Divorce, advice needed.

SkippyRamirez

SkippyRamirez

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So, I'm getting a divorce soon. Wife doesn't know it yet though. Not going into the reasons or details, no point.

We obviously live together, and the house is in both our names. I pay the bond every month, so for me to move out until the house is sold, is not financially possible. So I assume the period until we sell the house and we can go our separate ways, is going to be rough.

Now, should I go to a lawyer for this, or can I use that site idivorce.co.za or something like that? I read that if the divorce is agreed on by both parties and there are no disputes, then we can download the paperwork from that site, complete it, and then have a lawyer finalise it. Apparently, if done that way, it can be finalised in less than 2 months.

I don't foresee there being any disputes as we don't have children, and we really don't like each other.

Anybody here went a similar route with their divorce? Any advise?
 
Sorry to hear bud. Can't give any local legal advice but hope you get it sorted with as little strife as possible.
 
Get talking to a lawyer, not strangers on a site. Make SURE she wants the divorce though, it gets really complicated really fast if you start off without her knowing and she decides to be difficult.
 
SkippyRamirez said:
So, I'm getting a divorce soon. Wife doesn't know it yet though. Not going into the reasons or details, no point.

We obviously live together, and the house is in both our names. I pay the bond every month, so for me to move out until the house is sold, is not financially possible. So I assume the period until we sell the house and we can go our separate ways, is going to be rough.

Now, should I go to a lawyer for this, or can I use that site idivorce.co.za or something like that? I read that if the divorce is agreed on by both parties and there are no disputes, then we can download the paperwork from that site, complete it, and then have a lawyer finalise it. Apparently, if done that way, it can be finalised in less than 2 months.

I don't foresee there being any disputes as we don't have children, and we really don't like each other.

Anybody here went a similar route with their divorce? Any advise?
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Unless you have reason to believe she's going to be cool with it, go see a lawyer.
 
In a divorce there are no "winners" and you'll end up financially worse off.

I suggest you approach a lawyer instead because thing always seem to look good but will catch you on the back-foot when she lawyers up and you will lose more than you should've.

Also remember to go for the jugular and don't give in as this will protect your assets and share or you'll lose.

Yes a lawyer will be extra costs depending on the "fight" but in the long run it'll be done properly and you'll be in a better position afterwards.

There are man things to consider such as the type of marriage contract, dependency of spouse, assets bought during marriage etc etc and I don't think a website will suffice.

Lastly yes if it's not working get out and start again and the sooner the better even if there are siblings is the rule I stand by.

Enjoy...........
 
Damn. Ok, thanks for the input guys. So, what would be better to do first? Talk to her about getting a divorce, or go see a laywer to see what the options are?

Thing is, it is almost impossible to have a real conversation with her, without her getting defensive and angry and turning it into a fight.
 
SkippyRamirez said:
I don't foresee there being any disputes as we don't have children, and we really don't like each other.
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:wtf:

I know this is off topic and too much detail. But I really want to know how it got to this point

As for the divorce itself I have not advice, goodluck man.
 
Best I can do is: it's advice, not advise. In the title and last sentence of OP.

:D
 
SkippyRamirez said:
Damn. Ok, thanks for the input guys. So, what would be better to do first? Talk to her about getting a divorce, or go see a laywer to see what the options are?

Thing is, it is almost impossible to have a real conversation with her, without her getting defensive and angry and turning it into a fight.
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I would suggest that you go to the lawyer first before talking to her.
This way, you can better prepare yourself and only then, you talk to her.
 
as other's have said lawyer up.

speak to a lawyer first to find out the proceedings and stuff, start the paperwork. then speak to her. I have been down this road and should have lawyered up first.

off topic - now we know why you are so grumpy :)
 
SkippyRamirez said:
Damn. Ok, thanks for the input guys. So, what would be better to do first? Talk to her about getting a divorce, or go see a laywer to see what the options are?

Thing is, it is almost impossible to have a real conversation with her, without her getting defensive and angry and turning it into a fight.
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Lawyer up and only after the lawyer says tell her then tell her.
 
Has she mentioned divorce before? If she has, then you have every right to issue her with divorce papers. Lawyer is best.

From what I've seen amongst my friends, there's never such a thing as a fair divorce. Someone always gets shafted.
 
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