Dilemma

Senor said:
So I find myself in a position that I just ca not decide what to do. I welcome any and all comments, opinions, criticism, whatever.

I'm divorced and have been single for the last 5 years. Divorced for 11 years though.

A friend of mine that I used to be quite close to years back, in that we would go out together etc, even when he met his wife, I was there and spent time with them as well.

Fast forward 15 years, the friend, whom I now rarely see or visit is quite ill, and in and out of hospital etc. His wife though has remained in contact with me almost throughout. Never forgetting birthdays and stuff.

There was this one time a few years back when she visited me at home, unexpectedly , and we ended up having wine and just kissing and touching etc.. Nothing more, clothes never came off. Never did that again or even met alone since, but remained in contact.

Now, she's totally wants to hook up, but I feel guilty about pursuing this. There's kids and a terminally ill husband involved. She's also under pressure trying to keep everything together at home.

Would I be helping her and everyone by just comforting/destressing her, or is this something that I should just stay away from. It does feel wrong to me....let that much be clear.

But damn I'm tempted...so very much.
She's like quite hot as well... Slim, tall, terrific personality...
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The answer is simple. If the tables were turned, how would you feel if you ever found out that your wife was fooling around while you were seriously ill?

Keep your distance from your so-called friend's wife. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea.
 
MagNorthDigital said:
You're gonna walk up to a guy that's busy dying, and tune him, Kykie 5 years, you don't look so lekker ne? Lament about the good times, and the bad times, how he got knocked down... and didn't get up again...

And then the punchline

Jaaa, Life is a bit of a bitch ne. Oh btw I'm taking yours off your hands, no not your life, just yo lady.

With friends like these...
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Some okes will go quite far to get out of paying divorce settlements. You never know he might have been faking for 5 years hoping she cheats and he can get out with minimal costs.
 
“In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have,and the decisions we waited too long to make.” ~ the internet

Also, never take advice from the internet.
 
Neptuner said:
If the OP doesn't know it right after he cums he’s going to to feel like rubbish. It doesn't matter how good she looks you’ll still feel the same.
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At that point in time yes but when he looks back at his life he be like "i banged a supermodel hell yeahz"
 
SHL said:
The answer is simple. If the tables were turned, how would you feel if you ever found out that your wife was fooling around while you were seriously ill?

Keep your distance from your so-called friend's wife. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea.
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The only problem with that is all the other fish have the philosophy that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and a whole lot of fish are already in nets, with other fish or don't like old-ass men wanting to date them. Fish aren't as easy to come by as people thing.

There is only one you in the world, why should somebody pass up on that opportunity?

It's like that magical line that people cross between legal and not-legal, single and not-single, ready and not-ready. Just live your one life without regrets, nobody gets out alive.
 
Cheer said:
The only problem with that is all the other fish have the philosophy that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and a whole lot of fish are already in nets, with other fish or don't like old-ass men wanting to date them. Fish aren't as easy to come by as people thing.

There is only one you in the world, why should somebody pass up on that opportunity?

It's like that magical line that people cross between legal and not-legal, single and not-single, ready and not-ready. Just live your one life without regrets, nobody gets out alive.
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Under the current situation, OP should refrain. If circumstances change - death, divorce etc then OP can do what he wants.
 
Just use condoms. That is all I am saying. Make sure they are not defective. Have a nice day.
 
OP it's never wise to tap a married woman, no matter who is married to her.
You have been careless and allowed intimacy to build up between the two of you, which is clouding your judgement. If you want what's best for everyone, you will make a decision not to see her at all, and stick to it. You can offer her assistance and support, but you need to set some boundaries going forward, and let her know about them. Avoid spending time with her alone, not even a car trip to the shops.

If you make a move towards more intimacy, then it won't end well.

If you really want to profit from her husband's death, rather take out a policy on his life.
 
Bump the hubby off. Take his cows and fusk the wife silly then run away and burn a mall down.
 
RonSwanson said:
OP it's never wise to tap a married woman, no matter who is married to her.
You have been careless and allowed intimacy to build up between the two of you, which is clouding your judgement. If you want what's best for everyone, you will make a decision not to see her at all, and stick to it. You can offer her assistance and support, but you need to set some boundaries going forward, and let her know about them. Avoid spending time with her alone, not even a car trip to the shops.

If you make a move towards more intimacy, then it won't end well.

If you really want to profit from her husband's death, rather take out a policy on his life.
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I was reading your comment silently in my mind, some how my mind read it with Ron Swanson's voice.
 
Senor said:
So I find myself in a position that I just ca not decide what to do. I welcome any and all comments, opinions, criticism, whatever.

I'm divorced and have been single for the last 5 years. Divorced for 11 years though.

A friend of mine that I used to be quite close to years back, in that we would go out together etc, even when he met his wife, I was there and spent time with them as well.

Fast forward 15 years, the friend, whom I now rarely see or visit is quite ill, and in and out of hospital etc. His wife though has remained in contact with me almost throughout. Never forgetting birthdays and stuff.

There was this one time a few years back when she visited me at home, unexpectedly , and we ended up having wine and just kissing and touching etc.. Nothing more, clothes never came off. Never did that again or even met alone since, but remained in contact.

Now, she's totally wants to hook up, but I feel guilty about pursuing this. There's kids and a terminally ill husband involved. She's also under pressure trying to keep everything together at home.

Would I be helping her and everyone by just comforting/destressing her, or is this something that I should just stay away from. It does feel wrong to me....let that much be clear.

But damn I'm tempted...so very much.
She's like quite hot as well... Slim, tall, terrific personality...
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You are not asking for advice because you already know the answer, but you just don’t want to accept it. There are millions of other women out there. As has been mentioned earlier, how would you have felt if the tables were turned?

Have some integrity please. The world is already lacking in it.
 
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