's a complex - R500!!!!

Now she's planning her own birthday party for September and because it's family I feel morally obligated to go.

For me, host/ hostess should pay for the food, even if it's hotdogs or pizza. BYOB is fine and gift is at the guests' discretion.
 
maumau said:
May as well hijack the thread since it's up for grabs:

How do you feel about having your husband's birthday "party" at home, inviting 35 guests and saying "if you don't want to bring a gift, he's going to watch the rugby in Netherlands next year so money is welcome"?

Also BYOB.

I think it's despicable and I paid R500 to sit in a plastic garden chair, no music because it's a complex - R500!!!!

Now she's planning her own birthday party for September and because it's family I feel morally obligated to go.

For me, host/ hostess should pay for the food, even if it's hotdogs or pizza. BYOB is fine and gift is at the guests' discretion.
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They brought nothing for their own party?
Reminds of my Auntie, who brought a dessert to a family gathering, they ate it amongst themselves then took the it back home with them, whilst taking samples of other people's contributions with them.

Edit: she's also the type that would invite the extended family over for lunch and serve everybody last night's left over
 
Polymathic said:
They brought nothing for their own party?
Reminds of my Auntie, who brought a dessert to a family gathering, they ate it amongst themselves then took the it back home with them, whilst taking samples of other people's contributions with them.

Edit: she's also the type that would invite the extended family over for lunch and serve everybody last night's left over
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Hahaha at serving leftovers. Some people have no shame :laugh:

Had guests who told us they'd instructed their teenage children to eat as much as they could because they couldn't afford to eat like that at home, then asked to take pudding home for the next day.

Oh ja, so- and- so couldn't come but we'll take a plate of dinner for him/her - mounds food onto plate.

This particular family member is planning another 2 "events" this year. Think I'll pick a fight until after xmas :ROFL:
 
maumau said:
inviting 35 guests and saying "if you don't want to bring a gift, he's going to watch the rugby in Netherlands next year so money is welcome"?
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Uhm, I will just inform her that I plan to braai at home that day. Nobody should feel compelled to give any type of gift. She sounds like a Drama Lama Karen
 
Cheek hey? But I don't want to offend her because she thinks it's fine, her sister has told her it's not on but she's sooooo forceful.

She's arranged 2 family get togethers in the last 7 months where we've all had to pay, R300 for the first R500 for the one I mentioned.

Two more of hers coming up this year.

Won't go to her birthday but will go to the other thing.
 
maumau said:
Cheek hey? But I don't want to offend her because she thinks it's fine, her sister has told her it's not on but she's sooooo forceful.

She's arranged 2 family get togethers in the last 7 months where we've all had to pay, R300 for the first R500 for the one I mentioned.

Two more of hers coming up this year.

Won't go to her birthday but will go to the other thing.
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Sounds like she's the type that will pocket the difference of what she claimed the budget is and what she actually ends up paying for everything.
 
maumau said:
Cheek hey? But I don't want to offend her because she thinks it's fine, her sister has told her it's not on but she's sooooo forceful.

She's arranged 2 family get togethers in the last 7 months where we've all had to pay, R300 for the first R500 for the one I mentioned.

Two more of hers coming up this year.

Won't go to her birthday but will go to the other thing.
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Bring en braais are totally acceptable.
If they are making something fancy for dinner I would also be okay with splitting the cost, but that would be bit wierd. Not the done thing.

With friends we normally take turns to host. So this is not an issue, everyone get a turn.

Asking for money as a gift. That's bit wierd.
 
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100% agree with bring and braai, even bring your own booze if it's close family because some of my lot can really put it away and so can I :laugh:
 
Polymathic said:
Sounds like she's the type that will pocket the difference of what she claimed the budget is and what she actually ends up paying for everything.
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That's what happened at the R300 per head event.

My issue here is the assumption of an expensive gift, R300 airtags were the plan from me but his phone isn't compatible so she assumed R500.

Spending lavishly on your own close family is a given but this guy is my niece's husband! She's going to expect at least R500 for her birthday, if not more.
 
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