Dating . . . after the break up!

RazedInBlack

RazedInBlack

RazedInBlack
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Four months ago I got the "This isn't working anymore" speech. So after a year and a half, me and my girlfriend split. I took it quite hard to be honest . . . at first!

So, me being the person thats always trying to figure out what really happened did some research on relationships. Read books, scoured the interwebz, talked to people.

My conclusion? Don't even bother looking for answers. Female logic is flawed on an emotional level. During my quest for answers I came across a host of PUA sites. Really, some or let me say 60% of the advice given I was doing already, I just wasn't concious of the fact that I was. The rest, 30% was improving technique.

To be honest I really sucked . . . Approach Anxiety had me down but I stuck with, so with more practice I became slightly better at it.

So to all those emo chumps here complaining about their girlfriends giving them a hard time . . . fsck 'em!
Theres plenty of women out there that are better than she is. Stop putting her on a pedastal and thinking she's the best thing since sliced bread. She's NOT!


And the next girl gives you a hard time . . . fsck her too!

Ok, this doesn't mean that you should come across as a complete douchebag. Still maintain your core values, such as respect, honesty and most importantly, DIGNITY!

So whats your A-Game on dating?
 
RazedInBlack said:
Four months ago I got the "This isn't working anymore" speech. So after a year and a half, me and my girlfriend split. I took it quite hard to be honest . . . at first!

So, me being the person thats always trying to figure out what really happened did some research on relationships. Read books, scoured the interwebz, talked to people.

My conclusion? Don't even bother looking for answers. Female logic is flawed on an emotional level. During my quest for answers I came across a host of PUA sites. Really, some or let me say 60% of the advice given I was doing already, I just wasn't concious of the fact that I was. The rest, 30% was improving technique.

To be honest I really sucked . . . Approach Anxiety had me down but I stuck with, so with more practice I became slightly better at it.

So to all those emo chumps here complaining about their girlfriends giving them a hard time . . . fsck 'em!
Theres plenty of women out there that are better than she is. Stop putting her on a pedastal and thinking she's the best thing since sliced bread. She's NOT!


And the next girl gives you a hard time . . . fsck her too!

Ok, this doesn't mean that you should come across as a complete douchebag. Still maintain your core values, such as respect, honesty and most importantly, DIGNITY!

So whats your A-Game on dating?
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look for an 18 wheeler they don't complain as much....
 
RazedInBlack said:
Tsek man! Yor! Can't I be serious for once?
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on a serious note yes you right no woman should be up there ..yes it hurts and bla bla but people should not go on like its the end of the world...

things are meant to happen and well i been out the game for long but i was apart for few months ...

the A game came back so quickly but then got back with my SO cos that was what i wanted and the break up was not something we did but some other storys

Long as you know how to talk and you can be confident, anything is good
 
Also single now for ± 2 months after a 3 year relationship

My problem is where am i supposed to meet girls?
My friends don’t have any single woman friends, at 29 im a little old for clubs and also not very fond of the girls hanging out in those places, there are no real decent dating sites in SA so in don’t know

I don’t believe im the only one facing this problem, unless you guys know something i don’t ;-)

NB, thanks for the advice OP
 
RazedInBlack said:
Theres plenty of women out there that are better than she is. Stop putting her on a pedastal and thinking she's the best thing since sliced bread
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After a 3+ year relationship, no one is going to think like this, especially if they were the person dumped
 
Lament you need time off 1st for a while...going out is a start to meet people

and where ever you go that is

facebook twitter all works well :D
 
samr1wp said:
Lament you need time off 1st for a while...going out is a start to meet people

and where ever you go that is

facebook twitter all works well :D
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Thanks... but why does everyone say i need time off....hahaha

I have Facebook, but have no idea to use it to meet new people, im not one of those weird dudes that’s just going to add random people :D

But i guess everything will happen in good time :P
 
OP people change. First girl I dated, she was 19 I was 24. We broke up after about 3 years as well. We were perfect for each other (so we thought) but looking back now all those years later it's actually amazing how much we changed in those three years. For myself my tastes in women changed both physically and emotionally/intellectualy so much that after about 3 years she just irritated the **** outa me and visa versa. The break up hurt yeah but looking back it was SO for the best. Not sure how relevant that is but yeah :D
 
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Lament said:
Thanks... but why does everyone say i need time off....hahaha

I have Facebook, but have no idea to use it to meet new people, im not one of those weird dudes that’s just going to add random people :D

But i guess everything will happen in good time :P
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cos you do ..trust me you do

even if its like another 2/3 months you just need it haha

and as for FB no furker ...dont go on like a stalker

im sure you can flirt with ladies haha ...thats a start

and yes time is all you need :p
 
RazedInBlack said:
Four months ago I got the "This isn't working anymore" speech. So after a year and a half, me and my girlfriend split. I took it quite hard to be honest . . . at first!

So, me being the person thats always trying to figure out what really happened did some research on relationships. Read books, scoured the interwebz, talked to people.

My conclusion? Don't even bother looking for answers. Female logic is flawed on an emotional level. During my quest for answers I came across a host of PUA sites. Really, some or let me say 60% of the advice given I was doing already, I just wasn't concious of the fact that I was. The rest, 30% was improving technique.

To be honest I really sucked . . . Approach Anxiety had me down but I stuck with, so with more practice I became slightly better at it.

So to all those emo chumps here complaining about their girlfriends giving them a hard time . . . fsck 'em!
Theres plenty of women out there that are better than she is. Stop putting her on a pedastal and thinking she's the best thing since sliced bread. She's NOT!


And the next girl gives you a hard time . . . fsck her too!

Ok, this doesn't mean that you should come across as a complete douchebag. Still maintain your core values, such as respect, honesty and most importantly, DIGNITY!

So whats your A-Game on dating?
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Broke up with my ex on Sunday, already feels like I am making a huge mistake.

It's hard to just let go.

Thanks for your post because I do put her on a pedastal and I know i shouldn't there will be more :)
 
Just coming out of a 6 year relationship, my problem is not so much meeting girls, my problem is that all the girls my age (mid 20's) I meet want to settle down, and the fact that I just want to whore around for the time being seems to scare them off:whistle:
 
lol, OP sounds like me 8 years ago

good luck with that ;)

you'll learn later that it's better to fix what is broken than to just give up and move onto something else
 
samr1wp said:
cos you do ..trust me you do

even if its like another 2/3 months you just need it haha

and as for FB no furker ...dont go on like a stalker

im sure you can flirt with ladies haha ...thats a start

and yes time is all you need :p
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To be honest, the last two months has done me a world of good, im getting in good shape again, partying weekends, and honestly just enjoying myself, i don’t think i have enjoyed myself this much in my enite lifetime, so ja, let’s give it another 3 months :D

I still miss her and what we had though, breakups are not fun, allot happens in 3 years, i honestly thought the bond we had was stronger than anything, apparently not stronger than the urge to make out with a guy it Hatfield while i was at home.....

The only thing that gets to me about being single is the loneliness , not waking up next to someone or coming home to someone, it’s a lifestyle im not used to, but the weekends are AWESOME....hahaha
 
Lament said:
To be honest, the last two months has done me a world of good, im getting in good shape again, partying weekends, and honestly just enjoying myself, i don’t think i have enjoyed myself this much in my enite lifetime, so ja, let’s give it another 3 months :D

I still miss her and what we had though, breakups are not fun, allot happens in 3 years, i honestly thought the bond we had was stronger than anything, apparently not stronger than the urge to make out with a guy it Hatfield while i was at home.....

The only thing that gets to me about being single is the loneliness , not waking up next to someone or coming home to someone, it’s a lifestyle im not used to, but the weekends are AWESOME....hahaha
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For me that's the hardest things about being alone, not waking up next to someone.
 
thats why u need friends ...not for the waking up next to part or if you have lady friends that want that lol but for taking away that loneliness

while i was apart from my SO for 4 months i never stayed at home ..

every night somewhere doing something ..it was nice cos it was a break we needed

we were 3 and a half years together and we got back 4 months later so yeah we together a long time

so yes do all that and you will meet people and do things

its simple not hard as people make it out to be and dont forget to smile always ...that girl will smile back and its jackpot
 
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