Depression.

A wise person once told me that if you feel depressed, down, or blue and e.g. do not want to leave the house/go anywhere/do anything, you cannot wait to feel better and then do those things.

You must "do" first (whether you feel like it nor not) and then mental improvement may follow.

I know it is over-simplifying things, but maybe it helps somebody on here.
 
CamiKaze said:
I'm about to start seeing a psychiatrist again, after 5 years of getting off of my anti-depressants and stuff... F###... I'm here again...
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Had my blood work done. Doctor just phoned.
I need to see a cardiologist because my blood pressure is constantly high.
So... I guess I'll be on blood pressure medication for the rest of my life... I'm 37 years old... sigh.
 
CamiKaze said:
So... I guess I'll be on blood pressure medication for the rest of my life... I'm 37 years old... sigh.
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Not trying to invalidate your doctor's recommendations at all, but this here is just something you may want to look into:

Lifestyles changes that can undo the compounded effects of Metabolic Syndrome.
 
Candystore said:
A wise person once told me that if you feel depressed, down, or blue and e.g. do not want to leave the house/go anywhere/do anything, you cannot wait to feel better and then do those things.

You must "do" first (whether you feel like it nor not) and then mental improvement may follow.

I know it is over-simplifying things, but maybe it helps somebody on here.
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I hear you and agree however sometimes forcing yourself into these 'normal' situations just highlights even more how depressed you are.

Gotta keep on swimming one way or the other. Time is going and oh so fast.
 
TheTwo said:
I hear you and agree however sometimes forcing yourself into these 'normal' situations just highlights even more how depressed you are.

Gotta keep on swimming one way or the other. Time is going and oh so fast.
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Slightly related but I once decided to go to an improv thing to get over my social anxiety / shyness. Jumping in the deep end maybe but after 2 sessions I left and felt even worse about it than before because I felt a bit like I'd failed to do something and like you say - it just highlighted the issue all over.
 
TL DR: Recommend me a psychologist in JHB?

Long time member. Thought it's best to ask in this thread.

Anyone have a recommendation for a psychologist in Johannesburg? I don't know what type of psychologist would be best. I know some of them specialise in different issues.

The backstory... my GF of 4.5 years has decided she wants to break up. Started last year.... we'd fight about small things. She'd complain I get angry too quickly. I wouldn't get incredibly angry. Not crazy, throwing stuff around, being abusive. Nothing like that... but enough for her to give me an ultimatum... go to a psych or it's over.

Life was busy... A few months went by and I didn't end up going... She was with me the entire time... We'd do things. Life was normal. Went on trips, etc... and now she decides I didn't care enough to go... and thus... we're over.

I guess I'm still in shock. It feels unreal to imagine that a person I was with for 4.5 years could leave so "easily"... Especially over small things... but I guess I don't see it from her point of view.

There's more to the story, but that's the gist.

I just want someone to talk to. One, to fulfil what she wanted originally... maybe I do have anger issues. Maybe I do need to get diagnosed. Two, I'm not depressed or anything... just heartbroken... and worried about being alone. I'm more the type of guy who prefers to be stable and comfortable. I don't really see this as a chance to get girls and **** (which I know is what most guys my age would do). I'm 29, can't really imagine what life will be like after this.
 
psychologistrequired said:
TL DR: Recommend me a psychologist in JHB?

Long time member. Thought it's best to ask in this thread.

Anyone have a recommendation for a psychologist in Johannesburg? I don't know what type of psychologist would be best. I know some of them specialise in different issues.

The backstory... my GF of 4.5 years has decided she wants to break up. Started last year.... we'd fight about small things. She'd complain I get angry too quickly. I wouldn't get incredibly angry. Not crazy, throwing stuff around, being abusive. Nothing like that... but enough for her to give me an ultimatum... go to a psych or it's over.

Life was busy... A few months went by and I didn't end up going... She was with me the entire time... We'd do things. Life was normal. Went on trips, etc... and now she decides I didn't care enough to go... and thus... we're over.

I guess I'm still in shock. It feels unreal to imagine that a person I was with for 4.5 years could leave so "easily"... Especially over small things... but I guess I don't see it from her point of view.

There's more to the story, but that's the gist.

I just want someone to talk to. One, to fulfil what she wanted originally... maybe I do have anger issues. Maybe I do need to get diagnosed. Two, I'm not depressed or anything... just heartbroken... and worried about being alone. I'm more the type of guy who prefers to be stable and comfortable. I don't really see this as a chance to get girls and **** (which I know is what most guys my age would do). I'm 29, can't really imagine what life will be like after this.
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Sorry man. At least you are willing to work on it and things will get better again before kids are involved.
 
Also try Slow Mag capsules and Ashwaghanda to relive some anxiety and muscle tension. It's helping me noticeably.
 
Gaz{M} said:
Also try Slow Mag capsules and Ashwaghanda to relive some anxiety and muscle tension. It's helping me noticeably.
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What do you find the Ashwaghanda does?
Another good one is Lions Mane, which definitely also works in regards to anxiety and brain fog type things.
 
airborne said:
What do you find the Ashwaghanda does?
Another good one is Lions Mane, which definitely also works in regards to anxiety and brain fog type things.
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I implied I had tried it, no, only the Slow Mag. Will do some research and Lions mane.
 
I've been having a really tough year. I started seeing a therapist in January and it's been going okay.
I'm having the worst time at my work. I'm on a project I really forking hate. It's driving me insane. I'd love to quit but we can't do without my salary. I'm so tired :(
 
Akasha said:
I've been having a really tough year. I started seeing a therapist in January and it's been going okay.
I'm having the worst time at my work. I'm on a project I really forking hate. It's driving me insane. I'd love to quit but we can't do without my salary. I'm so tired :(
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Go for interviews and start looking for a new job.
 
Akasha said:
I've been having a really tough year. I started seeing a therapist in January and it's been going okay.
I'm having the worst time at my work. I'm on a project I really forking hate. It's driving me insane. I'd love to quit but we can't do without my salary. I'm so tired :(
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Is the project fixed length?
 
Akasha said:
I've been having a really tough year. I started seeing a therapist in January and it's been going okay.
I'm having the worst time at my work. I'm on a project I really forking hate. It's driving me insane. I'd love to quit but we can't do without my salary. I'm so tired :(
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I'm sorry to hear this. Man I've tried over 7 SSRIs, 2 MAOIs and a tricyclic

Tried opiates, exercise

I see Andrew NoChin Tate said Depression is a Choice

I'd like for him to experience it to know it it's being lazy and it's a physical inability to perform or find please and not just the Blues
 
psychologistrequired said:
TL DR: Recommend me a psychologist in JHB?

Long time member. Thought it's best to ask in this thread.

Anyone have a recommendation for a psychologist in Johannesburg? I don't know what type of psychologist would be best. I know some of them specialise in different issues.

The backstory... my GF of 4.5 years has decided she wants to break up. Started last year.... we'd fight about small things. She'd complain I get angry too quickly. I wouldn't get incredibly angry. Not crazy, throwing stuff around, being abusive. Nothing like that... but enough for her to give me an ultimatum... go to a psych or it's over.

Life was busy... A few months went by and I didn't end up going... She was with me the entire time... We'd do things. Life was normal. Went on trips, etc... and now she decides I didn't care enough to go... and thus... we're over.

I guess I'm still in shock. It feels unreal to imagine that a person I was with for 4.5 years could leave so "easily"... Especially over small things... but I guess I don't see it from her point of view.

There's more to the story, but that's the gist.

I just want someone to talk to. One, to fulfil what she wanted originally... maybe I do have anger issues. Maybe I do need to get diagnosed. Two, I'm not depressed or anything... just heartbroken... and worried about being alone. I'm more the type of guy who prefers to be stable and comfortable. I don't really see this as a chance to get girls and **** (which I know is what most guys my age would do). I'm 29, can't really imagine what life will be like after this.
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I'm 'Glad' it's situational and I am sorry for tour circumstances. Can't imagine how that feels but since it's due to a specific event and not chemical, I'm hoping therapy helps

It's so difficult finding the right therapist though, that's why I much prefer going on recommendations except the last person recommended didn't bother replying to basic questions in her 15min free email consult.
 
I spoke to a lady recently, she'd been suffering for almost 15 years and nothing has worked.
She recently started with ect therapy and said it has changed her life.
 
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