Dilemma

Her body. Her choice

If her husband and MyBB's misogynists have an issue with it they need to emerge from their caves
 
Senor said:
So I find myself in a position that I just ca not decide what to do. I welcome any and all comments, opinions, criticism, whatever.

I'm divorced and have been single for the last 5 years. Divorced for 11 years though.

A friend of mine that I used to be quite close to years back, in that we would go out together etc, even when he met his wife, I was there and spent time with them as well.

Fast forward 15 years, the friend, whom I now rarely see or visit is quite ill, and in and out of hospital etc. His wife though has remained in contact with me almost throughout. Never forgetting birthdays and stuff.

There was this one time a few years back when she visited me at home, unexpectedly , and we ended up having wine and just kissing and touching etc.. Nothing more, clothes never came off. Never did that again or even met alone since, but remained in contact.

Now, she's totally wants to hook up, but I feel guilty about pursuing this. There's kids and a terminally ill husband involved. She's also under pressure trying to keep everything together at home.

Would I be helping her and everyone by just comforting/destressing her, or is this something that I should just stay away from. It does feel wrong to me....let that much be clear.

But damn I'm tempted...so very much.
She's like quite hot as well... Slim, tall, terrific personality...
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This is a lot to ingest, regardless here is my opinion.

TLDR: No, its not a good idea, do not delude yourself into believing you are doing it to comfort her. It's lust.

A few things you need to consider:
  • A lot of different emotions are being experienced right now, fear, anxiety sadness, excitement etc coupled with stress and everyday life.
  • There are also kids involved, things always get messy when kids are involved. Are you prepared to take on that responsibility or cause additional stress?
  • Is she acting on impulse and if so why now? Why is it only happening when her husband is on his deathbed? Has she already written him off or are you just insurance to secure a stable future.
  • She may be completely aware of what she's doing and just manipulating you because she knows you wanted her in the past and most likely still do especially if you guys have been conversing back and forth, even more so if the conversations were saucy and your friend was unaware of it.
If I were in your shoes I would tread lightly, the last thing you want is your dying friend's last memory of you to be a bitter one, its a pretty **** way to go and will drive you mad.
 
Craig_ said:
That's somewhat disturbing, that woman owes her nothing, she must urge Rassie to fire her husband as he's the one that did her wrong.
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Ya, its inappropriate to say that to the woman's employer. I will say that its inappropriate for both of them to engage in an affair at work so I think they must answer to that.
Especially a physio - who's job it is to physically touch her co-workers so it is an extra ethical breach for her to have a relationship with him.
 
R13... said:
Who suggests she's owned. All I see is people suggested a married person not cheat and I think it's regardless of gender.
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The very nature of marriage suggests ownership

And you won't find argument from me with His Body, His choice. Equality uber alles!
 
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